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She’s pregnant with his twins, and catches him in the act, having sex with another woman

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Janeen." I was in an on again off again abusive (physically and mentally) relationship for the past year with a narcopath. He had numerous online accounts and profiles on dating sites where he would find women that he could lie to about who he was, what he did, how many kids he had ”¦ everything. The only truth he told was his name. I found this out the hard way; I was one of those women. We had met online and within a month I was living with him in a different city, an hour and a half away from my friends and family. He would start arguments with outlandish accusations every time I went back home to vi …

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Letter to Lovefraud: I took him back only to be discarded again

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Caitlyn." Read her original story: "I should feel lucky to be free of the sociopath, but it's tearing me up!" You posted my first story and I now have another one. Just couldn't get him off my mind and I took him back only to be discarded again despite my healing. I am very embarrassed and disappointed in myself today, but it may help someone think twice. My story is as follows: Well I did it again. Allowed him back in despite my progress towards healing. This makes the third time. It lasted 2 months and I was discarded again yesterday. Somehow I think my body knew this would happen as I've had panic …

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Some Sociopath Tools–Isolation And Intermittent Reinforcement–They Keep You Hangin’ On

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 19: Of Social Isolation, Pigeons And Food Pellets, Slot Machines, And Intermittent Reinforcement Isolating a woman is a classic strategy that physically and emotionally abusive men use to make her easier to control. It is a red flag that should never be ignored. My move to Minneapolis to be with Paul, distancing me from family and friends back East, was an ideal p …

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Donald Trump, Hillary (and Bill) Clinton – narcissists with psychopathic features

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I am truly depressed about the upcoming presidential election. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton (and Bill Clinton, who comes with Hillary) have serious character flaws that I believe make them unfit to be president of the United States. The talking heads on TV have been practically foaming at the mouth as they disparage whichever candidate they don't support. Unfortunately, they have plenty of legitimate material to work with. Just when you think Donald Trump can't say anything more incendiary, he does. And just when one Clinton scandal dies down, another one surfaces. I don't personally know any of the candidates. But some people who do know them have written tell-all articles and books …

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We lost our daughter to a mind-controlling Internet predator

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Though I am one parent, I am easily the voice of all the parents and families who are living with the horrors of Internet luring of our innocent children for the purpose of human trafficking. The issue is real and our painful journey through this with our only daughter has clearly heightened our awareness of what we have been told is the newest form of “cult like” persuasive coercion, luring, grooming and human trafficking which began with a deliberate and meticulous indoctrination into the world of pornography through an online video game. Our lives have been forever changed. As with anything that can be beneficial, the Internet can also be dangerous. The Internet is the key that opens the …

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Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ltxOgf0bIO0" title="Coping%20with%20Stalking%20-%20How%20to%20overcome%20fear%20and%20fight%20back"] Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back strategies from a woman who's done it Presented by Vicki Kuper Monday, August 29, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. Eastern More info Someone won't leave you alone. This person follows you, calls or texts constantly, shows up at your home or workplace, sends you unwanted gifts, or threatens you. As a result, you feel vulnerable, unsafe, anxious, stressed and afraid. You are being stalked. Vicki Kuper knows exactly what you're going through. She lived it. The man who s …

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Entice, Erode, Control–Just Some Ways Sociopaths Use “Love”

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 18: Of Economics 101 And Frogs In Hot Water You need not have studied economics to know that scarcity drives up value. A sip of water for someone parched in the desert is immensely more valuable than the same sip of water at the end of a meal at a white tablecloth restaurant where an attentive waiter refills your glass constantly. Is love any different? A single g …

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When we stop wishing the past were different, we can recover from destructive relationships

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar: The Miracle in The Madness —Pathway to healing from destructive relationships Presented by Travis F. Vining Thursday, Sept. 8, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. ET More info By Travis F. Vining It may sound silly, or even impossible to some who read this, but all we need to change the misery in our lives from pain to joy is a simple realignment of our perspective. Experience reveals the truth in this statement, but unfortunately, the process that facilitates this shift from misery to miracle is one of the most widely misunderstood concepts in the world ”¦ forgiveness. Not only is forgiveness commonly misunderstood, but in some cases, it is intensely disliked and invok …

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Tina Swithin, author of ‘Divorcing a Narcissist’ to explain what they’re talking about

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Divorcing a narcissist is my superpower — what is yours?  By Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com and Divorcing a Narcissist In 2009, I discovered that there is only one thing worse than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. Being someone who cringes at the mere thought of conflict, I was not prepared for the onslaught of attacks, lies and character assassinations that were launched at me. Even though I had been told by a therapist that my ex-husband was a “narcissist,” I had no idea that the horrific attacks were to be expected while going through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Email, text messages and the teleph …

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I was desperate for closure, revenge and for the truth to get out

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Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as, "lucky2Bfree." Donna, We spoke a while ago and it really did help me, it was good to speak to somebody who genuinely understood how I felt and also get some perspective on the situation. To recap, my fiance borrowed a lot of money for me and told me stories which I now know to be false.  We were living together in the United States, but when I returned to my native country to nurse my terminally ill mother he told me he needed to leave America and wanted to join me. He borrowed more money, told me he was falsely arrested and needed me to pay the bail bond but suddenly went quiet, leading me to believe something awful had …

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