Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as "justlikeyou." I will not give up my power. You have taken enough from me. First a little background. I'm a nurse. I'm a proud American. I have worked in the field of developmental disabilities for 20 plus years. I have lived in California all of my life. California is unique in the way we serve individuals with developmental disabilities. There are families who move to this state simply because of it. In 1969 the Lanterman Act was passed in California. Simply put “The Lanterman Act declares that persons with developmental disabilities have the same legal rights and responsibilities guaranteed all other p …
She’s pregnant with his twins, and catches him in the act, having sex with another woman
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Janeen." I was in an on again off again abusive (physically and mentally) relationship for the past year with a narcopath. He had numerous online accounts and profiles on dating sites where he would find women that he could lie to about who he was, what he did, how many kids he had ”¦ everything. The only truth he told was his name. I found this out the hard way; I was one of those women. We had met online and within a month I was living with him in a different city, an hour and a half away from my friends and family. He would start arguments with outlandish accusations every time I went back home to vi …
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Letter to Lovefraud: I took him back only to be discarded again
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Caitlyn." Read her original story: "I should feel lucky to be free of the sociopath, but it's tearing me up!" You posted my first story and I now have another one. Just couldn't get him off my mind and I took him back only to be discarded again despite my healing. I am very embarrassed and disappointed in myself today, but it may help someone think twice. My story is as follows: Well I did it again. Allowed him back in despite my progress towards healing. This makes the third time. It lasted 2 months and I was discarded again yesterday. Somehow I think my body knew this would happen as I've had panic …
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We lost our daughter to a mind-controlling Internet predator
Though I am one parent, I am easily the voice of all the parents and families who are living with the horrors of Internet luring of our innocent children for the purpose of human trafficking. The issue is real and our painful journey through this with our only daughter has clearly heightened our awareness of what we have been told is the newest form of “cult like” persuasive coercion, luring, grooming and human trafficking which began with a deliberate and meticulous indoctrination into the world of pornography through an online video game. Our lives have been forever changed. As with anything that can be beneficial, the Internet can also be dangerous. The Internet is the key that opens the …
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I was desperate for closure, revenge and for the truth to get out
Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as, "lucky2Bfree." Donna, We spoke a while ago and it really did help me, it was good to speak to somebody who genuinely understood how I felt and also get some perspective on the situation. To recap, my fiance borrowed a lot of money for me and told me stories which I now know to be false. We were living together in the United States, but when I returned to my native country to nurse my terminally ill mother he told me he needed to leave America and wanted to join me. He borrowed more money, told me he was falsely arrested and needed me to pay the bail bond but suddenly went quiet, leading me to believe something awful had …
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The Recovery Poem – ‘I could not care less’
Editor's note: This poem of recovery was written by Lovefraud reader, Arpinsandie. (To clarify the first line, a "6th form pupil" is a British term roughly equivalent to a high school student.) By Arpinsandie You cheated on your first wife with a 6th form pupil and groomed pupils You lost your family because of your behaviour You blamed your wife Your second wife found real love through your abhorrent lies anger rage and dominance You blamed her The 3rd - long term partner - Me You tried to control destroy by lying cheating verbally assaulting bullying a classic case of narcissistic behaviour I dumped you You will blame me But then be proud you are an A1 sociopathic robot Who has lost …
My life Living with a Sociopath (5 Years Wasted)
My husband on the outside — the man everyone else sees: - The nicest person you could ever meet - Positive, Non-Confrontational, High Energy, Bubbly Personality - Will bend over backwards to do anything to help anyone - He is everyone's best friend - He will cook for you or will clean dishes if you cook for him ”¦ and always offers a helping hand - Very attentive - Very loving - Will serve you coffee in bed every morning and maybe breakfast too! - The kindest and biggest gentleman you think you have ever met - Will always tell you how beautiful you are everyday - He will take very good care of you financially - He is always concerned for everyone's well being - He is an e …
I wish I would have known sooner that people like this existed
Editor's note: A Lovefraud reader who posts as "Zenagirl10" sent the following story. I have had 5 years experience with a sociopath. It started out my ex was dating a friend of mine and they were engaged to be married. They broke up and she moved away. Then he set his sights on me. Initially I was not interested in him at all. But I thought he wants to buy all these things for me and at the time I could only afford the necessities. So I continued with the relationship. Everything moved so quickly, he was constantly texting, phoning and wanting to be by my side 24-7. I was like wow, he must really be in love with me. There were several red flags that I did not notice and I wish I …
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My ex has custody of our daughter, even though he pleaded guilty to domestic violence
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Cassidy." I was married for 2 years. The problems emerged after my daughter was born. Jumping to the end of the story, we separated and divorced. We had final court orders for parenting and property in 2010. Since then I have been back to court at least 20 times, we have 3 final orders. My ex now has custody of my daughter, even though he was accused of domestic violence and pleaded guilty to the charges. In Australia the presumption for shared care is set aside if you can prove this. I was given custody of my little girl the first and second court cases. He was given sole parenting on the third. Needless to …
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Recovery from a sociopath through poetry
Editors note: A Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "arpinsandie" says that writing poetry helped her recover from an involvement with a sociopath. She shares some of what she wrote, in the hope that it will help others as well. Poem for the Heart Emotion Conscience Less Do you know what hate is No Do you know what it is to be hated No Do you know where hate fits No Where warm humans love Hate is in you Where softness and kindness live You cultivate destruction Why do people cry They are hurt broken bt you Your charm superficial Boredom reigns where love should be A wonderful man to all outside see The real you ? - Only I see Cos you cant You don't hurt Cos you cant You don't love Cos you …