Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call “Judith-Ann.” Many of us grow up in homes of loud abuses. As children, constant new realities wail on our fledgling emotions, all too often beating them into submission. Some of us give up. Our sensitive natures can't bear the hate of our own creators and we crash into ourselves in a thousand ways, catching fire until we burn out like stars, until there is nothing of ourselves but a black hole of self-hatred. Others of us continue to rail against the injustices committed against us. The Unwanted, we bash our brains out against the bars of an invisible cage from which we honestly believe we can never be freed. …
LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: What Did He Do To My Daughter?!
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from “Starmom.” Many people have had opinions, but no one's been able to address the origin: Something caused my daughter to change, virtually overnight what could the guy have done to her? Ten years ago, I made a mistake. Relatively new to an area where I didn't know anyone very well, I accepted “a ride home” from someone I didn't know. Refusing to take me home, and keeping me out, I was forcibly kept awake for what came to be at least two and a half days and nights straight after which my mind blacked out from exhaustion and I don't know what happened. During this period of time, I informed this guy (47 years old) that I “have no interes …
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My Story of Lies: His Lies to Me and the Lies I Told Myself
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as “Gaslit073168.” I met him in spring of 2014 through an online dating site. He was so honest in his profile (sarcasm now, in awe then) about being imperfect. Depression was his biggest flaw, in his eyes. He was sad because his kids live in Japan where he can only see them when he can financially manage to make the trip. It's been this way for a couple years because his now ex wife left him and decided to go home to her family in Japan. This wasn't the only reason he was depressed. He had brain cancer in 1998 that caused him to be legally blind in one eye, a huge bald patch across the back of his head and no tee …
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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: I still love the stupid jerk – what is wrong with me?
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman whom we'll call “Lila” she posts as "gruuvygirl." Like many of the women I see on this site, I stumbled here while searching for answers as to why my four-year relationship is so incredibly painful and why I keep going back for more pain and heartache. I feel like I have lost my mind. At the beginning, our relationship was awesome. I was soooo happy because I thought I had finally found “the one” — my soul mate! He was handsome, drove a Harley, liked to do the same things I do, he was friendly and everyone liked him (I thought), he had a house on the lake and a job, but mostly he seemed to adore me. But even at the beginning t …
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Reader spots Red Flags of Love Fraud in a woman he meets on a dating site
Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call “Evan.” I'm coming to Lovefraud again because I'm pretty sure I have just met another sociopath through a religious online dating website. She seems too good to be true, so I think she is ... I'm just wondering what the best way to end the very short relationship would be. Red Flag Reminders: Charisma and Charm Sudden Soulmates Sexual magnetism Love bombing Blames others for everything Lies and gaps in the story Intense eye contact Moves fast to hook up Pity play Jekyll and Hyde personality Facts: - I contacted her via the dating website on Monday (4 days ago she already wants to meet and has told me what feels like too ma …
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‘Soaked in Bleach:’ Movie about Kurt Cobain’s death alleges his wife, Courtney Love, was involved
Soaked in Bleach from Montani Productions on Vimeo. Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader. By Sellena I highly recommend you all check out a brand-new movie, Soaked in Bleach. It is a documentary about Kurt Cobain's death in early April, 1994. This movie presents compelling evidence that Kurt Cobain did not commit suicide, but was murdered. Tom Grant, the P.I. who investigated Kurt Cobain's death, and who is interviewed a lot in this movie, thinks Courtney Love had something to do with Cobain's death, if she didn't murder him herself. Grant first got involved in this case when he was initially hired by Kurt Cobain's wife, Courtney Love, days before Cobain's …
Marriage to the narcissist was bad, but divorcing him was worse
Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call “Mary-Louise.” I was married for 9 years to a man who is a malignant narcissist, very similar to a sociopath. I have 2 kids and we share legal custody. I thought being married to him was bad, but divorcing him is worse in a lot of ways. He had a sex and gambling addiction. He works as a fitness coach for adults and loved the automatic authority that gave him. He took full advantage of the women clients and had affairs with many of them. This was unknown to me until we separated. There were several women he had on-going affairs with over the course of 10 years. Regularly he would invite his fitness clients over to our house f …
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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: The Aftermath – The fight against the sociopath is 90% over
The Lovefraud reader who posts as “Winifred” has written about dealing with her husband's sociopathic ex-wife. Read “The Other Prey loving someone previously married to a sociopath” and “Survival tips when the ex is a sociopath.” My husband's ex sociopath wife and their 2 (now adult) children have been the focus of many of my writings to you and this site. I title this article "The Aftermath" because his youngest of the 2 children with her has just been emancipated at 19 by the state of Indiana, Thank God! We are still facing 3 more years of college dealings with his ex, but the difficult, emotionally, mentally and physically tolling part is over ”¦ we hope! My husband and I are now finding …
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‘Married at First Sight’ reality TV show apparently cast a sociopath as the groom
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/RD_S3UJIlL8"] Editor's note: The Lovefraud reader “amille2” wrote the following critique. I normally do not watch reality TV shows. The few that I have seen seem anything but real. With that said, I was intrigued when A&E and the DIY networks promoted a show called, "Married at First Sight." The premise is two people marry ....... without meeting in advance. The men and women are matched by a panel of experts: a psychologist, sexologist, spiritual advisor and a professor with a PhD in Sociology. A modern twist on arranged marriages. They all claim the participants go through rigorous interviews evaluations, background checks, questionnaires, etc. One wou …
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Advice for Protecting Elderly Relatives from Sociopaths and Gold Diggers
Editor's Note: Yesterday, Lovefraud posted a story from a reader whom we'll call "Maura." She describes how a female sociopath latched on to her recently widowed father, took over his life, and tried to hasten his demise. Read the story. Following are tips that Maura and her family learned the hard way. Our Advice On How to Protect An Elderly Relative This is our advice based on our experience to best protect an elderly relative should they marry a sociopath or a gold digger: 1. Immediately hire a private investigator to do a background check on the new spouse. Verify marriage status, divorce and marriage history, career history, credit history, bankruptcy, ancestry, court records, pre …
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