When looking for love, 20 million Americans look on Internet dating sites. Now, companies offer quick and easy background checks, although some experts worry about their effectiveness.
Read New online-date detectives can unmask Mr. or Ms. Wrong, on NYTimes.com.
Ox Drover
Truthy, without a signed consent it is illegal to do a financial check on someone, and many of the things you would want to know are not in even a legal financial check….because of “loans” from friends may not be registered at the court house, and things of that nature.
Even the BEST back ground checks unless they are done by the FBI are not going to be complete enough for you to know about this person….seeing someone in their “natural” environment with their friends….does that person even have any long term friends? People who would KNOW their history, and then SEEING the person in various situations and how they behave. It takes TIME and PROXIMITY, which is why you need to date people that live fairly close to you so that you can spend TIME with them in a relaxed atmosphere and around their friends etc. SEE what kind of person they are.
The old saying “Marry in haste, repent at leisure” is so true. We must get to know a person before we commit! Or even get involved.
Truthspeak
OxD, you are SO spot-on. Everything that you mentioned is 100% spot-on. From watching family dynamics to meeting “friends,” it’s my responsibility to learn about people that I’m contemplating as friends or partners.
Marry in haste….LMAO! Oh, it is so, so true. 😀
Brightest blessings