Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.
The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:
The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.
Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.
Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:
Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.
Wallflowers
Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:
The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.
Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.
If only it were that easy.
Traits of targeted women
The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?
Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:
- Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
- Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
- Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.
Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.
Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.
Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.
Jeannie,
hitchhiking is a last resort.
what about the tow truck?
what about calling the DV women’s shelter and explaining the situation? They can send someone out to drive you? maybe?
If you are in washington, I would drive you.
NEVER EVER EVER discount a spath.
When they ‘tell’ us ‘old’ stories……EXPECT IT TO HAPPEN TO YOU!
Glad to hear your gonna go to court.
BE CAREFUL…….
AND ‘mention’ this ‘incident’ with your car….and his past claims…..of doing it to others to the judge….you won’t have to ‘prove’ it…..but combined with other documentation…..that should do it.
Good luck….and be safe!
OXY, and all of you,
I told some of my saga re spath daughtes to a daughter of a friend. her take on everything is to;
1} expect nothing,-yea, I totally buy that,
2} send each of them a Birthday card each year, with love, etc.etc.Dont think I will I didd this for untold years, no response.
3} Give and send them unconditional love.
I have a PROBLEM now, with unconditional love!Cant do it any more.Sorry. From now on as they havent apologised to me for years and years of mental torture, gaslighting, conning, stealing,
treating me with total contempt, gaslighting me,{befor i even knew what it was!}
I WONT do unconditional love any more. If they want ANY kind of relationshit with me from now on it has to be EARNED.
Forgive them,OK, but trust them again?Nope! NEVER AGAIN!
From now on my love has to be earned not given away free, and I wont ever allow them to abuse me again.
I know I have to saty total NC with them, or Il get sucked into the maelstrom again,{enabling, forgiving,baling out,etc etc.} cant afford to do this ever again, both financially and for my menatl health and self respect.
So I do NOT agree with unconditional love.Period.
Mama Gem.XX
gem, I think you are absolutely right.
No offense to your friends daughter,
but she really doesn’t know what she’s talking about,
she doesn’t “get it”. The love would mean nothing to them,
they would just feel more contempt.
Stick with the good people in your life now!
Gem:
From what I’ve learned in my experience…..
“normal’ life ‘rules’ don’t apply when dealing with a spath.
If we live by those rules across the board…….when we come across a spath…..wer’e gonna get burned….everytime.
I’m with you…….the thought of unconditional love is something i just can’t do with some peeps.
I can forgive my birthday being forgotten……
I can forgive my kids being nasty at times……
I can forgive my neighbors dog barking all night……
I can’t love the person unconditionally who beats me, hurts me for their own kicks, and does unforgettable harm……
not even from afar!
Tell her to be in touch with your D’s….and then we can talk about unconditional love.
gem –
You know what having a whole lot of compassion without DISCERNMENT makes us? CONNED!
i know that this young woman means well. she’s probably quite religious, and believes in compassion with all her heart, but without the life experience of evil, she has no idea what she is talking about. i know the idea of compassion in all situations is attractive, as is believing there is good in everyone….but we know, respectively, these ideas are dangerous and not true. These ideas are fantasies as much as any of the others we’ve indulged in with the spaths, and die hard.
there really has two to be two sets of rules – one for the ordinary and possibly dysfunctional, and one for the disordered. we have to work on accepting that – it goes against how we want to/ have been trained to/ have trained ourselves to view the world and act in it. And we have to figure out ways to discern who’s who, as quickly as possible and apply the right action to meet our needs for love, safety, genuine companionship and freindship.
whoever said “Aussie Girl, it would be a great idea to put together our funny stories (from everyone here) put it in a book and split the proceeds.” – let’s all remember this – it is not so far-fetched as it sounds. I’d be happy to compile it and have my professional photographer friend take some funny photos to go with it – do it as a coffee table cheer-up book for everyone who thinks they are alone with their CRS and/PTSD collander brains….I’d LOVE to!!! So – remind me in case I forget once this is posted (Ha ha ha)
Jeannie –
My petrol (gas) tank was sugared about 10 years ago, coincidentally just before the spath moved into my home. I never suspected him (and neither did the police) until the last couple of years during major reassessment on my part of how many other lies there must have been right from the start.
If your car takes liquid fuel, and there is no reason to think anything else is wrong with it, these are the signs – it will start and run for a few miles before coughing, spluttering, gasping for breath and cutting completely out – a little like running out of fuel or of air in the intake valve or even some electrical problems will feel and sound and act. (This is because the sugar has gradually accumulated in the fuel filter on it’s way to the engine and the grains are moving faster than they can melt so they start to pile up in the filter (which is only a little tiny barrel) choking the fuel supply to the car’s engine – thus the spluttering and the death).
Now – If you sit and wait for half an hour or so, it will probably start again, because the sugar will have caramelised and melted from the heat of the engine bay. You will get another few miles before the same thing happens. I once leap-frogged my way 30 miles or so to a mechanic by doing this; took several stops and long road-side waits. A mechanic will be able to find the residue of suger and/or caramel in the fuel filter, which is able to be replaced, but don’t fall for the trick I fell for – the mechanic replaced 7 filters in a row over several weeks (AND CHARGED!!!! each time) saying the sugar needed to all collect until the car was no longer breaking down. NOT TRUE!!! What you need to do (as my second opinion mechanic told me, and as I wound up having to do anyway) is to have the fuel tank emptied and the entire tank and line flushed out and then a new filter put on – because there’s no telling from the outside just how much has been poured into the tank. Don’t get conned (like I did)
Hi yall,
My car was a battery problem/ and the alternator belt. It took some scrambling but I made it to court on time.
It was bad at court. I feel like I can’t even write about it.
The judge dismissed both petitions. He stated no proof, no witnesses, it was a lot of he said/ she said.
I am exhausted by it all.
Jeannie,
Sorry to hear about court not going good for you. I’m a newbie here ,I’m sure some of the long timmers can comfort you. At least your car was a legitimate mechanical breakdown!
Get some rest!
Have a good night sleep.
Soimnotthecrazee1!
soimnotthecrazee1
Thank you