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He asked me for money – then another woman messaged me and said he was using her for money

November 5, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 3 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Agatha." I started to talk to a male friend I was connected to on Facebook after I had a tough break up. He said he reached out to me because he had just gone through similar and thought he could help. After a few weeks we started to flirt with each other. I did at first, then he went full blown. Within a week of this talk, he admitted he loved me. I did think it was soon but I felt the same. Then he said he wanted to marry me, possibly have a child, grow old together. Said we were life partners. I went to visit him and spent a three-day weekend with him, and he had his two young sons for the days of …

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The narcissists in my life – the screamer and the deceiver

October 28, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// Leave a Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Hilda." I have had a narcissistic work experience, 20+ years ago, and am currently divorcing from a marriage/ relationship of 27+ years. My divorce, no surprise, has been 3 1/2 years running, and involves theft, fraud, forgery, abuse, cheating, etc. The screamer my female boss I worked for a woman 20 years ago who thought that smashing phones and computer screens, screaming and yelling, hanging up on people and bullying them were completely normal business practices. She was a buyer and sales people were at her mercy. It was crazy and intimidating but I did not have the full wrath until I needed her to …

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I almost left my husband for a narcissist

October 21, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Marguerite." Hi Donna. I have recently read your book Love Fraud and am now reading Red Flags of Love Fraud, both of which I found were excellent. I feel I am recovering from being in a relationship with a narcissist, although I feel blessed that things did not progress from the love bombing stage, which was exactly as you describe in your second book. Showering me with attention It was a very intense period of showering me with a huge amount of attention, adoration and admiration, and I now believe telling me the things I wanted to hear. I'm ashamed to say I was already married when I met him, and at …

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Discovering the double life: For 6 years, I was sleeping next to the devil (Part 2)

October 16, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Nadine." Read Part 1. I met my partner's parents very early on in the relationship. I was equipped with some knowledge about Narcs due to one of my friends having a Narc ex-mother-in-law. My radar was up, but unfortunately I was looking closely at mother and father instead of him. I did not know about love bombing, so I had no clue he was even remotely like his parents. I knew she was bad news the day I met her. Father was the silent brooding intimating type. Throughout the relationship I was constantly standing my ground with boundaries that were continuously ignored or disrespected. As the mask of my …

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Discovering the double life: For 6 years, I was sleeping next to the devil (Part 1)

October 15, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Nadine." When the mask of your Narcopath is ripped off in a split second you spend your days reeling from the shock of what you discovered. This is my story of how I took my power back and why I need to keep reminding myself it's still in my hands. The bad days make me forget I have the power; the good days make me grateful I do. I'll call him the Narc from this point forward, however I'm still unsure what his diagnosis is. He could be a sociopath/psychopath/anti social. My psychologist thinks he has a dual diagnosis of some type. He doesn't fit any of the boxes neatly, but he is on the spectrum without a …

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What to do when your exploiter has cops for friends

September 23, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 4 Comments

by Lesson Learned During your interaction with law enforcement it is normal to feel, anxious and somewhat intimidated. Even when you're in the right, something about that badge, gun and the general demeanor of cops can make you feel stressed. What you should not feel is fear”¦at least from the officers. If you feel fear — if they are standing too close, or are intentionally appearing intimidating, ask them calmly if they would take a step back as you're feeling a little overwhelmed. This is where a witness is crucial. If the officer will not step back you have a witness to attest to that and he knows it. Throughout this I will refer to law enforcement as ”˜he' for expedience and because duri …

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The murder trial that’s rocked the UK

September 16, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// Leave a Comment

By our reporter in Borchester, Michael Path Charismatic, charming and controlling Rob Titchener, the 'perfect' husband and step-father, was knifed by his heavily pregnant wife Helen last April after she decided to leave him. Shortly before the knife attack, Titchener told her she was 'clingy, feeble-minded, an over-sensitive harpy, desperate to be loved, desperate to be needed . . . An unhinged, single-parent disaster zone, a lonely, frigid spinster just yearning for a real man to complete her'. After telling her that 'You're mine. Wherever you are I'll always be there' and slapping her, he put a knife in her hand and taunted her that she was 'nothing' without him. He then dared her to …

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Lies, manipulation, cheating, fraud, drugs, fake remorse, threats – this marriage to a sociopath had it all

September 10, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Noreen." My soon-to-be ex-husband of 14 years, whom I thought was loving, adoring and charming, is actually a very manipulative, deceitful and emotionally abusive sociopath. Met at 17 He hooked me at 17 years old. I was fun, ambitious and a lot of boys pursued me. Best of all, I was naive. I see the good in everyone. And even though he did some bad stuff at the time ”¦ I attributed it to him just being a teenager. I was amazed how he seemed to be a magnet to everyone around him. People were drawn to him. He was so charismatic and no matter what he did ”¦ they loved him. We met working for a retail shop an …

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No Contact vs Justice

September 2, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 12 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as "justlikeyou." I will not give up my power. You have taken enough from me. First a little background. I'm a nurse. I'm a proud American. I have worked in the field of developmental disabilities for 20 plus years. I have lived in California all of my life. California is unique in the way we serve individuals with developmental disabilities. There are families who move to this state simply because of it. In 1969 the Lanterman Act was passed in California. Simply put “The Lanterman Act declares that persons with developmental disabilities have the same legal rights and responsibilities guaranteed all other p …

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She’s pregnant with his twins, and catches him in the act, having sex with another woman

August 24, 2016 // by Lovefraud Reader// 11 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Janeen." I was in an on again off again abusive (physically and mentally) relationship for the past year with a narcopath. He had numerous online accounts and profiles on dating sites where he would find women that he could lie to about who he was, what he did, how many kids he had ”¦ everything. The only truth he told was his name. I found this out the hard way; I was one of those women. We had met online and within a month I was living with him in a different city, an hour and a half away from my friends and family. He would start arguments with outlandish accusations every time I went back home to vi …

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