"When we focus on something repeatedly, the brain forms a habit," says Steven Stosny, Ph.D., author of Living and Loving After Betrayal. "We have to be careful on what we focus on." When we discover that we've been betrayed by a sociopath, for a long time that's all we can think about. Although this is a typical response to the betrayal, it also has the effect of keeping us mired in our pain. Stosny suggest replacing the memories of the deception with restorative images, which he defines as "any emotionally laden bit of your imagination that eases pain by shifting mental focus from loss to growth." He explains this approach in an article on the Psychology Today blog: Healing from …
Online threats: Crimes or free speech?
The Supreme Court of the United States may soon decide whether or not to hear appeals of two cases in with people were convicted and sent to jail for making online threats, even though they later said they didn't mean any harm. In one case, Anthony Elonis of Pennsylvania, wrote on Facebook about killing his estranged wife. According to the Associated Press, he said: “There's one way to love you but a thousand ways to kill you. I'm not going to rest until your body is a mess, soaked in blood and dying from all the little cuts.” The woman testified in court that she feared for her life. Elonis was sentenced to almost four years, and was released on February 14, 2014, according to The Exp …
Florida sheriff’s officers accused of rigging child custody case
The Lovefraud reader Anne Stevenson has written another article about corruption in the family court system. This time it's in Florida, where Broward Sheriff's Deputies David Benjamin and Jeff Alan Poole were charged with rigging a child custody case. Broward County Sheriff's deputies aiding Ponzi schemes, prostitutes and corruption, on Commdiginews.com …
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Political correctness and vulnerability to sociopaths
Mark Cuban, tech entrepreneur, star of the TV show Shark Tank, and owner of the Dallas Mavericks pro basketball team, sparked a firestorm on Twitter last week when he admitted to being a bigot. The firestorm was based on the sound bite: I know I'm prejudiced. I know I'm bigoted, in a lot of different ways. If I see a black kid in a hoodie on the same side of the street, I'm probably going to walk to the other side of the street. Some of those who lambasted Cuban ignored the continuation of his statement: If I see a white guy with a shaved head and lots of tattoos, I'm going back to the other side of the street. If I see anybody that looks threatening, chances are there's part …
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Bail reduced for William Allen Jordan, AKA Liam Allen
William Allen Jordan, of Cherry Hill, New Jersey, had a hearing on May 7, 2014 to reduce his bail, which was set at $60,000. Jordan, you may recall, is the con man who convinced multiple women that he was a spy. And despite claiming he was never married and had no children, he actually has 13 children with eight different women. See the story of his arrest on April 22 here: Lovefraud con man William Allen Jordan - AKA Liam Allen - busted by his latest victim in New Jersey, on Lovefraud.com. Mischele Lewis, Jordan's most recent victim, attended the bail hearing. Here's what I heard from her: I am seriously livid...... So I went to the bail hearing today, didn't tell anyone (like th …
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Dancing to death: Katsura Kan, butoh dance master, drives his student, Sharon Stern, to suicide, family alleges
'The dance of darkness,' for the beautiful, happy and vibrant Sharon Stern, became the dance of death. Sharon Stern, 32, of Hollywood, Florida, aspired to perfect her performance of butoh, a Japanese style of contemporary dance. Instead, she lost her sanity and committed suicide, allegedly driven to despair by her butoh master, Katsura Kan, according to a lawsuit filed by her family. "Katsura Kan brainwashed her against her family and her life," said her heartbroken father, Tibor Stern, 65, of Hollywood, Florida. "He made her forget everything that was happy about life, and told her she needed to experience pain and suffering, until he had full control over her." I just wrote this …
Lovefraud con man William Allen Jordan – AKA Liam Allen – busted by his latest victim in New Jersey
William Allen Jordan is one of the most dangerous psychopaths I've ever come across. I've spoken to at least four of his victims, and he takes mental manipulation and gaslighting to a level far beyond what most garden-variety psychopaths can accomplish. Jordan convinced multiple women in the UK that he was a CIA agent. In fact, he was married to two women simultaneously, and had both of them believing that the other was nothing but an agent working under cover. Mary Turner Thomson wrote a book about her experience called, The Bigamist. Dr. Liane Leedom studied William Jordan for her scientific paper, "Did He Ever Love Me?": A qualitative study of life with a psychopathic husband. Jordan …
Gary J. Aronson treats widow like gold – with money acquired by stealing her identity
By Donna Andersen Lisa and Joe Sorrentino were happily married for 25 years. They worked together every day in Joe's hair salon in Cherry Hill, New Jersey. They enjoyed their family. But life changed in October 2008, when Joe was diagnosed with lung cancer. Lisa Sorrentino had been working part time in the business, but as Joe weakened, she put in more hours and covered more of his clients. Joe died in October 2009, and Sorrentino was heartbroken to lose her husband and best friend. But she didn't have time to slow down and grieve, because now the salon was hers, and she was working 65 hours a week. One of her clients was Gary Aronson. Her husband had been cutting his hair since …
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Katherine Underwood, in disguise, pursues her ex, Budimir Drakulic, who owes her $1.6 million
Twenty years ago, Katherine Underwood, of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, started dating Budimir Drakulic, who claimed he was a professor at UCLA. Eight months later, he asked her for money and kept asking until he took everything she had. Underwood sued and won a judgment. Because she couldn't afford a private investigator, she put on disguises and followed Drakulic herself. Donna Andersen just wrote the story for MailOnline.com. I'm not done wig you! The many disguises woman wore to spy on ex-lover who owes her $1.6 m after 20 years …
Two men guilty of killing their young children out of anger towards the mothers
Jeremy Brent Cramer, 38, of Lacey, Washington had a confrontation with his wife, Nataliya. She wanted him to clean up his act. Cramer took their almost 4-year-old son, Broderick, and left. He drove until he ran out of gas in Montana. Then he took the child, smashed his head with a rock, slashed his throat and dismembered the body. On April 4, 2014 Cramer was sentenced to life without parole. Washington man gets life in prison in son's death, on News.Yahoo.com. In New Jersey, Arthur Morgan III was angry with Amani Benton for breaking off their engagement. So he took their daughter, 2-year-old Tierra Morgan-Glover, strapped her into her car seat, weighed it down with a tire iron, and …
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