In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star – i never did meet ‘him’ in the flesh, so to speak (especially as he wasn’t a he but a sad sack career con woman); but girl, there are LOTS of ways to have a sexual relationship that don’t require body on body. ‘nough said. 😉
Stargazer
Yes, I seem to recall that from past relationships, one joy. 🙂 And now there is skype, which would, of course require the person being the actual gender they told you they were. ha ha
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Star -not if your computer is so old that it doesn’t have a web cam!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star- well, it’s just so hard when all the trips to meet get cancelled because someone is busy dying.
Ox Drover
Star, you can come to my house and give ME a massage! Turn south off the highway onto the gravel road, go about a half mile, turn left again at the first place you can turn left….then go directly ahead until you see my house back in the woods. I have my own professional massage table so you don’t have to bring yours.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Star – you made me laugh in two posts! 🙂
and oxy’s ass isn’t in the midwest….lean to your right.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
arkansas.
i wouldn’t give him another day star. he’s already over the limit…and more than anything it sounds like you dodged a self inflicted wound!
Ox Drover
One, I totally agree with your comment to Star!
Star, ASK yourself why you need to call him to “get closure”—-why can’t you allow him NOT CALLING to BE CLOSURE?
skylar
Excellent position, Oxy. No calling the dude for closure.
He will have an excuse, no doubt. But rudeness is inexcusable. Even from the hospital, you can make a phone call. This is the guy you saw on the other dating site, right?
He was keeping his options open. That’s OK, to do that since you were dating others, but he was doing it on the low down. If he was 25, that would be understandable, put anyone over age 40 should be more forthcoming about his position. This smacks of the need to manipulate, as if he is operating from a postion of weakness. That position is reserved for infants.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
peace out all – really late, but i was waiting for the tamp to go down before i tried to go to sleep.