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Blame the victim fallacies

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December 6, 2010 //  by Donna Andersen//  401 Comments

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Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.

The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:

The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.

Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.

Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:

Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.

Wallflowers

Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:

The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.

Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.

If only it were that easy.

Traits of targeted women

The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?

Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:

  • Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
  • Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
  • Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.

Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.

Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.

Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.

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  1. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    December 10, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    🙂 🙂

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  2. aussiegirl

    December 10, 2010 at 8:48 pm

    and this is the way we bump the posts, bump the posts, bump the posts,
    this is the way we bump the posts er-lie in the morning!

    (I just worked it out) 🙂

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  3. aussiegirl

    December 10, 2010 at 8:48 pm

    🙂

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  4. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    December 10, 2010 at 9:00 pm

    exhale

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  5. aussiegirl

    December 10, 2010 at 9:02 pm

    Well, we Aussies are not that BRIGHT you know! xxx

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  6. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    December 10, 2010 at 9:06 pm

    Hehee – it’s been a frustrating day 🙂
    you haven’t been here for one of the all nighters yet aussie – there have been a couple spectacular ones in the the time i have been here. don’t know that i am up for those right now. i am a bit too easily frustrated, would hate to lose my cool.

    got called a C once amused the hell out of me.

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  7. aussiegirl

    December 10, 2010 at 9:09 pm

    Is that a cow? or a crumpet? or a cushion? or a coronet? or a candle? or a clip? or a cup? Honestly onestep, you confuse me….
    😉

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  8. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    December 10, 2010 at 9:11 pm

    lol snort…. the nocturnal flower of the persian flower, the c**tslip.

    i * for the more sensitive….of which i am not one. 😉
    (well, that and i’ve been warned :))

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  9. ErinBrock

    December 10, 2010 at 9:12 pm

    I’m just checking in…..need a little sit down….
    Kids and I got on the snowshoes and tramped around the mountain looking for the perfect christmas tree!
    Well…..in the forest we thought we had it…..cut it down and dragged it out. Got it on the car, (not easily) and home…..and now it won’t fit in the house!
    That’s the problem with plucking one out of the forest….the damn trees always look smaller when they are in the forest!
    🙂

    WE’ve got some figuring out to do tonight…..i’ll leave it up to the jr’s…..

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  10. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    December 10, 2010 at 9:13 pm

    cut hole in roof!

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