Editor's Note: This Letter to Lovefraud is from a Lovefraud Reader whom we'll call “Aubree.” Names have been changed. I recently got out of a two year relationship with a person who I believe is a sociopath, or at the very least an extremely vengeful borderline. When we first got together, he told me that he used to have a habit of going to bars, finding the prettiest and most confident-looking woman there, and proceeding to go up to her and start picking on her and making fun of her for something that he suspected she might be insecure about. For example, if he saw a girl who was beautiful but wasn't stick-thin, he'd go up to her and start making snide remarks about her weight. He said h …
Mother just wants molesting ex properly prosecuted
Two months after a mother of four separated from her husband, she found out from her children that their father had been sexually molesting them. She called the Ministry of Children and Family Development Vancouver and the Vancouver Police Department for assistance. The court issued a restraining order against the father preventing him from interacting with the mother or the children. In retaliation, the father and his friends called the Police and the Ministry repeatedly claiming the mother to be crazy and unfit to take care of the children. The court stepped in and awarded custody of the children to foster parents. A social worker eventually allowed the father unsupervised visitation, …
Michelle Rowling’s ominous Facebook message: ‘If anything happens to me’
When Michelle Rowling, 25, of East St. Louis, Missouri, found out her former boyfriend was being released from prison she knew there was a chance something might happen to her. It did. Five days after she posted a warning on Facebook, police found her stabbed to death in her apartment. Montrell Cooper, her former boyfriend, is being investigated in her death. 'If anything happens to me, let my kids know I love them': Mother's terrifying Facebook premonition three days before 'ex-boyfriend stabbed her to death', from MailOnline. …
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Letters to Lovefraud: He flat out admits he is a sociopath
Editor's note: The following letter was sent by 26 year-old Lovefraud reader “Clarissa.” Names have been changed. My name is Clarissa. I have just ended a relationship with someone who I believe is a sociopath. I'm having a difficult time accepting and trying to understand this relationship and getting over the events that occurred. Reconnecting with Blain after so many years I will call my ex “Blain.” I had dated him briefly in high school and broke up with him. He randomly contacted me online 9 years later and was very persistent in me going for a coffee with him. At first I ignored him but when I saw he kept messaging me I said ok, I ended up meeting him and didn't think anything …
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Married to a Sociopath: Illusions and Distractions
By Quinn Pierce I watched a special on television once about a magician. The show revealed secrets behind the magician's act. I remember watching the assistant disappear through a trap door. The door was situated beneath a table that was sitting on an angle which the audience couldn't see. It occurred to me that living with a sociopath is not unlike living with a magician. A sociopathic spouse creates an illusionary life complete with spontaneous tricks, secrets, and a hidden escape route. Distraction With a Touch of Flair Most arguments within my marriage were subject to a minimum requirement of drama. It was very unusual for a topic to be discussed at face value; usually, my ex …
Research on trusting your gut
Lovefraud advocates trusting your gut, instincts or intuition when it comes to romantic relationships. Jim McNulty, a psychology professor at Florida State University, just published research that tested how "automatic attitudes" and "semi-conscious attitudes" predicted long-term happiness in romantic relationships. Gut feelings might be best predictors of marital bliss, on IndividualHealthNews.com. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader. …
Sociopaths and the three components of love
Last week, my husband, Terry Kelly, and I traded colds. I got sick first, and Terry made chicken soup and did what he could to make me feel comfortable. Then, despite my best efforts to keep my germs to myself, Terry got sick. By this time I was feeling better. So I went to the store and bought cold medicine, tissues and orange juice, because I'd used everything up. I made him chicken soup. I even made him a pot of chili. As I did all this, I noticed a warm feeling within me. It was the joy of taking care of someone I loved. I was concerned about his health and wellbeing. I was happy and energized to help him. It was a feeling sociopaths never experience. Three behavioral …
Stop Asking Yourself Why and What
By Patricia Jackson When you live with a sociopath or psychopath (the difference will be the subject of a future article) you find yourself analyzing everything he (or she if you were unfortunate enough to be targeted by the fifteen per cent that are estimated to be female) says can be a source of endless analysis. The questions go something like this: 1) Why did he suddenly change? (Meaning why did he just go from being pleasant/kind/good/nice/reasonable to mean?) 2) What happened in his past that makes him act like this? 3) What did I say, do, fail to say, fail to do, that provoked him? 4) What if I do X. Y. Z? Or for that matter A. B. C. D. E. F. G. through W? (Maybe that will …
How Career Con Artists Take Risks With Your Career, Reputation, and Resources
Editor's note: The following story was contributed by the Lovefraud reader "Abbie123." Names have been changed. A while ago, I was going through a difficult break up when an acquaintance friend of mine named "George" invited me to "get away from it all" at a conference held on an exclusive resort island, no strings attached. Although George and I had only known each other a few weeks, I was vulnerable and the rare opportunity to boost my own spirits and career by spending a weekend mingling with an elite group of international business leaders in my professional field in the lap of luxury so far from my painful reality seemed irresistible. But that was not what happened in reality. As i …
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Divorcing A Sociopath: The First Steps Are The Most Difficult
by Quinn Pierce I remember walking along the sidewalk, the ice-covered snow crunching under my feet. The moonlight did nothing to warm winter's night air, but I couldn't feel the cold. I just walked. One foot in front of the other. Next to me, my dog, Sammy, followed my pace keeping her long Great Dane legs in short strides. This was our usual Saturday night outing since separating from my ex-husband. It was the only thing I could bring myself to do instead of sitting at home, missing my children and crying. I tried so hard to shield them from the angry and hurt emotions swirling around my dissolving marriage. I believed it was best to try to foster a healthy relationship between …
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