Reviewed by Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)
Simon Baron-Cohen, author of The Science of Evil: On Empathy and the Origins of Cruelty, is a professor of Developmental Psychology in the department of Experimental psychology and psychiatry at the University of Cambridge. He is director of the University’s Autism Research Center and has endless awards for his research and writing.
If you only read one book about empathy, this book should be it! Baron-Cohen explores the definition of empathy, or the lack of it, in humans, to answer his own questions about the Nazi atrocities in Germany before and during World War II. He also, as a scientist, wanted to explore why some people treat other as objects and answer his questions about how a human being can treat another person with utter cruelty and lack of compassion. His definition of empathy is:
Empathy is our ability to identify what someone else is thinking or feeling and to respond to their thoughts and feelings with an appropriate emotion.
Empathy … requires not only that you can identify another person’s feelings and thoughts, but that you respond to those with an appropriate emotion.
He explains that lack of empathy can be a fleeting state, in which anger, drugs, alcohol, or distractions dampen our empathy temporarily, or it can be a life-long pattern from which there is no recovery. He goes on to show that there are medical conditions in which both parts of empathy are missing (recognition of another’s feelings as well as responding to those feelings.)
Like any good scientist who studies his subject in a scientific manner, Baron-Cohen actually measures empathy. He and his team devised a Empathy Quotient (EQ) in order to measure empathy on the standard bell curve, where the majority of humans are in the middle. Most people have a reasonable amount of empathy most of the time (both recognizing and responding to the feelings of others), with fewer people having a much greater amount of empathy, and others having a lesser amount of empathy.
When I meet someone with very little empathy, it is as if they lack the very apparatus to look inwards at themselves, as if they lack a reverse periscope that would enable them any vision of themselves.
He defines, for research purposes, empathy into six broad categories. He describes zero empathy as:
Individual has no empathy at all ”¦ at which level some people commit crimes and are violent, but ”¦ fortunately, not all people with zero empathy wish to harm others ”¦ they cannot experience remorse or guilt.
At level six are the hyper-empathetic people that he describes as:
Continually focused on other people’s feelings, and go out of their way to check on these and to be supportive. It is as if their empathy is in a constant state of hyper-arousal, such that other people are never off their radar.
Using both psychology and brain scans of the areas of the brain involved in empathy, Baron-Cohen explains how the various personality disorders, psychopathy he uses that word borderline and narcissism, overlap in empathy or lack of it. Other medical conditions, such as autism, also cause problems with empathy.
He shows that people with classic autism, while not having empathy, do not generally intend to cause harm to anyone. The book also explores the genetic links. as well as the environmental links. that can produce low or lacking empathy in a personality.
Appendix 1 is the Empathy Quotient self test. Appendix 2 is How to Spot Zero Degrees of Empathy (Negative). It discusses borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality, a young person with conduct disorder, and How to Recognize a Narcissist.
This is an excellent book for learning more about ourselves, as well as learning about people with low levels of empathy. I highly recommend this book for both scientific information and for common sense information that is useful day to day in dealing with others in our lives.
The Science of Evil: On Empathy and the Origins of Cruelty, on Amazon.com.
Ana: Black Velvet is a fine Canadian Whiskey. 🙂
Yah, I suppose thank God I didn’t contact it but I sure would like to have it a lone in a boxing ring for about half hour with no intrusions and his hands duct taped behind his back. 🙂 That pig.
Yah, I am already not looking forward to being grouchy, that’s for sure. I am already starving and I haven’t hardly started my fast! hahahaha I have had to go on low cholesterol/no salt diet. I have always been healthy so I have no problem with high blood pressure. Usually mine is too low. I am fortunate in a lot of respects as my condition could have been a lot worse than what it is. I have what they call: SCD = sudden cardiac death disorder. I could just ‘fall off’ at any moment. He knew it the whole time and would call and laugh at me on the phone or have his OW call and harass me…my being just out of the hospital too…
Yah: I never hardly EVER eat fast food. That is the most gross stuff! BLUCK! I cook at home, light, and it’s better for you. Not much meat but lots of fresh fruits and vegetables. Gotta keep that white meat in there for protein. I am also very fond of a high fiber diet!
Yum: talking about salsa and guacamole makes me hungry! Good luck at your MD stuff Ana – I found out yesterday I have cataracts – not bad enough for surgery yet, thank goodness!
And, you mean to tell me, “I” have time for this IDIOT SPATH to take up?? I don’t think so. 🙂
Have a nice evening you guys ~
eat well for me too. 🙂
Dupity Dupey
Dear Ana,
Yea, I LOVE ice cream too and cheese, used to make home made of them both, and corned beef and jerky….but all have lots of salt in them. The milk has natural sodium in it as well as lots of calories.
I try to limit my fats, eat WHOLE grains, corn (I grind it myself) and steel cut oat meal and fresh or frozen fruits and veggies mostly….made my own bread (machine) again for a while but found a multigrain whole grain bead that has ZERO sodium in it.
