Researchers at Yale University developed studies to answer the question: Do babies have a sense of right and wrong? What they came up with may surprise you.
Read The moral life of babies, on NYTimes.com. Be sure to watch the video.
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Well Done Dancing.
Well Done.
Well it is 4 am at my place now, and I am VERY energetic after having eaten for dinner stupidly half a can of double espresso double ice cream. No pity though please, I should have known it! And I did slob around in my wonderflat as it is constantly raining, and meditated how to hang my artcollection ;-), and did not move a bit today.
I just wanted to warn you NOT to be too friendly with your snake-boss! She might have a sentimental moment NOW, but she wants to lure you in to hit on your soft spot when you let your guard down!!!!
SHE IS YOUR ENEMY!!!! PERIOD!!!!
It is just a temporary cease fire, not the end of the war. And maybe she will find out eventually that you have made her do as you wanted, and that will make her more dangerous!
I have been there too, also with a snake nurse divorced when children were small, lonely, in her 60, lots of work (she could not delegate a bit, was controlling to the max!), on the pity play tour every once in a while as she could not sexually seduce the doctors anymore and lost her power proportional to the appearance of angry wrinkles around her mouth.
My nurse was of a false sweetness as saccharine with me after she had made a fool of herself because she wanted to have power over my right to go to a specific restroom! I was always correct with her, but I always kept in mind that she is a snake and she knew that I knew!
Keep on with your performance. We are just in the first act of a LONG play!! (and you have your divorce too!!) You are doing terrifically!!! And keep the fun floating! It will help you in other undertakings as well (to be the undertaker of your marriage!)
(((hugs)))
PS: No coffee for me today!!
DANCING -TOWANDA GRRRRL!!!!!!
Dancing….
Okay….hugs…..TOO MUCH!
keep the balance.
AND DON”T INVITE HER OVER FOR YOUR WINE CELEBRATION…..too much, too much!
🙂
Jazzy129,
Hi! My 20 year old son has Aspergers; he doesn’t chat on the Internet or socialized much in-person.
I think it was great the way you stepped up and told that mom what to do for her child with respect to SSI.
Nice to meet you!
Silver,
Thank you for the “well done” comment. I read Carnegie’s book and thank you very much for telling me about it. (Gather bees with honey.)
After I got what I wanted, the bi-ya-tch told me she’ll take away the AP class from me and give it to another teacher that’s been wanting to teach it.
I didn’t know what to say. I came to her with one question, so this was a blind side.
Then my colleague came to tell me that boss is pitting us gainst each other bec. colleague said she’d want to teach it if there are TWO classes not take it away from me.
BTW I’ve taught the course for 7 yrs, kids like it, parents like it, kids score great, I get a letter from asst superintendent each year “good job,” have been a reader for college board, taught for this grant based program outside of school, and am writing a grant to help our dept. grow the program and expand kids’ enrollement.
I am not a good negotiator. I have my point of view bec. I want to teach the class. I don’t want to be petty myself and worry my pretty head about her being vindictive and winning by calling the shots this way. I am just thinking, step out of the way, let her do what she wants and say nothing. Let her live with her decision.
It is hard not to get mad though when things don’t add up rationally.
Libelle,
Thanks for sharing the story about your snake in nurse’s clothing. I agree with you–beware the serpent’s tooth.
I don’t have the energy nor the desire to get sucked in her ploys and games. With her taking away my AP course, I just don’t want to grovel.
WOnder if I can tell my principal how much I love teachign the AP course, without saying that she wants to take it away. And not in writing, but go to him in person to thank him for his help with the grant, how excited I am if we get the money. And just tell him how much I’ve done and why I live for this class. Period.
Before kids leave, I could potentially persuade a few more to take AP so we can make two classes, but that involves my talking with boss. Somehow I feel I don’t want to be like a puppet reacting to her every (stupid and aggressive) move.
I wish it weren’t a war. That’s why I am thinking of just doing my thing without engaging in any drama in any way.
OneStep,
It was DAMN HARD! Thank you.
It ain’t over till the fat lady sings, though.
I just need to keep the paycheck coming.
ErinB,
Yeah, I figured telling her about my difficult childhood, and how I love to sleep with my teddy bear, or making up a secret hand shake with her, might be a little much.
LOL 🙂
Dear Danciing,
I am so sorry you are experincing this kind of carp and drama-rama from your boss. It is so unnecessary to keep this kind of carp going but they must have some DRAMA in their lives at the expense of others!
I used to think that hospitals were worse at this than other places to work, but I think it is EVERYWHERE!
Hang in there as long as you can, but keep in mind sometimes it is better to move on to another job if one gets too awful at the one you are at dealing with a psychopath, even if it does cost you some money. I’ve left jobs I totally loved because there was some psychopath in a position of power, and I always grieved about doing it–either for the loss of the job itself, or loss of money, etc. but in the end, it seemed afterwards, that I ended up in a better spot than I had been before so it TURNED OUT FOR MY BENEFIT in the end!
Sometimes you can “brown nose them” and get them off your case (I’ve also done that!!! and it worked okay, other times I’ve tried to do that and it didn’t work at all!) and stay at the job without too much stress. It’s worth a try at least! If not, you haven’t lost anything for trying.
Keep your chin up!!! ((((hugs))))
Dear Dancing,
you wrote: “WOnder if I can tell my principal how much I love teachign the AP course, without saying that she wants to take it away. And not in writing, but go to him in person to thank him for his help with the grant, how excited I am if we get the money. And just tell him how much I’ve done and why I live for this class. Period.”
Course you can! YES, YOU CAN! You do not know anything from your colleague besides rumors. And to quote dear Matt: “to fight a spath you have to become a spath”, i.e. use the same weapons , or better: let out the healthy narcissist in yourself well burried under the FearObligationGuilt!
You may also tell your superior chef that your N-boss is very positive about it and that she is very helpful and that she is also interested in expanding the field. 😉 DO NOT MENTION THE COMMENT BY THE OTHER COLLEAGUE!!! HARD FACTS; FIGURES; NO RUMORS! Tell him about the good feedback, and the high marks your pupils get! And THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FORWARD TO CONTINUING THE WORK YOU ALREADY HAVE PROVEN TO BE THE PERFECT PERSON FOR THE JOB. Show confidence and pride, (any man would do it this way, why should we women always finish second winner??!!!); as you are ENTITELD to feel this way! ((((Hugs))))