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Tina Swithin, author of ‘Divorcing a Narcissist’ to explain what they’re talking about

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Divorcing a narcissist is my superpower — what is yours?  By Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com and Divorcing a Narcissist In 2009, I discovered that there is only one thing worse than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. Being someone who cringes at the mere thought of conflict, I was not prepared for the onslaught of attacks, lies and character assassinations that were launched at me. Even though I had been told by a therapist that my ex-husband was a “narcissist,” I had no idea that the horrific attacks were to be expected while going through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Email, text messages and the teleph …

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I was desperate for closure, revenge and for the truth to get out

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Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as, "lucky2Bfree." Donna, We spoke a while ago and it really did help me, it was good to speak to somebody who genuinely understood how I felt and also get some perspective on the situation. To recap, my fiance borrowed a lot of money for me and told me stories which I now know to be false.  We were living together in the United States, but when I returned to my native country to nurse my terminally ill mother he told me he needed to leave America and wanted to join me. He borrowed more money, told me he was falsely arrested and needed me to pay the bail bond but suddenly went quiet, leading me to believe something awful had …

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He’s Not Depressed, Anxious, or Sleep Deprived–He’s a Sociopath!

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 17 : The Twilight Zone With my biological clock ticking loudly, once we had been at our new jobs for eighteen months, Paul and I decided it was time to have children. After just two months of trying, the pregnancy test registered positive. I danced around our house. At last, I was going to be a mother! Oddly, Paul showed little interest in our developing child. H …

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Travis Vining, son of a serial killer, talks about healing from destructive relationships

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The Recovery Poem – ‘I could not care less’

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Editor's note: This poem of recovery was written by Lovefraud reader, Arpinsandie. (To clarify the first line, a "6th form pupil" is a British term roughly equivalent to a high school student.) By Arpinsandie You cheated on your first wife with a 6th form pupil and groomed pupils You lost your family because of your behaviour You blamed your wife Your second wife found real love through your abhorrent lies anger rage and dominance You blamed her The 3rd - long term partner - Me You tried to control destroy by lying cheating verbally assaulting bullying a classic case of narcissistic behaviour I dumped you You will blame me But then be proud you are an A1 sociopathic robot Who has lost …

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Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, presents ‘Understanding the language of a narcissist’ on Lovefraud CE

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Lovefraud is very pleased to announce that Tina Swithin, author of the well-known website, OneMomsBattle.com, will be presenting an important Lovefraud CE webinar: Understanding the Language of a Narcissist During a Divorce or Custody Battle Tuesday, August 9, 8-9 pm ET Recording subsequently available on demand Tina knows from first-hand experience the madness anyone trying to divorce a narcissist encounters. She says: Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date. Those flags grew larger and more vibrant during our marriage. As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in highly flammable kerosene. I realized …

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Sociopaths–Diverging Public Versus Private Personas

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  By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 16: You Have But Slumber'd Here While These Visions Did Appear I chalked up Paul's honeymoon comment to the shock and stress of us both returning to our grueling careers after our wedding and week off in California. Like a dream, the clarity of the incident and subsequent confusing and unsatisfying conversation with Paul faded. Life went on. Perhaps b …

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My life Living with a Sociopath (5 Years Wasted)

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  My husband on the outside — the man everyone else sees: - The nicest person you could ever meet - Positive, Non-Confrontational, High Energy, Bubbly Personality - Will bend over backwards to do anything to help anyone - He is everyone's best friend - He will cook for you or will clean dishes if you cook for him ”¦ and always offers a helping hand - Very attentive - Very loving - Will serve you coffee in bed every morning and maybe breakfast too! - The kindest and biggest gentleman you think you have ever met - Will always tell you how beautiful you are everyday - He will take very good care of you financially - He is always concerned for everyone's well being - He is an e …

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Sociopaths–Why We Believe Their Lies

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 15: He Always Tells the Truth—Even When He Lies Much as agents in the Men in Black movies used “neutralizers” to erase any recall of alien encounters, Paul dazzled and distracted me with brilliant linguistic gymnastics to obscure any glimpses of his true, dark, soulless self. He was masterful at talking his way out of anything and creating an alternate reality to get …

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My new dog offers a lesson in letting go

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  Meet my new dog, Bo. My husband, Terry, and I brought him home from a shelter on Thursday. I've been meaning to get a dog ever since my previous dog, Beau, died of old age. That was more than 13 years ago. What took so long? I never felt like I had the time or the energy for another dog then suddenly, more than a decade slipped by. My first dog, Beau Beau was with me when I met my sociopathic ex-husband. During all the confusion and upheaval of my fake marriage to James Montgomery, my dog was the loyal companion that my husband should have been. After two and a half years with Montgomery, I discovered that my entire marriage was a scam. I left him, and Beau was my comfort. As …

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