In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
MoonDancer
oh my
Hope to heal
Yeah, face to face would be better, but with that not being an option…. better to get it out there asap. jmho
ElizabethBennett
Hens-I don’t know what to do now. Sky has me all scared. What if she has a really bad reaction and then she has it all down on paper where I can’t deny writing it. YA’LL HELP-all I know is that it HAS to come out, as soon as possible because I can’t stand the weight of this massive elephant on my chest-it hurts really bad. It is time now for it to come out whether she reacts good or bad. I need the stress of it off me because if it goes badly, at least I can leave, grieve, and I’ll have lots to do there to help me get over it-plus then I will be better off to try and date someone else later on. I also think that getting the guts to do it will help me to be less shy when it comes to dating.
MoonDancer
Wait untill the very next time you are face to face with her and just say it, dont hesitate….
skylar
Go next door right now and tell her. Otherwise you will always have an excuse why you can’t right now.
Say, ” I know you’re busy so I’ll only take a moment of your time. I just want you to know that the reason I gave you those flowers is because I’m in love with you.”
ElizabethBennett
I was thinking of sending her an email and telling her that I had something that I needed to say to her but I need to tell her in person. If I go after there spur of the moment and tell her and she’s stressed out it could go worse than I expected.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
STAR SWEETIE:
I SO DON”T FEEL THIS WAY – YOU AND I WERE JOKING AROUND!XOXOXOX
shalom said: ‘One_Joy’s experience it one of the most vicious ’mind fs’ I have ever read …. Anyone who has read her story would know this was an invalidation of her horrible experience. A kick in the knees. ‘
one/joy_step_at_a_time
SHALOM: DON’T WORRY.
STAR AND I WERE FOOLING AROUND – WE HAVE KNOWN EACH ON THE BLOG FOR A LONG TIME – IT WAS FUNNY TO ME, NOT AN INVALIDATION AT ALL 🙂
Thanks for caring.
skylar
Liz
Has it ever occured to you that she suspects already?
ElizabethBennett
Sky-you think that she does? I don’t know about that. I am just struggling because I feel like I need to say it.