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6 really bad reasons for staying with the sociopath

January 31, 2022 //  by Donna Andersen//  18 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2022. If you're reading Lovefraud, it's probably because you suspect that your partner is disordered and you've been staying with a sociopath. This person's behavior has baffled you: How can he lie so prolifically? How can she be so cold? How can anyone behave so horribly and then act as if nothing happened? So you went looking on the Internet for answers. You've plugged this person's upsetting behavior into your favorite search engine and come across a list of traits such as Lovefraud's Key Symptoms of a Sociopath. Check, check, check — the person exhibits all or most of them. So what do you do now? The correct answer is to get the person out of your life as quickly a …

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Category: Seduced by a sociopath

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11 abusive behaviors you’re likely to see from sociopathic partners

January 24, 2022 //  by Donna Andersen//  72 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2022: When Lovefraud readers ask me for personal consultations, it's because someone in their lives usually a romantic partner acts in ways that they simply cannot understand. The readers describe an unfathomable mixture of affection, attention, contradictions, deception, blaming and rage. It makes no sense and it's behavior that they've never seen before. So imagine the readers' surprise when I say, “Yeah, they all do that.” It's true. Sociopaths all seem to engage in the same abusive behaviors. Recognizing physical and sexual abuse is straightforward enough. You may also be aware of psychological and emotional abuse. But if you're involved with a sociopath, you may als …

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Category: Seduced by a sociopath

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How do sociopaths know what tactics to use?

January 17, 2022 //  by Donna Andersen//  2 Comments

Lovefraud received the following question from a reader who was trying to understand sociopathic behavior: HOW do sociopaths KNOW what to do or how to act or what tactics to use to get what they want? They use tactics such as intermittent reinforcement or hijack our human bonding system, but they do not have degrees in psychology, nor do they consciously understand (I assume) that this is what they are doing – so HOW do they know to use those tactics to begin with??  It’s as if they are reading from the same ‘manual’ and that makes me wonder: Is it subconscious, intuitive behavior on their part?? Yes, sociopaths all seem to be operating out of the same playbook. Let’s take a look at it: …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

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Healthy shame, toxic shame and sociopaths

January 15, 2022 //  by Donna Andersen//  Leave a Comment

As human beings, we’re not perfect, and sometimes we learn this the hard way. Shame is the unpleasant, unsettling emotion that we feel when we discover a defect in ourselves. Although we feel badly, shame can actually be constructive — it can motivate us to learn, improve, or make amends. This is healthy shame. Toxic shame, however, is destructive; we feel weak, pathetic and worthless. Sociopaths never feel healthy shame, and they push us to feel toxic shame. At the most basic level, shame is a defense mechanism, according to the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM). It enables us to learn how to keep ourselves safe from harm. This was important i …

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Category: Lovefraud Continuing Education, Recovery from a sociopath

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The silent treatment and sociopaths — it’s all about control

January 10, 2022 //  by Donna Andersen//  3 Comments

If you have a sociopath in your life — whether a romantic partner, family member or friend — you probably have experienced, or will experience, the silent treatment. Why? Because from the sociopath’s point of view, it works. What is the silent treatment? As the term implies, someone who engages in the silent treatment stops talking to you. You want to communicate, and the other person refuses. If you are trying to contact the individual when you are not physically in the same place, they don’t respond to your texts, emails or phone calls. If you are in the same house — heck, even in the same room — they do not acknowledge you, let alone speak to you. They may look at you, then look away. …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

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When narcissistic injury turns into pathological rage

January 8, 2022 //  by Joanie Bentz, B.S., M.ED, LBS, CCBP//  6 Comments

By Joanie Bentz, B.S., M.Ed., LBS I always say that all narcissists are dangerous and have the potential to escalate to pathological rage —seriously harming their targets or anyone who gets in their way. For example, let’s look at the case of Jodi Arias. In 2008, Jodi Arias was convicted of the gruesome murder of her boyfriend, Travis Alexander. I remember catching various glimpses of Jodi Arias in news articles online and on TV. I vividly remember her face. Arias and Alexander shared an on-again, off-again relationship described as tumultuous. On their last day together, Arias, 24, stabbed the 30-year-old Alexander 29 times, slit his throat, and then fired a bullet into the back of his he …

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Category: Media sociopaths

In the New Year, true emotional recovery from the sociopath

January 6, 2022 //  by Donna Andersen//  2 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2022: It's the New Year, the perfect time to reflect on what we truly want in life. If you are or have been involved with a sociopath, your most ardent wish is probably for recovery. Here's the secret that will enable you to achieve your desire: All true healing is internal. Therefore, be sure to work on your emotional recovery. You may feel like I'm stating the obvious, because you feel like crap, and you want to feel better. Or worse, you are numb, and you can't feel anything. You may believe that fixing some external problem caused by the sociopath will enable you to feel better. If you can just finalize the divorce, get custody of the kids, move away, get your money b …

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Category: Recovery from a sociopath

Donna Andersen on the TV show Love, Honor, Betray

Watch Donna Andersen on the Investigation Discovery TV show ‘Love, Honor, Betray’

December 13, 2021 //  by Donna Andersen//  3 Comments

I invite all Lovefraud readers to watch me tell my story of marriage to a sociopathic con man in the season finale of the new Investigation Discovery series called, Love, Honor, Betray. The show aired on Dec. 16, 2021, but you can still watch it on demand and online. My show is Episode 6, Too Good to Be True. (Ain't that the truth.) You can watch it here: InvestigationDiscovery.com - Search for the show on the website. If your cable TV service provides this channel you can log in and watch free. Discovery+ - Streaming service for all Discovery shows. Go to the Investigation Discovery section then search for the show. Amazon Prime - Free if you're an Amazon Prime subscriber, or you can buy …

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Category: Media sociopaths

Spath Tales

Recover from the sociopath by acknowledging the pain

December 12, 2021 //  by Donna Andersen//  39 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2021. Editor's note: Lovefraud previously published a letter from a reader whom we called "Bessy." It was entitled, "The only hope I have is that Karma exists." This is a follow-up letter from Bessy — she's not feeling any better. In my response, I suggest that she acknowledge the pain. My ex has not contacted me in 9 months and I know I should feel lucky, but I feel even more inadequate and unlovable than he made me feel back then. Why do I hear of boomerangs and "they always come back" stories and my phone is silent. Was "I" that bad??? I was vulnerable I think I was attracted and vulnerable in the first place because I was at a crossroads, facing losing my mother, a …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Spath Tales

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Why, after 20 years, did I let my abusive ex back into my life?

December 6, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  5 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2021. Lovefraud received the following email from a reader. whom we'll call "Camille," who asks, why did I let my abusive ex back? When I was 16, I began a relationship with a guy that was 20. I met him through a mutual friend. We began a relationship that was volatile and tumultuous. I was a senior in high school. I would get out of school midday on a work program, but instead of going to work, I would go to his house. He would force me to have sex with him, steal from me, and physically abuse me. He would call me and apologize and I do not know why, but I would always go back. One day he called me and told me that he wanted to take me to eat at one of his friend's …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

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