Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.
The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:
The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.
Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.
Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:
Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.
Wallflowers
Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:
The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.
Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.
If only it were that easy.
Traits of targeted women
The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?
Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:
- Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
- Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
- Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.
Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.
Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.
Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.
I read the next blog of Clinically sitting with the Sociopath
placid is the word.
Jim was placid when he talked to the judge. Jim admitted to the judge that he was saying things to me. Jim stated that he was saying it in the same calm voice he is using right now. I noticed his voice got softer and more gently. (as he claimed to use these soft gentle taunts at me across the street)
The judge just looked harder at me.
good freaking point sky! whose house!
Undefined: Ok cornfused? It is the 1% of 20% read/heard?
Skylar, yes they are king babies. King of the couch. Yet, they need someone to give them MONEY, while they bitch and complain that you are not taking good enough care of them.
When you are done with them; they don’t let go and they will MAKE TROUBLE FOR YOU.
They are pissed that the stupid bitch didn’t do what she was told to do.
I have not only been having dreams about being chased by the beast. I have also had dreams where people tell me Jim is calling me the “C” word.
I will take a strong stand cause I gotta. It’s not like I can sell and make a profit and move on. I gotta stand my ground instead.
Oh, to your post about your fucking honor. I gotta write that I would have tripped over tall weeds and underbrush in Jim’s yard if I attempted to stalk him. I would have skinned my knee and bruised my shin on the debris hiding under the weeds. And I have left him alone, I have no interest in the man.
He has no interest in me either. He looks at me like an object to control and squeese money from.
Jeannie,
YES!
KNOW that he is a baby, and KNOW what babies do.
It is sad but it is also VERY INFORMATIVE.
i’ve recently come to realize that these spaths are “acting out” because they don’t have a voice for what they are feeling. They continue to exist in infancy and infants CAN’T TALK! They can cry, rage, or charm.
So forewarned is forearmed. He wants you to feel what he feels. Believe me, if he is hungry and doesn’t get fed, he will rage against you. Put out a dish for him. It’s that easy.
But when it comes to the judge, be stoic. Have no emotion. practice being mommy.
ok, i am new here. i can really relate to all the comments on this post. the guy i was involved with fits into the WHOLE profile of the sociopath. i have gone through 5 months of therepy to come to this concultion. im not married to him and have no children with him. BUT i work with him on a daily basis. this proves to be VERy difficult. He is acting as if nothing has happened. just trying to regain my self-confident personality that he ALMOST succeded in destroying.
Jeannie, “After the court hearing Jim held the door of court room open for me. I froze and stood still. He held that door open until I motioned with my hand to “Go Away!” The he finally released the door.”
Ew, even just that right there scares the bejabbers out of me and makes me go cold. It’s all about power and control. Even holding a blessed door open is threatening. I’m so glad you didn’t give him that.
Igotout, hi and welcome to lf. There’s so much help for you here and the more you read the more you’ll feel stronger in your conviction that getting out was the best thing you could have done. I don’t envy you having to work with him. Glad you’re having therapy, it helps so much. As they say here, try to go ‘grey rock’ with him, i.e., be boring, show no interest in him. They don’t like being ignored.
Jeannie:
You can ask for a deputy to escort you to your car for safety…..from court.
“if’ there is a next time…..arrange that with the clerk.
You can also wait in another room away from him, the courts provide a safe haven to wait and the deputy will come get you when it’s your case.
Welcome Igotout,
Glad you got out, and glad you are here. This is a great place to learn, and get support. We “get it” because have all been through some chaos with a personality disordered person.
There are over 700 great articles here! READ!!!!! Knowledge is power. It will help you take back your power! Again,. Welcome and God bless.
Jeannie – what country are you in? (only if you want to disclose) I ask because that name rings a bell……..well several DING DONG BELLS actually. But it can’t be him????? Can it???
Candy,
I in Wisconsin, USA. Does my spath remind you of yours?