Cutting down on STRESS I think is one of the biggies in taking care of our health, as well as eating well, exercising and sleeping well. I’m not “into” much in the way of supplements or “alternative” herbs and spices…unless there is some hard science to back it up…but I do believe in eating as “close to natural” as possible. As unprocessed as possible. Even being in health care as a profession I’m going to avoid every medicine I do not ABSOLUTELY NEED…avoid unnecessary surgery of any kind, or treatments that are not absolutely necessary if I can help it. Simple is good and will try that first before I go to complex.
Cholesterol is partly genetic and I got lucky on that score, am just “borderline” high….so had a choice and the old niacin (a B vitamin) has side effects most people don’t like (hot flashes!) but does not have the statin side effects, but doesn’t work as well either, so it is a trade off. There are trade offs in most things in our lives, really.
The things I CAN control are the ones I will control. The rest I will leave up to God to handle. He ran the universe for a long time before I came along and will after I am gone, so I think He can do the job. LOL
Oxy,
Yeah, God is good like that 🙂 Do you know the number that cholesterol is considered high? I know mine is high, high (thanks, dad).
We did try oat groats, I swear it kept me full for HOURS!!
Yep, did you ever hear of Ezekial bread? That’s what I eat, it probably has a lot of sodium in it tho. I’ve been eating a lot a spinach, asparagus, and brocoli. Sorry, I just butchered the spelling of those veggies lol.
There’s nothing like the spath “event” to make you look at yourself and then make changes..after going thru hell, I felt like I had no choice but to do or die. By that I mean a slow downward spiral of gaining weight, nightmares, the FOG, mental health, etc..you know what I mean. I’m starting to feel really good now physically and mentally (although mentally is going slower) I do feel better!
Ana, The Ezekiel bread has a LOW SODIUM (actually NO Sodium) variety, tastes the same to me…the regular is lower than most breads but the “low” is NO so that is what I go for. The oat groats do keep you full for hours….and are supposed to lower your cholesterol a BIT (oats of any kind) and I’ve eaten enough to whinney! Or Bray as the case may be! LOL Also garlic is supposed to help cholesterol and can’t hurt you so I eat lots of that as well.
Good food is not going to hurt you (assuming you are not really allergic like shrimp or peanut butter etc that makes you quit breathing!) Some food intolerances (versus allergies) where something upsets your stomach or whatever have to be attended to…like lactose intolerance and that sort of thing.
The HIGH stress though I think makes us so ill that we may not recognize when we are truly SICK….I almost died with Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever from a tick bite and was so weak I could not stand more than a minute before I even realized I was “sick”—it is a wonder I didn’t die before I even realized I wasn’t “well.” I kept thinking it was just “hot in the room” when it was a fever. That was the “summer of chaos” in 2007….I got it again the next summer and went to the doctor QUICKLY at the first sign of fever. I wasn’t totally UN-stressed by then either, but was more aware of what was going on with my body.
Being a health care professional (now retired) makes me a BAD patient in many ways because I will try to “deny” sickness and explain it away anyway, but now I make every effort to be a GOOD patient and to follow my doctor’s orders.
I think the biggest hurdle was stopping smoking—I had “tried” several times before for months at a time, but in the back of my mind I always knew I was “kidding myself” and that I WOULD start back. Now, this time, I have QUIT (over 2 years now) and even when I do get the urge (and I still do) I will NOT let myself take that first puff. FOR ME., Not because I “should” quit, or someone else wants me to but because I DECIDED TO.
Doing things for ME, and me alone is a new thing for me and I like it, it motivates me to be good to myself. Glad you are doing so as well. The “mentally” part will get there!
so the gal that cuts my hair said ‘ i am so bummed that i didnt get to go to Sturgis this year’ i say what
‘s in sturgis and she goes OMG you mean you have never heard of the biggest baddest biker event in the whole world? I say well guess i live under a rock..so tonite there is a thing on TV about Millions of bikers/ motorcycle etc in sturgis …i am still gonna find a new barber…I mean she looked at me like i was crazy duh well so what…..I dont like foot ball either – wish i could move to the moon…
Yeah Hens ~ There are plenty of folks crazy about that annual trip to Sturgis. From what I have heard of it, it’s one great big drunken bash. I dunno, I think I’m too old for that sh*t.
I think you would probably enjoy looking at the moon from here, rather than from on it’s surface. Besides that, we’d miss you!!
🙂 h2h
h2h i am just rambling tonite, kinda in a foul mood, but you always make me smile…..my hair gal is a wild thang for sure, she has tattoos from her whazoo to her eyebrows….I mean she just needs to cut my hair and stop telling me about her crazy life and lookin at me bewildered when i dont know what shes talkin about..
hens ~ sorry to hear you’re in a bit of a foul mood. Sounds like your hair gal would fit right in at that big ol biker bash!
Does she at least do a nice job on the haircut?
yes she does but I am gettin weary of being her captive audience – I only have one nerve left and she’s just gettin to be a bit to much….
Well dang it. It’s too bad that you’re several states away. I would cut yer hair for ya n you wouldn’t have to deal with that.
🙂