By | November 18, 2014 1 Comments

An abused woman’s negotiation with herself

never hit meWriting in the first person, Reut Amit describes a dialog that many abused women know: As long as her partner wasn’t hitting her, she could put up with his lies, his cheating, his verbal and psychological abuse, and her isolation.

“I set a benchmark. The red line I wouldn’t cross. The minute he hit me, I would leave,” Amit writes on Huffington Post.

With the help of other abused women, she did not wait until the arbitrary red line was crossed to get out of the relationship.

He Never Hit Me, from

Link supplied by MaryAnn Glynn.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for the National Domestic Violence Hotline or visit the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline operated by RAINN. For more resources, visit the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s website.


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Yes, that always bothered me too that ANYone with a ounce of feelings would see what a crumb of a person the abuser is. Someone with rage won’t be able to hide it very well generally.
The spath’s own very devoted friends would tell me, you would not believe the things he says about you, he’s just with you for your money, why in HELL did you buy him a CAR??, yeah, he’s had that gf (we were married) for x number of months…
WHY THE F were they friends with him? sickos themselves. not one person “unfriended” him, before or after i was discarded.
I have nothing to do with ppl who even hang out in way with abusers. I have no interest in them to begin with lol but if I dont find out for awhile and then when I call them out on it, they dont see the problem…I am gone from that friend.
abuse is not a relationship problem, its not the abused’s problem, its a societal problem. until society does not tolerate it, it will go on.

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