Victims have a certain way of walking, and psychopaths can spot it. That’s the conclusion two bloggers for Psychology Today reached, based on a scientific study released last year.
The study, Psychopathic traits and perceptions of victim vulnerability, was authored by Sarah Wheeler, Angela Book and Kimberly Costello of Brock University. The abstract states:
The purpose of this study was to determine whether individuals scoring higher on psychopathic traits would be better able to judge vulnerability to victimization after viewing short clips of targets walking. Participants provided a vulnerability estimate for each target and completed the Self-Report Psychopathy Scale: Version III (SRP-III). Higher SRP-III scores were associated with greater accuracy in assessing targets’ vulnerability to victimization.
Psychology Today blogger Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., explained the study further. A group of male university students were asked to watch video clips of 12 people walking. The videos were shot from behind, and the students were asked to rate the ease at which each could be mugged. Several of the individuals had, in fact, been victimized. The students who scored high in psychopathic traits were better at picking out the people who had already been mugged.
Mauro works as a prison psychologist. Based on her experience and this study, she wrote:
Certain personal characteristics are associated with tendency to be on the receiving end of bullying such as harassment and manipulation. I have found that the demonstration of confidence through body language, speech and affective expression, for example, provides some protection.
Wallflowers
Another Psychology Today blogger, Jeff Wise, also commented on the study and what it says about victims. Wise wrote that he recently came across a guy who seemed to have the traits of a psychopath. The man was charming, good-looking, athletic, financially successful—and he left a trail of destruction in his wake. His victims sounded like wallflowers. Wise wrote:
The women who wound up on the receiving end of his attentions were individuals who, in their own description, were not very worldly, experienced, or outgoing. They were psychologically vulnerable and hence ill-equipped to either resist this fellow’s predations or to deal with them emotionally after they had occurred.
Wise concluded that, “people who are on the receiving end of crime often do mark themselves out, if only subliminally.” Mauro suggested that people can decrease perceived vulnerability by projecting dominance—more eye contact, less movement of the hands and feet.
If only it were that easy.
Traits of targeted women
The research both bloggers quoted described a particular situation—people walking down the street, and how vulnerable they might be to being mugged. It should not be generalized to describe all victims of psychopaths. After all, how many of us were involved with muggers?
Consider the research by Dr. Liane Leedom on women who were targeted by psychopaths. She found that they have three traits in common:
- Extraverts. The women are outgoing, competitive, strong-willed and liked excitement. Sometimes they are free-spirited.
- Cooperative. They are high in empathy, tolerance and compassion. They value getting along with others, and are willing to compromise their own interests for the larger picture.
- Invested in relationships. They like being around people. They are sentimental and focus on special moments.
Dr. Leedom’s research relates to women. But I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers, both men and women, who were successful, take-charge individuals—until they met the psychopath.
Personally, I don’t think anyone who watched me walk down the street would tag me as timid or vulnerable. I’m an athlete, and my stride is confident. But I was victimized by a psychopath, who took $227,000 from me, and cheated on me incessantly. And the guy started setting his hooks via e-mail, before he ever saw me walk.
Maybe projecting dominance would work to avoid muggers. But it’s not going to stop victimization by a card-carrying psychopath intent on finding a resourceful new supply.
R-babe, Yea, I think that really IS FUNNY THAT HE STOLE THE BIKE RACK…how silly a thing for him to steal…like a final “giving you the finger” as he went out the door, pithed that you had taken back your KEYS, so he would just snag the bike rack, THAT WOULD SHOW YOU!!!! Snark Snarf choke! Yea, I do think that is funny as heck! WHAT IDIJUTS they are! LOL How Petty Can you get!?!
So now you can laugh at him and his petty thievery and spite and malice! What a jerkface he is! Not even worth taking hi seriously at all, he is a CLOWN! LOL (((hugs))))
Ox: Well, if I really sit back and think about all the juvenile shit he pulled right from the start I could probably pee my pants for 3 hours straight! I remember when we first started dating him getting mad at me over something and saying to my mom “its like hes a kid in a sandbox not getting his way, crossing his arms and yelling at the kids ‘fine! Im just gonna take my toys and leave then!'”
