Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.
The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:
The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.
Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.
Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:
Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.
Wallflowers
Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:
The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.
Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.
If only it were that easy.
Traits of targeted women
The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?
Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:
- Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
- Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
- Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.
Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.
Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.
Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.
EB, I thought you were snowed in under the 13 feet of snow in your area and/or et by da bar!
Happy Towanda to you and Merry Christmas eve! Hope you are warm and snug under your 10 feet of snow! Brrrrrrr!
We may even get a light dusting of snow here Christmas day but it won’t last, temps will be up in the 40s.
I’m just laying here like a mouse in a fur coat thinking about my vacation in OZ, the land of summer –summer while it is COLD up here! Wonder how he likes my postcards from OZ? hee hee
Lostnconfused,
Thank you so much for writing. I am right there with you. Did they love me? Did they not? They did this, then they did that. What does it all mean? One day you wake up thinking they must have loved you, you contact them, and then the pain starts all over again.
I was up in Michigan a few weeks back. My dad has a pickup truck with a broken plow losely attached to the front of the truck. The plow is lose, and flops all over the place. If you hit a bump, it flops to the right or the left. If you look at the trail the plow + truck leaves, it’s a mess.
I realized there is an analogy here. The plow doesn’t have a “base”. It has no “root”. It just flops out there all over the place doing things that don’t make sense because it’s not grounded on the truck.
Stay with me here.
This is exactly the same thing that happens with the sociopath. The sociopath does something great, and then something terrible and mean all at the same time. They love you and they hurt you. Why? Because they have no conscience. They have no empathy, they have no HEART. Without a heart, they have nothing to guide their behavior. They just do whatever comes to mind to serve their own needs. They mimic actions of other people. It’s totally arbitrary, and inconsistent, because there is NO CORE to who they are. They flop around like a broken plow with no sense of direction.
So the bad stuff AND the good stuff is all true. It’s not one or the other.
One of the professionals on this site recently wrote a fantastic article about how we try to make sense of the sociopath and put them in buckets of “good” or “bad”. It was a great article.
This site is so helpful to me. I hope it is for you.
Superkid10
just got a $200 cheque for ‘christmas’ from the ‘sperm donor’.
guess NOT talking to him pays better than talking to him.
Dear Superklid,
Great post there! You are so right, they have no base, just flop around.
Well, HELLO SISTER ONE_STEP! I didn’t realize we were sisters until you said that “sperm donor” sent you $200 for Xmas…gosh that is great! he didn’t send me a darned dime! I always did think he preferred you to me! WAHHHHHH!!!! I didn’t get nuttin fer christmas! WAHHHHH!!!! LOL
Well, spend it in good health and do something nice for yourself! ((((hugs))))
LMAO OXY! nice one! (i am sure that many of us here have the ‘same’ father…although your’s is a little extra f******* special, and better dead.)
…and the $ is going right to my debt!
Dear Sister One_step, LMAO too! Can’t send you a check through the mail but I can send you a good laugh! Glad it made you chuckle! Yea I think there is only ONE psychopath out there and we’ve all either dated him or been sired by him, keep the incest in the family!
I’m still working on my “clean house Christmas present” to myself! Just worked up a sweat mopping floors. I usually get the son to do the mopping but since he isn’t here and I want the floors clean got to do it myself. Been a bad girl today though, ate two of the Cheryl’s WONDERFUL cookies at 150 cal each and 160 mg sodium each, but only have a few left now and just couldn’t limit myself to 1 per day which is what I was going to do. Shows I can RESIST ANYTHING EXCEPT TEMPTATION!
Well, the sweat is no longer dripping off my nose so I will get back to work. YOu guys keep it between the ditches til I get back at the next break.
Yesterday was great and horrible all in one. It was wonderful because I spent the day with my daughters, met older daughters new boyfriend, went sledding and cooked and ate a bunch.
Counted my blessing and tried to see the good in the day.
Now for the spathiness:
Older daughter wanted to see the spaths relatives (they have been basically good to my kids) and said she would drive up to Grandmas and take other daughter. Spath was difficult, took son to church and came home saying that Grandma cancelled Christmas because she wasn’t feeling well. I little fishy? Yep!
So older daughter called Grandma to wish her a merry Christmas and spath eavesdroped on the whole conversation and said to younger daughter, “What are you looking at?” When she saw him lurking in the same room.
Grandma was still having people over, which was not surprising. She was glad to hear from granddaughters and talked with them for awhile. Spath successfully prevented daughters from actually interacting with his family.
Now this morning he’s crying saying how hard this is for him and he’s trying to find a place to live, I basically told him to can it because he was crying about something that was his fault and I don’t feel bad for him. He said I was unfair. Oh boo hoo. Cry me a fricking river. He messes with me and the girls and still wants me to feel sorry for him? WTF?
So I was happy to spend time with the kids but was thinking that I can’t wait to have a peaceful holiday, spath free. We’ll see what lawyer has to say this week.
Today, the saga continues. He wants to take the kids up to see Grandma. All of them. I told him that daughter A will probably not go anywhere with him (99.99% sure) and she and older daughter L will drive up separately. Spath said I was being difficult. Like I haven’t heard that before. He called older daughter at work and gave her the plea.
Oldest daughter called me and said she was sick of him, he treats me and daughter A badly, never gave a crap about her and now he wants to have her along to look like a happy family? No way! She is going to call him tonight and let him know, although he has a brick for a brain and won’t get it.
His manipulation is never ending. Daughters shouldn’t go see grandma separately because she would feel more comfortable with spath there. Right. He just wants to monitor what they say and he also wants to look like he is the dad of the year. Creepy weirdo!!!!
Dear Hope,
QUOTE: “He just wants to monitor what they say and he also wants to look like he is the dad of the year. Creepy weirdo!!!! ”
Hope4, your daughters are fortunately OLD ENOUGH to decide for themselves IF they want to see grandma, and WHEN they want to see grandma and IF THEY WANT DADDY-KINS there or not.
My advice is to Let them deal with it and just sit back and watch the fire works. I think the girls know what the score is and I think it will empower them to make that decision and have you back them, if push comes to shove. He may just learn he can’t manipulate everything.
Have you gotten in touch with your lawyer about getting him out yet?
Oxy,
My lawyer is out of the office until Wednesday, I have a phone conference scheduled with him on Thursday. What questions should I ask?
Wondering if I should ask if I could get him out with a court order and what do I need to do to have it done quickly.
If you have anything that I should bring up, I would greatly appreciate your input! Thank you!