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Toxic relationships are like being chased by a tiger

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Editor's note: Lovefraud welcomes a new author, Attorney Caroline Parsons from Queensland, Australia. Today she explains how the violence — physical and emotional — of toxic relationships affects your brain. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. In prehistoric times, when a caveman realised he had been spotted by a sabre-toothed tiger, his primitive brain flooded his body with cortisol so he could fight or escape the beast. “Freezing” (or becoming immobile) is also a response to extreme threat. When a modern brain reacts in a similar way to a traumatic event, it can result in post-traumatic stress. …

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In Recovery from a Sociopath, Faith and Hope Can Make All the Difference

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds you that in recovery from a sociopath, faith and hope are crucial. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest If you've been dealing with the fallout of a relationship with a sociopath, or if you're experiencing other challenges, things might feel awful for you right now. I hope not, but of course Life does have a way of being miserable sometimes. And in some cases, it can go on a very long time. It's not as miserable when you feel like you have some control over the situation...when you can actively do something to make it better, to change it in some way and get …

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Sociopath reveals her disorder in her email address

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "William20." He writes about the shocking and flagrant way in which a sociopath reveals her disorder, although he didn't realize it for a long time. Statements in brackets [ ] are editor's notes. I joined Lovefraud about three years ago, although I was aware of you before that, when my relationship with a covert narcissist I was engaged to for over two years ended horribly (at least for me). I thought I had recovered and in time "re-discovered" a lost love and a person who I considered to be a good friend for more than 19 years. We married last December and after I completed a full rehab and upgrade …

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Begin Recovery from a Sociopath: A Journey of a Thousand Miles…

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds you that to begin your recovery from a sociopath, start where you are. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest It is said that, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." This is attributed to Lao-Tzu, a brilliant Chinese philosopher who wrote a lot about the Tao. More correctly, the proper translation from Chinese is "The journey of a thousand miles begins beneath one's feet." I love both of these statements. At first glance, they might seem to have almost identical meanings. They are thought to be interchangeable but in fact, each is quite …

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My sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call Elizabeth20, who writes that her sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow. Married to a sociopath for 9 years, split up four times and reconciled within seven months each time. Subjected to emotional, psychological, physical and financial abuse. Most recently I was manipulated into allowing another woman in his life who has a life threatening illness ( which is actually true ) because they got together during out split up, then she had a brain seizure while with him that made her completely dependent on him. We arranged to meet and talk, and agreed that he carry on living with her and being her …

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Rebuild Life After a Toxic Relationship by Staying Positively Positive

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to rebuild life after a toxic relationship by staying positive. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I don't read the paper. I don't listen to the news. In fact, I'll go a step further. I won't read the paper and I won't listen to the news. There's so much torment and tragedy, murder and misery, nothing but story after story about man's inhumanity to man, about horrible accidents, Acts of God that cause death and destruction. And especially given that I've spent more than enough time in my own life dealing with the damage and pain caused by life with s …

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If There’s a Way into This Mess, There’s a Way Out

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Oh, no! How did I get into this? How did this happen? My life was ticking along just fine - or maybe not all that fine, but it wasn't like this! It's a disaster! Does this sound familiar? I'm sure we've all been there. Especially if we've been involved with a sociopath. Perhaps that's where you are right now. And if you are, the good news is that if you got into a mess, you can get out of it, too. Okay, it's true, there may be some aspects of your situation that you cannot change. If, for example, you're sitting in a car that you just wrapped around an enormous tree a moment ago, you can't rewind about ten seconds and take it all back. After all, life isn't like one big shoelace that you …

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The sociopath’s lies got worse and I thought it was my problem

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Middle Eastern man, whom we'll call "Amon20," who got involved with a disordered woman. He writes about the sociopath's lies and how they affected him. This is my story. I work in China as an English interpreter. I was on vacation to visit my family in 2018 and when I was going back to China I met her in Abu Dhabi. At that time I was still lost and needed help because my Chinese wasn't good so I added her and we started talking to each other regularly we had chemistry and she was really charming. But then after I decided to move to her city and be together and we both stayed together, a lot of things really appeared — her p …

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Magnify the Magnificence of Your Life

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to magnify the magnificence of your life, even as you recover from a toxic relationship. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom Wow.  Look at that.  Another new day.  Isn't it magnificent? You might ask, "What's so magnificent? I have to do this and that and a bunch of other stuff I don't really want to do. And I'm still dealing with the miseries produced by that toxic relationship!! Can I just go back to bed now, please, and call it a day?" Well, I don't know, that's up to you. But you ask, what's so magnificent? For one thing, you woke up today. Yo …

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Her husband was a sociopath, and her whole marriage was a lie

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as Gigi2020, who says her whole marriage was a lie. Donna Andersen responds at the end of her story. Letter from Gigi20 I just recently learned that my ex husband lied to me about what I'm guessing is everything, our whole marriage was a lie. I am having a hard time comprehending that he would be able to live his charade for 8 years. I caught him in small lies our whole marriage but I would brush them off. When he drank, which was most of our relationship, but the last year and a half, the red flags were all over the place. However he had told me that he was in an explosion in Iraq, which caused a brain injury …

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