In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
skylar
Time to take them to court, Liz.
The amount of money it may cost will be made up by what you can earn. They’ve taken away your ability to earn a living, this is already costing you money. Spaths never stop abusing until you stop them.
Just like the Spath-TSA says: we’ll keep going until we meet resistance.
ElizabethBennett
Sky-I have been trying to get an attorney to take my case but no one is taking me seriously. My girl is calling two attorneys that she knows in the morning. One is a professor at Loyola Law School here in town. She is going to find out what my options are for me and see if her people can help or if they know some that can. We need to stop them.
Shalom
Hens:
Your adorable namesake and I celebrated a year together, yesterday. Someone dumped him on a neighbor’s step. I was coming around the corner as my neighbor was telling others about his sad circumstances. Somehow he wound up in my arms and I was told he was mine. Henry was the tiniest little lumkin ever. We kissed before even being introduced. Now, this is true love at first sight. He is pure joy. If Donna and you are ok with it, I will send her his photo to send to you.
MoonDancer
Shalom – I would like that very much. I have three doggie’s to kiss and cuddle with, I would be lost with out them. It really makes me smile REAL BIG that you named him after me..:)
ElizabethBennett
I am so sick of these freakin spaths beating me down all the time and ruining everything for me. This really sucks and I really want revenge in the worst way, and I am not at all a vengeful person!!!
MoonDancer
The only way to get revenge is to live a good life Lizzy.. I am crossin my toe
s that things turn around for ya, hang in there..
ElizabethBennett
Hens-thanks. I am just so upset right now I can’t stand it. The hospital there wants me so bad. I had just given the recruiter my verbal committment on the contract, which precedes the written committment and she was emailing the hospital to tell them I accepted when she got a phone call from the background check person in the company saying that my references were too old and that they have to have something from 2010 and now I am probably going to lose this job. I want to find someone to help me sue their asses off for making me lose every single job I apply for. I worked hard for this stupid career and they’ve taken the whole thing away from me. They made me unemployable and I’m losing everything!
super chic
Liz, I really hope you get this job!!!!
You are going to come out the winner!
ElizabethBennett
Thanks Chic-I can’t wait til all these spaths take a dirt nap!
Back_from_the_edge
‘dirt nap’… 🙂
The more I learn and educated myself.
The more I sift through all those memories of it, the past almost 9 years, the more pissed`eder I am becoming but never to worry: I refuse to allow my ever increasing EXTREME HATRED for “IT” to overtake my life. Instead, I burn candles and say prayers. 🙂
hahahahaha what is wrong with me?
It’s a good thing “IT” is no where around me because I think if we were like a ‘normal’ couple, living together, etc., I PROBABLY WOULD HAVE DONE SOMETHING MEAN TO IT A LONG TIME AGO!
That is precisely why I said ‘no’ to the offer of marriage after divorce; why I said ‘no’ to ‘let’s move in together’…that and the fact that I DONT DO HITTING! The OW can have it, like I told her: “Have after it because IT is going to do the same thing to YOU sooner or later…have after it.”
I do not and have not bothered NOBODY yet this roadshow has barged it’s way into my life without regard, nor social conscious at all. Like the INCUBUS it truly is.
Garbage under my feet; not even worth wiping my butt with.
Truly. Joke’s on “IT”. It is over.
Good Morning LoveFrauders!
Time for another decaf and out the door for errands!
DUPEDSTER