Christine Belford was shot dead in a Delaware courthouse by her former father-in-law, Thomas Matusiewicz. David Matusiewicz, Belford’s ex-husband and father of their three children, had previously had his parental rights terminated after kidnapping the children and taking them to Nicaragua.
Documents hint at wider conspiracy in Delaware courthouse shooting, on Philly.com.
I’ve read about this case in another newspaper and it all boils down to the fact that people just don’t “get it” about psychopaths, and obviously Ms Belford’s X husband and his parents all qualified.
Just like I knew and accepted that my Psychopathic son Patrick was a thief, it NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS dawned on me he would be a KILLER…boy, was I everr wrong in underestimating what he iis capable of.
Ms. Belford knew her husband and his mother and father were kidnappers, but it never dawned on her that they would go so far as to kill her and one of themselves. She underestimated the lengths that some psychopaths will go to “win”
J. Reid Meloy, PhD, one of the “experts” (I use that in quotes for several reasons I won’t go into here) published a book on how to assess for risk. The book is aimed at mental health and police professionals. The problem is though, even if WE get it how dangerous someone is, the system doesn’t always agree with us.
An order for a psychopath to stay 1,000 feet away from someone is a worthless piece of paper when they are willing to die in order to kill the victim. (Yes, I know the grandmother was the one with the order, but I’m just making a point about how worthless court orders are with people like this) These people had already shown that they were willing to break the law and go to great trouble to do so.
It is always difficult to predict the behavior of people, but the BEST guess is that past behavior predicts future behavior, and this woman lost her life because she thought she could go to court and get child support from someone who was willing to flaunt the law to the extent he had in the past. Just like I never thought that Patrick could kill until it happened, it just wasn’t me that time. God bless those orphan children and rest their mother’s soul.
I also saw this on the news……and, I cannot describe how horrified I was when I saw it.
So, the father of the children in question will never, EVER have access to those human beings, again. The grandmother has been ordered to stay away from them. The grandfather shot and killed the mother and her friend, and THEN shot himself.
Okay…….now, where does this leave the innocent children?
OxD, you are 100% spot-the-HELL-on: no money is worth risking one’s life, or the lives of innocent children when it is crystal clear that the defendant’s own actions have flown in the face of the Law.
This is a vital lesson to learn, I believe. Sometimes, it’s just better to walk (or, RUN) away and let the matter of money drop by the wayside.
Those poor, poor kids – I cannot imagine what they will have to process in the wake of this horrifically disordered cesspool.
Hi everyone 🙂 just wanted to share this scene from lord of the rings with everyone. I think it serves as a great metaphor for our own dealings with sociopaths ( wherever they may rear their ugly demonic heads )
http://youtube.com/watch?v=V4UfAL9f74I
Peace 🙂
Nancies, sorry I can’t view the video (limited gigs of internet connection)
Truthy, it isn’t ONLY about money it is about trying to get the P to obey the rules, the laws. After Patrick got out of prison the first time, he was on parole, and not only the parole but federal law prohibits any felon or former felon from having, possessing or using a fire arm. It is also against the law for anyone else to buy one and give or sell it to someone they KNOW is a felon…so what did Patrick do? Of course he stole or bought A GUN! According to my step son’s widow, he openly bragged about the gun and the police report has witnesses saying he continually “played with it, jacking rounds in and out of the chamber.”
Of course I had no idea he was doing all these things but I SHOULD HAVE FIGURED he would no obey the parole conditions or that he would actually be DANGEROUS to someone’s life.
The one time he came home to visit me after he got out of prison the first time, he told me “The reason I didn’t come back home after got out of prison is I knew if I got in to trouble you would turn me in to the cops” and I said “well,, you got that right”
He knew my husband’s niece where he was living would NOT turn him in. Of course she got a SWAT team descend on her house for her trouble. He had never observed or done what any other probation or parole had required.
Yet when he killed Jessica I should NOT have been surprised, yet I was, just like this woman didn’t believe her husband or his family would resort to murder because she could not conceive of such a thing because SHE would have obeyed the law, she thought that now that her x husband and her MIL had gone to prison, they wouldn’t do anything that would send them back.
So she pushed for child support because it is RIGHT that a man should pay support for his children, even if he is not allowed to see them, she pushed in the courts for what was RIGHT. But her X and his parents had already shown that they cared not a fig for what was RIGHT by kidnapping the kids like they had. They upped the ante in the only possible way they could, by killing the mother of the girls.
