Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.
The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:
The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.
Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.
Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:
Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.
Wallflowers
Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:
The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.
Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.
If only it were that easy.
Traits of targeted women
The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?
Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:
- Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
- Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
- Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.
Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.
Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.
Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.
Dear Lostnconfused,
Yep you are right! what is going on in her life is NOT YOUR BUSINESS NOW!!!! And that IS CONTACT, the less you know about her and what she is doing the better off you will be. NOTHING good will come out of you breaking NC. (but you will want to! LOL)
Thanks for the kudos and I appreciate that I’ve been a help you you in your journey! There were lots of great people here who helped me, and so I am just paying it forward!
lostnconfused – oh, i wish my spath had been. she is currently being sued for fraud, and perhaps she will be ordered to have an evaluation when they reach court again.
most of them are never evaluated, unless they end up in prison, where there is some knowledge of spathy, and where they HAVE to submit to evaluation. most spaths will only go to counseling if they can use the situation to manipulate someone or some situation, so they don’t tend to get evaluated.
but, oh boy mine has the ‘S’ burned in her evil little forehead.
Dear One_step,
Even if they ARE evaluated there is no guarentee that the evaluator will “get it”–in readinga through P-son’s medical and psych records getting ready for the hearing, he had GRIFTED at least one of the counselors there into letting him stay in his cell instead of transferring to a dorm–the better to use his cell phone in the cell. (a little pun!)
But one of the Nurse Practitioners had gotten on to him and had him down as “high in AsPD traits” and then she listed them, one by one. Manipulative etc. so I included a copy of her evaluation about his manipulation, his lying, his this and his that….also found other places he had THREATENED people and where he was saying “the warden can shove it up his Mexican ass” (one of the parole board is Hispanic! hee hee He also used the N word a couple of times and one of the parole board is black so I am sure that will endear P son to HIM.) So even if they are in PRISON the prison staff is not always that bright or sharp.
Look at the nurse in the prison where Liane Leedom’s X was—-SHE MARRIED HIM!!!!! How is that for being conned! A prison nurse MARRYING A CONVICT SHE MET ON THE JOB!!! HOW RICH IS THAT?????? ROTFLMAO CHOKE, SNORT, SNARK!!!!
you hear about that ALL the time – people marrying people they met in prison. just goes to show – there are dupes everywhere also</i.
i remember you talking about the NP and her pegging him. Thanks god for some rays of sunshine in the black hole of detection.
I think it was robert hare, who responded to a query about how he could spot a sociopath in an institutionalized population, by saying, "i would know which one was the sociopath easily. of all the people who had asked me for money on the ward in a day, it would be the sociopath who got it from me.'
'nuff said.
That’s a good one, One! (a little pun there! Hee hee)
Robert Hare does have a sense of humor I think, I had forgotten that one. It is so TRUE, too.
ox and one step.
You both know my whole story… And i know you see right through my spath..
But i find myself one day waking up and hating my spath… and the other day, i love her.
i find myself making excuses for her behaviour… I find myself saying “what if she didnt do this.. or what id she didnt do that?”.
Those questions create so much confusion in my head and when i get a little better.. i go back to feeling confused again.
As you know… there has been NC since September… I dont want to break it now but sometimes i feel like i should call her to get some answers… but ofcourse thats the dumbest move ever.
I feel like i take 3 steps forward and 2 back.
It just really hurts.
I keep thinking to myself.. what if i am hurting someone who just genunily loved me?
Dear Lostnconfused,
If you say “what if I am hurting someone who genuinly loved me” The answer is “People who really REALLY loved me don’t do _____to me” then you fill in the blank with a word, like “LIE” and you say “people who love someone don’t LIE to them.
But be assured that we have all had the same feelings and the same weeble wobbling feelings of back and forth. Just COUNTER them with LOGIC when they do show up (as above) and they will eventually lessen in intensity and eventually you won’t wobble any more. Takes time for the emotions to follow the head, but they will. (((Hugs))))
people who love me dont lie to me.
people who love me dont want to see me cry.
people who love me dont make me cry.
people who love me dont make me feel insecure.
people who love me makes sacrifices for me.
people who love me respect my wishes.
people who love me dont want to control me.
people who love me do things for me even if they dont dont want.
it works, ox.
it really works.
Dear Lostncofused,
GOOD! Just keep on reading those things and writing them down. Actually WRITING them makes them go through your brain a different way than seeing them and reading them or hearing them.
So use ALL your senses and many parts of your brain.
Write them down.
Read them aloud.
SAY them aloud from memory.
That is why note taking in school helps us more than just having those things to refer to later. Writing them down at the time we hear them uses another part of our brain.
Lost,
the best one, I think, is “people who love me don’t want to control me”
From my experience, nothing is more true.
Real love wants a person to be the best person that THEY can be. Narcissists only want you to be a “mini-me” or an extension of them and their hopes and wishes.
Real love can actually see that you are a real person – with your own hopes and dreams. And real you is important to them.