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Book Review: ‘Miracle in the Madness:’ All real therapy is release from the past

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The Miracle in the Madness — Grateful to be the son of a murderer, by Travis Vining Review by Donna Andersen The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. Travis Vining is the son of a sociopathic serial killer. His father, John Bruce Vining, killed four people, and coerced Travis, as a young man, into helping him escape prosecution. How does anyone cope with that? Travis tried to forget what happened, and he did, sort of. His psyche repressed direct memory of many incidents. But the efforts of his mind had repercussions in his body. Travis had all kinds of physical problems, ranging from rashes to addiction to p …

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What do we do when sociopaths experience no consequences?

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Lovefraud received the following email from a reader who posts as "Salvation2012." Thank you for helping me decide when I needed to cut my losses during my divorce. I did cut my "losses," yet the total I received tallied up to a number similar, just not in all cash. Because I settled in his eyes, he told everyone I was just proving how I was the guilty one and didn't want to risk being exposed. To the end he will deny permanently injuring me and bleeding me of money, and cheating on me (which I only later found out about the extent). My recent concern is watching him seemingly have no consequences. I'm not a vengeful person, so this is a distressing area for me, but I just thought karma …

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Dating again after the sociopath – Webinar May 16, 8 pm ET

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/wMXEep7qAuM"] You'd like a romantic partner, but after one sociopath, you're afraid of meeting another. Learn how to know when you are ready for a new partner, and how to date with awareness, so you can protect yourself from scammers and predators. Bring your questions! Dating again after the sociopath Presented by Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com Wednesday, May 16, 2018 • 8-9 pm ET • $25 Highlights How to protect yourself from sociopaths Why internal healing is important Lovefraud's 3 rules of dating 10 tips for dating with awareness Staying safe with online dating The initial presentation will be recorded. If you want to …

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‘Liar’ by the Rollins Band — singing about a sociopath

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/FFyZ8QU-FgE"] Check out this music video of the hard rock song Liar by the Henry Rollins Band. It's clearly about a sociopath. What's interesting is that this song was recorded in 1994. Without Conscience, Robert Hare's book that introduced psychopaths to the world, came out in 1993. I don't know if Rollins read the book, but he is certainly describing disordered behavior. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader. …

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My Bill Cosby experience: I definitely dodged a bullet

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Entertainer Bill Cosby, 80, was convicted of sexually assaulting Andrea Constand last week. He drugged and assaulted her in 2004. Five other women testified that he did the same thing to them back in the '80s — proving it was Cosby's pattern of conduct. The Philadelphia Inquirer has extensive coverage of the Cosby case. Click this link: Bill Cosby trial And here's a story from USA Today: A complete list of the 60 Bill Cosby accusers and their reactions to the guilty verdict I am now convinced that my personal experience with Bill Cosby was a near-miss. I was young and naive. But luckily, my guardian angels were looking out for me. I wrote about my experience when the story f …

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Rapist serving 100 years is named murder suspect, hangs himself

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Fernando Asturizaga, 51, was in jail in Maryland, convicted of sexually abusing and raping a a young girl from 1999 to 2001. The girls mother, Alison Thresher,  saw that Asturizaga was grooming her daughter when her ex-husband permitted him to babysit. Alison Thresher objected to the "inappropriate relationship." On May 23, 2000, she disappeared. She is presumed dead, although her body was never found. Asturizaga was just named a "person of interest" in the cold case. The next day, he was found dead in the jail. His death was ruled "suicide by hanging." The rape victim, Hannah Thresher, is now an adult. She bravely told her story at a press conference. "A few months later [after …

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Have you tried exposing a sociopath online? Did it work?

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A few weeks ago, the Philadelphia Inquirer published a story about a woman who says she went to sleep in the home of a male friend, and when she woke up realized she'd been raped. The woman didn't go to the police — she believed it would be useless. So the took matters into her own hands. She told her story on Facebook, naming the man who assaulted her. When she did, other women posted about similar experiences with the same man. For the perpetrator shamed via Facebook, there were consequences . He was a musician, and lost gigs. His landlord threw him out of his building. You can read the article here: Why Philly sexual assault victims look to Facebook for 'street justice,' on p …

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Lovefraud Survey: How did you deal with a senior sociopath?

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I am currently working on a book about senior sociopaths — how disordered people behave when they are over the age of 50. I've collected a lot of data about the experiences of Lovefraud readers with these individuals — perhaps you completed my previous survey. One of the topics I'd like to address in the book is how to deal with this type of person. So I ask you: If you have, or had, a sociopath who was 50 years old or older in your life, how did you escape, cope or move on? What techniques or strategies did you use to manage destructive behavior or get the person out of your life? I'm looking for information in the context of any type of relationship: Romantic Partner Parent …

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Lovefraud webinars on recovering from a relationship with a sociopath and dating again – coming May 9 and 16!

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I talk to a lot of heartbroken people who have learned that their romantic partner, their "soul mate," was a sociopath. Men and women who, perhaps like you, discovered that everything their romantic partner said to them was a lie. People who are grieving not only profound betrayal, but also the loss of their hopes and dreams for the future. If this is you, I understand how devastated you feel. I've been there. But I also know that you can recover, you can move forward, and you can find love — a real love. Yes, you do need to make a commitment to yourself and your healing. So now I'm offering you a terrific first step. In a few weeks, I'll be presenting two live webinars: Why it's so h …

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When white-collar criminals commit fraud, unknowing wives are devastated

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My ex-husband, James Montgomery, was a white-collar criminal. He pretended to be a businessman, but in reality I, and the other women from whom he took more than $1 million, were his business. Federal prosecutors couldn't be bothered going after him. Other white-collar criminals, who are likely sociopaths like my husband, commit fraud with their employers. This gets the attention of law enforcement. When they are prosecuted, the casualties include their wives. In an article for the New York Times, Abby Ellin describes the devastation suffered by women who had no idea what their husbands were doing. They find that other people don't believe that they were unaware, but I do. I know what …

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