Baffling, really, how sneaky and sly he can be when contriving situations and outcomes and then how childlike he can be too. I think he ‘bullies’ the ones he actually sees as being inferior cause he CAN and then reverts to a child with those he CANT.
What an idiot
Still wondering…why’s the comcast on?
Mine couldn’t steal a bike rack, unless he thought he could carry it on a bike. LOL 🙂
He’s waiting for you to cave so he can come back and suck up all your resources. He wants the comcaste to be there waiting for him.
I hope that doesn’t give you hope and make you happy, as it would have for me when I was up to my eye-balls in the trauma bond. It is all so crazy. I REALLY WANTED HIM TO GO AWAY SO I COULD BE AT PEACE, but I still yearned for him.
If he contacted me, I had a secret happiness about it. And always, always, always, let myself get sucked back in.
He used me up til there was nothing left, then promptly left without a backwards glance.
Dear R-babe, I think he HAS NO INTENTION OF PAYING FOR IT so why turn it off….I think some how he is thinking that this may adversely impact on you. I wouldn’t worry about it at all. If a bill comes to your address from the comcast people, just mark on it, NOT AT THIS ADDRESS and RETURN TO SENDER and put it back into the mail. Eventually they may come to knock on your door wanting their equipment back and if they do you give it to them. At some point THEY will turn off the service to the equipment when the bill is not paid and I would BET the farm that he is not going to pay it. LOL I think it is just another of his juvenile lack of responsibility tricks….and you are right I think he bullies those he can and just throws a tantrum to those he can’t. LOL What a dork! LOL You and I would both be peeing our pants I think at those antics. They weren’t all that funny at the time I imagine but in RETROSPECT you might as well get some humor out of this it is about all that is positive that you’ll get! LOL
um Rox…. Call Comcast and ASK THEM.
If you want the service, get an account with them.
You are going to be amazed at how much free time you have when you stop thinking about HIM.
Hours. Days. Months. Years.
Make the most of them!
Kim and Ox:
I think both of you are correct in your assumptions. I BELIEVE he’s fully aware of the comcast being on still as he hasn’t ‘contacted’ them (like he threatened to do 5 days after leaving) to have it shut off. He ALSO isnt planning on paying the bill because in HIS sick mind IM the one ‘using’ the cable! I also dont have a DOUBT that this is a ‘connection’ that he can either punish me with (if he gets creditors after him) OR use as an ‘in’.
I have found myself wondering what the “real” reason for getting me the dog was too. Did he USE her and say she meant ‘commitment’ for JUST THAT REASON? To use her?…a dog?..really?..eewwwwww!
But whats the motivation? I sorta see having her and him not trying to take her almost like a ‘child’ connection in his mind? One more ‘reason’ to mave contact with me?
I dont know…maybe Im off.
Silver:
Oh, trust me when I say I have a ‘special’ relationship with comcast over this! We are like BFF’s with the amount of contact we have!
They’ve said ‘just wait’ until he shuts it off. The bill will either get so big they HAVE to shut it off and it goes on his credit OR he pays it and has it disconnected.
At this point though, Im unable to ‘shut it off’ because Im not the account holder AND there’s an outstandign balance. Now, should HE shut it off then I have the green light and NO responsibility for the bill…its HIS account. I wont have the bill either way cause the account is his…
Im just wonderign what teh motivation is to keep it on…its COSTING HIM money…but no t.v.!
Yea, I think the dog and probably the comcast too are “connections” that he thinks he has with you…and WHEN (in his mind) he moves back in he wants the comcast to be there, and of course you will help him pay the back bill…..bawhhhhahahahaha yea, right! LOL But in his mind he still has a “child” the dog with you and the comcast so he has NOT GIVEN UP YET Me thinks! LOL I bet he will even volunteer to bring back the BIKE RACK HE BORROWED and forgot to tell you he borrowed….snark snarf choke snort ROTFLMAO