Researchers at Yale University developed studies to answer the question: Do babies have a sense of right and wrong? What they came up with may surprise you.
Read The moral life of babies, on NYTimes.com. Be sure to watch the video.
Link submitted by a Lovefraud reader.
jazzy129
There was a lovely woman who came into my job today. my boss and his partner were late, and didn’t bother to tell me. I was alone, and i did the best i could. It turned out this lovely lady’s 19 year old daughter had Aspergers and had been turned down for SSI. I could not help but open up to her a little at first. She realized I had Asperger’s. and i told her that her daughter’s psychiatrist needed to ‘man up’ and get SSI for her. She saw…as a MOM…me.
At 52, it’s still tough to tell people you need people. I may say stuff that hits you the wrong way, but I don’t mean anything by it.
I was horribly used by a sociopath. and I need somewhere to go.
jazzy129
Whatever. I’ll check in tomorrow and see if I’m worth talking to. Being ignored is nothing new for me.
jazzy129
And..no…I’m not a narcissist.
super chic
@ jazzy129, hey there, I don’t post every day either.
Glad you spoke up for the 19 year old girl,
sounds like you are exactly right!
jazzy129
Hi, shabby. Thanks…her Mom was really nice, and I could see while we were talking that she ‘saw’ me…I told her to tell her daughter that I worked hard and bought my own house.
We talked for about 30 minutes, and I could see in the Mom’s eyes…well…her daughter?
I just feel things very deep, and in my 52 years nobody ever betrayed me like the ex-sociopath.
jazzy129
it’s just that I don’t think that LF should just be for regular posters. It should be for everyone…within reason.
There is a definite coolness towards ‘drop-in’ posters. NOT sociopaths…NOT bi-polars…just posters who are lost and seeking a connection.
Some posters seem to be way past the sociopathic destruction. I don’t why they are still here if they are healed.
I’m not a plant, and I don’t need to be watered…thank you.
jazzy129
This seems to be the best place to go if you have been mind-raped by a sociopath….I guess.
Hopeforjoy
Jazzy129,
It’s okay to feel very deeply, at least you have that ability. Sometimes it’s a curse, but it you didn’t have empathy, you wouldn’t have help that girl.
I don’t know if I’m qualified to give anyone advice since I’m still living with the poison spath, but LF has been a god send for me. I have felt more understood than by my therapist, she hasn’t called my husband a spath (possible lawsuit), but the insiteful posters on LF have shown me the light.
Hang in there, so sorry to hear about your health issues, I’m sure your experience with the spath made them so much worse.
Really, people here do care. I had shut down most of my emotions but after seeing that you all ‘get it’, I have been so incredibly grateful. I care, I hope you feel better, don’t let the spath define you, you’re better than that.
jazzy129
Hi! hope for joy! he doesn’t define me anymore, but he destroyed my friendships by slander…both professional and socially.
I felt that I could come here and connect. I have a hard time connecting because of the Aspergers. I don’t always know if I’m relating properly. I feel shut out because of some of the regulars.
Case in point…2 weeks ago i had a disagreement with a regular poster about what I would do if my ex-spath showed up at my door. The poster did not seem to understand that I would be afraid for my life.
I couldn’t come back here because I was upset. I come back today and i feel like I’m being ignored by the old-timers. Not fair.
jazzy129
Hope…enough about me. You are still with him? What’s it like? Do you have another place to go?