In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
Hope to heal
Lizzy ~ I’m sending good thoughts your way. Do let us know how it goes, as Hens says “you need to do this”.
h2h
ElizabethBennett
Thanks H2H-I will let everyone know no matter how it goes just because once it comes out, the giant elephant won’t be sitting on my chest anymore.
ElizabethBennett
Hens-She got home earlier than I had planned. I gave her the flowers and the card and she loved them. I got a huge hug for that. Then she said she had a whole evening of work to do that she didn’t get finished cuz the computers were down at the office. It looks like I am not going to be able to tell her in person. If she’s stressed about getting things done then, she won’t be in the right mood to hear it. I think I am going to write her a letter and stick it under her door-please tell me what you think about that!! I NEED HELP!!
MoonDancer
Yes Do that…..what do you have to lose? What do you have to gain? Ya have to find out soon so you can deal with the results good or bad..it’s time…write that letter.
Louise
Star:
Sorry, I missed all that was going on. I am out of town and have limited access.
I hope you come back here. I love you.
Louise
Star:
Sorry, I missed all that was going on. I am out of town and have limited access.
I hope you come back here. I love you.
Hope to heal
Yes, Lizzy ~ write it. You will feel better. God bless!!
MoonDancer
HI LOUISE Did you eat a dunkin donut for me? 🙂
Louise
Hens:
Hahaha! Nope, I didn’t, but I ate one for me…blueberry cake.
Now I’m at McDonald’s using their wifi…making my rounds!!
Good to see you here. I hate having limited access…I miss too much that’s going on!
skylar
Lizzy,
I don’t think you should write it. It has to be face to face. Then you can see what she is thinking.
Plus, I don’t like the idea of her having your heart-felt words in writing. I know you love her but you have seen that she has 2 sides. If she decides, one day, to get angry with you… well, discretion is so important.
Try to separate your feelings from your decisions. I know it’s hard.