Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.
The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:
The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.
Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.
Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:
Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.
Wallflowers
Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:
The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.
Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.
If only it were that easy.
Traits of targeted women
The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?
Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:
- Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
- Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
- Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.
Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.
Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.
Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.
Erin I will remember that if I land in court with him again.
Verity,
Yes, it was a evil feeling when Jim held the court room door open for me after he ran the floor at court.
Does his sick mind tell him that all should be forgotten because he feels like being nice at the moment….
I have seem this behavior with Jim before. He demands trust. He doesn’t earn it.
To Ox Drover,
About: your post to Sherry Re: Her job is beating the crap out of her.
I believe you are so right on!
To Sherry:
I filed for social security for stress after my last job and got it. Abusive behavior was tolerated by management. It created a dangerous work environment. I was being beaten down by my divorce at same time. My new boyfriend took advantage of my situation to beat me down.
Other people noticed I was down and it seemed like the bullies were coming at me like heat seeking missiles.
And it all started with one major stressor in my life, it made me vunerable to the next predator, and then the next.
I couldn’t take anymore. I snapped. I ended up mentally disabled and haven’t recovered since. I may seem ok but you never saw me deal with a stressful situation. It seems like I lose my mind.
I stayed with the bad job, stayed with the bad boyfriend. I end up on disability? A life sentence of poverty.
I am not saying this will happen to you. But, please keep in mind Ox Drovers words about the price to pay for staying is too high.
I watched Dateline tonight. It was about Elizabeth Smart’s ordeal where she was kidnapped and raped for 9 months.
She recovered from it beautifully.
What is the difference between Elizabeth and everyone else?
She has a wonderful family who took Elizabeths cues to figure out what she needed to heal.
Her family noticed that Elizabeth was acting on their cues.
It was this strong family support that got her through this.
I never had that kind of support from my family. My dad would have said I must have done something to deserve what I got.
I didn’t finally get a clear look at abusive people until I was much older and found the websites Hidden Hurt and Love Fraud. I name the sites in this order cause I found HH first.
My dad would have scoffed at these sites. He would have ridiculed it as a free “shrink”.
Well dad… your gone and I’m here. I’m learning the insight that you didn’t think was important. I suppose you wanted me to become a silent wife with a zipper mouth that is always zipped shut.
Skylar,
If I had seen your post the night before court I would have read it and not known what to do with that knowledge you gave.
Now that I know this judge. And now that I see how low Jim stoops. I would have known how to use your advice.
Yet, I wonder if all the advice in the world would have prepared me for what would happen at court. I was dealing with a guy who has a trick up his sleeve for every perforance.
How could I ignore his statements about me when he was saying I damaged his relationship with his children. This was huge to the judge.
And, the judge gave Jim so much floor space. Yet judge limited me on my time.
It was terrible to go through.
I don’t know if there is any school for getting through that.
It seemed to me the judge had an attitude towards me and his attitude was influenced by what Jim wrote and said about me.
jeannie, I admire you for having the courage to
go to court and stand up for yourself!!!
Bravo jeannie!!!!
Hi Jeannie, thanks for you reply, nope can’t be the same guy.
I know Jeannie,
it takes time, I’m not even there yet, but I know I’m right.
they are babies.
Thanks Shabbychic, I thought I didn’t accomplish anything, but then again I did. His restraining order was dismissed and he now knows that I won’t zipper my mouth shut.
Candy, It’s too bad there isn’t a fun story out of this. Just two different spaths from different areas. Yet, they were the same. Enough to get you wondering.
Skylar, Yes, they are babies, king babies.
Hey ya’ll-just checkin in. I been out for a week movin into my new home. Not doin the Christmas tree this year for the first time. After movin so much furniture and boxes, I don’t feel like messin with the da 12 foot tree. I just love it here. My neighborhood is on the National Historic Registry-founded in 1719 and it is adorable. Can’t wait til I have enough $$ to make it just how I want it-a little at a time and I’m gettin a cat after the new year-YAY! I hope everyone here is safe and doing alright!
BTW-workplace socio update-dude is always touchin all the females at work and he’s inappropriate. It’s nauseating how he cheats on his wife and then talks about how much he loves her so much. Anyway, he grabbed me again at work the other day and I said: “Dude, why you think you gotta always touch me and all the women all the time. You better knock that shit off”. He started pouting like a little kid and then wouldn’t cooperate with me when we were in a case together. He’s actin like a child. Also-get this: in NOLA we greet people with kisses a lot. He saw another coworker at a party and tried to kiss her on the mouth in front of her husband. She told him not to do it because her husband didn’t like it and neither did she. Socio says “well I guess he better get over it then”. I want to kick him in the nuts with my cowboy boots on as hard as I can!