It just breaks my heart that this woman died because she could not predict what that trio of psychopaths would do. She tried to do what was right in a legal way, and paid for her trying to do right with her life.
I almost did the same thing when the Trojan Horse was here and I went to court and the judge did throw him out of my egg donor’s house….and she agreed to keep him out….but then let him back in, and that woke me up and I realized I had to RUN and hide. I didn’t want to run, to leave my home, leave my animals (except my dogs) but I realized finally that my life was in danger. This woman didn’t realize her life was in danger. She tried to do what was RIGHT and it cost her her life.
WE MUST NEVER UNDER ESTIMATE THE PSYCHOPATHS
My mother, brother and his nurse were all murdered by a hit man hired by my psychopath father in 1993. This case sounds very similar to my family’s story because never in a million years did my mother think my dad would go to the lengths he did, even though she suspected he could hurt her or my brother for money. He even kidnapped me years before when I was 11, and hid me at a family friend’s house because my parents fought over child support. My mom took him to court to get me back. Only after they were dead did all the pieces fall into place and I knew it was him immediately. He had been planning it for a year. I even testified at their trials. He’s been in jail LWOP for 19 years and I’m still constantly reading and learning about psychopaths.
It’s very true that they believe they must WIN at all costs. How dare my mother take him to court and ask for child support? How dare she hold him accountable for supporting his 3 children? How dare she think she was as smart as him?
My heart breaks for those daughters because now they are orphans. My mother’s murder destroyed my family and orphaned my sister and I. My dad’s mother was also accused of being complicit in their murders. She hated my mom for not allowing her control over our lives and I do believe she plotted with her son to have her murdered. I’m still not sure whether she knew he was going to have his own son killed, but possibly. She died right after his trial of brain cancer. I just started communicating with my dad’s family again last year. The trauma my sister and I have suffered is immeasurable.
Imtmr74, holy moley – I’m sorry to read of your horrific experiences and welcome to LoveFraud. I’m so sorry for the loss of your family members – I cannot imagine that kind of loss, seriously.
Yes, they are arrogant and ruthless, taking no prisoners. I’m glad that he’s in prison for his heinous crimes.
Brightest blessings
THANK YOU. I’ve actually been on LF for a few years but mostly lurking. I cannot even begin to express how coming to this community has helped me get through some really hard times. I feel like I practically know all of the regular posters in real life because I get on here so much! The support you all give to each other is heartwarming and actually has brought tears to my eyes, especially in Cappucino Queen’s case. As a survivor, I rarely feel like anyone understands the horrific trauma we’ve endured. But I get on this blog and feel like I’m among people who GET IT.
Imtmr74, I’m so glad that you’ve been lurking and VERY grateful that you’re reaching out and posting. I learn something from EACH reader that posts, and I appreciate your candor with regard to your horrific experiences.
Yeah….trying to talk about experiences to friends and family usually results in disappointment. They really do NOT “get it,” and some of them actually don’t WANT to!
Brightest blessings
IMTR74, I can only imagine the horror you have survived. As I have been protesting murdering son’s parole I have come into contact with Parents of Murdered Children organization which now is not just for parents, but for any survivor of murder and it breaks my heart to know the stories.
In your case, your own family member was the murderer, and my son tried to have me killed…how dare I disinherit him!
Even after I knew he was capable of murder, I never dreamed he would try to murder ME!!!
It is so impossible for us to FATHOM the lengths they will go to WIN. Because we wouldn’t imagine it, we can’t imagine that they could.
Hi Ox Drover, thank you for your support. I’ve followed your story, as well. I’m so sorry that you have to fight against your own son getting paroled because you know he will come after you if he gets released. My father is old and sick now but I still am very wary of him knowing too much about me, even though I know he will die in jail. We just never know what they will do. I feel your pain. That’s why I have to put so much faith and trust in Jesus to protect me. Otherwise, I wouldn’t make it through each day without being afraid. But I am very cautious and vet people in my life carefully. I rarely ever have people visit my home or know where I live. That’s the PTSD.
I actually do want to get involved in PMC. I think there is a local chapter in the area I live in. I will look into it. Thanks for reminding me!
Blessings to you and your hard work to educate us on this site. You are an inspiration to so many people.