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Does my psychopath miss me?

Does my psychopath miss me?

Editor’s note: The following article refers to male psychopaths. Women can also be sociopaths, psychopaths and other disordered individuals.

Does my sociopath/psychopath miss me?

The short answer is “no.” The qualified answer is “yes, in appearance, but only as long as you can afford him.”

Since psychopaths are unable to have true feelings, once you are removed from his picture, you are gone forever. Somebody else with financial security will replace you, and then when the money is gone or things go sour, somebody else will replace that person.

29 excuses that sabotage our instincts about sociopaths

29 excuses that sabotage our instincts about sociopaths

Almost all of us have an instinctive warning that something is terribly wrong early in an involvement with a sociopath (antisocial, narcissist, borderline, histrionic, psychopath). Almost all of us ignore the warning.

Last week I wrote about the physical symptoms that we often feel in 8 ways your body warns you about sociopaths. I included fear, chills, difficulty breathing, crying, pounding heart, upset stomach, nightmares and a nagging feeling. The post was widely shared, and several Lovefraud readers added more physical warning signs: immobilizing exhaustion, poor appetite, nervous tension, tiredness, cloudy thinking, vague upset, tightness in the chest.

 
Australian woman loses $305,000 in romance scam

Australian woman loses $305,000 in romance scam

Scammers continue to pose as American soldiers. In a terrible recent romance scam, a 34-year-old woman from Brisbane, Australia lost AU$305,000 (US$220,210) to a man posing as a US soldier.

The con man, Cosmos Emeh, 32, claimed to be deployed in Syria, but he was actually also living in Brisbane, with his Australian partner. He convinced the target to send him $200,000 via a money transfer service. Then, in a highly unusual twist, he actually showed up at the woman’s home, claiming to be a “fixer” for the soldier, and collected and additional $105,000.

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How a disordered elderly mother expresses love

How a disordered elderly mother expresses love

MaxPixel

Browsing, a good day

Mom sat in the store fancy chair hugging the bag in a protecting embrace. She had made an impenetrable Chinese wall with her arms, fiercely defending from me a stolen $2,000 Prada bag. The round mound rested on her lap, while I tried to convince her that the store cameras knew exactly what was going on.

We got some looks from wealthy shoppers that seemed to reprove my pushy, disrespectful behavior toward this 90 year-old.  Perhaps they thought I wanted to keep her money. She, however, felt very entitled to take from the wealthier ones. I felt I was abusing my mother by forcing her to release her “shopping choices.” But this wasn’t our first rodeo at the mall. Stealing in the most abrupt ways was one of her favorite self-esteem improvement methods.

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Webinar teaches you to spot a sociopath or narcissist partner

Webinar teaches you to spot a sociopath or narcissist partner

webinar on sociopath narcissist

Upcoming webinar:

The Basics: Love Fraud and How to Avoid It
Jan. 16, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
$18.75 — or FREE with the Lovefraud 5-part Masterclass
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com 
More info

Sociopaths and narcissists are easy to spot, once you know what to look for. That’s exactly what I’ll teach you in this 1-hour webinar, so you can keep them out of your life.

The Basics: Love Fraud and How to Avoid It

This is the original Lovefraud webinar, and I’m presenting it again for the first time in almost three years, updated with the latest information. Here are highlights of what you’ll learn in the webinar:

Claudia Paradise, LCSW: How to talk to kids about an absent daddy

Claudia Paradise, LCSW: How to talk to kids about an absent daddy

Claudia ParadiseLovefraud received the following question:

Can you address absent sociopathic fathers and how to respond to a young child who has begun asking about him? My 4-year-old has started talking about her “daddy,” who she could not possibly remember. The last time she saw him was when she was 2 and the total time spent with him in her lifetime has probably been 12 hours total. I have cut things off with him entirely since his last visit. Anyways, lately she pretends to call him on her toy phone, or tells me that her daddy is going to pick her up from school. I think all this talk has stemmed from her best friend at school, whose dad comes to pick her up every day.

8 ways your body warns you about sociopaths

8 ways your body warns you about sociopaths

Max PixelIt took millions of years for our species to evolve from apes to modern humans, and during those years we spent a lot of time fleeing for our lives. Our very survival depended upon being able to sense danger from predators. We still have the ability to sense danger, although today it comes not from saber-toothed tigers, but from human predators, aka sociopaths.

This protective sense is our intuition, which is part instinctive knowing, and part physical reaction. Our bodies tell us when someone or a situation poses a threat. Here are eight ways that our bodies warn us of danger:

MaryAnn Glynn, LCSW, to host free conference call support group 1/13/19 at 5 pm EST

MaryAnn Glynn, LCSW, to host free conference call support group 1/13/19 at 5 pm EST

Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, January 13, 2019 at 5 pm EST. Go to destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

 

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Dangerous Liaisons: Is his goal to break me?

Dangerous Liaisons: Is his goal to break me?

Dangerous Liaisons

Dangerous Liaisons, starring Glenn Close, John Malkovich and Michelle Pfeiffer, was about breaking hearts for fun.

Editor’s Note: This Letter to Lovefraud is from a Lovefraud Reader whom we’ll call  “Aubree.” Names have been changed.

I recently got out of a two year relationship with a person who I believe is a sociopath, or at the very least an extremely vengeful borderline. When we first got together, he told me that he used to have a habit of going to bars, finding the prettiest and most confident-looking woman there, and proceeding to go up to her and start picking on her and making fun of her for something that he suspected she might be insecure about. For example, if he saw a girl who was beautiful but wasn’t stick-thin, he’d go up to her and start making snide remarks about her weight. He said he enjoyed doing this because he got pleasure out of “knocking these women down off their high horse.”

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