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My Story of Lies: His Lies to Me and the Lies I Told Myself

July 15, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 21 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as “Gaslit073168.” I met him in spring of 2014 through an online dating site. He was so honest in his profile (sarcasm now, in awe then) about being imperfect. Depression was his biggest flaw, in his eyes. He was sad because his kids live in Japan where he can only see them when he can financially manage to make the trip. It's been this way for a couple years because his now ex wife left him and decided to go home to her family in Japan. This wasn't the only reason he was depressed. He had brain cancer in 1998 that caused him to be legally blind in one eye, a huge bald patch across the back of his head and no tee …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: The Aftermath – The fight against the sociopath is 90% over

June 27, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 7 Comments

The Lovefraud reader who posts as “Winifred” has written about dealing with her husband's sociopathic ex-wife. Read “The Other Prey loving someone previously married to a sociopath” and “Survival tips when the ex is a sociopath.” My husband's ex sociopath wife and their 2 (now adult) children have been the focus of many of my writings to you and this site. I title this article "The Aftermath" because his youngest of the 2 children with her has just been emancipated at 19 by the state of Indiana, Thank God! We are still facing 3 more years of college dealings with his ex, but the difficult, emotionally, mentally and physically tolling part is over ”¦ we hope! My husband and I are now finding …

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Advice for Protecting Elderly Relatives from Sociopaths and Gold Diggers

June 18, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 8 Comments

Editor's Note: Yesterday, Lovefraud posted a story from a reader whom we'll call "Maura." She describes how a female sociopath latched on to her recently widowed father, took over his life, and tried to hasten his demise. Read the story. Following are tips that Maura and her family learned the hard way. Our Advice On How to Protect An Elderly Relative This is our advice based on our experience to best protect an elderly relative should they marry a sociopath or a gold digger: 1. Immediately hire a private investigator to do a background check on the new spouse. Verify marriage status, divorce and marriage history, career history, credit history, bankruptcy, ancestry, court records, pre …

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A Female Sociopath’s Euthanasia Mission

June 17, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 8 Comments

Editor's Note: This story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Maura." To me dying in old age should be a serene peaceful experience. A time when one is surrounded and supported by loving family members and friends. However, when a sociopath spouse is entered into the mix those normal expectations can be thrown straight out the window. The sociopath will hijack the situation and you will be constantly blindsided. The sociopath will be relentlessness in preventing family and friends from being at the bedside. Instead of focusing your time and energy on the patient, it will be continually diverted to dealing with the sociopath's latest havoc. Grieving, widowed dad meets and ma …

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I was played and my whole marriage was a giant lie

June 13, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 6 Comments

Editor's note: This Spath Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name Devin. I believe my soon to be ex is a sociopath. I am wife number four, and still the problem is me. I have learned so much about narcissists since the big discard at a Chik-Fil-A almost two years ago.Yeah, I was THAT important. Told I would be divorced while whoever he was with was hiding in the bathroom. So glad I don't live like that anymore! I am going to speak about Christian sociopaths. He was a bible theology major and an ordained minister that I met at church. How could I lose? I thought I hit the jackpot. He was kind, attentive, loving. etc. Thought he loved the Lord. When we started dating, …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: He was not like a human being

June 9, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 14 Comments

Editor's Note: This letter to lovefraud was submitted by a woman who was born in Germany of Turkish heritage, who now lives in London, England. We'll call her "Ozgur Ruh." She calls her ex-husband "Evil". I met my ex -- "Evil" -- on the internet back in 2012. He was a captain and was working in Liverpool, UK. My first thoughts was this guy can be only a friend I was not attracted to him at all. Then he started to call me very often and things just took off. I am 42 now, had one failed marriage when I was very young. I was not looking for love, I was only talking to guys. Big mistake. Anyway he proposed on 1st of April -- what a joke! I thought I was falling in love. He lived in Turkey an …

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The sociopath has changed me and I will never be the same: Part 3 of 3

June 6, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 14 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader in Belgium, whom we'll call "Enora." Read Part 1 and Part 2. One day he told me that I was crazy and that I had to see a psychiatrist. So I went. When I told him what my life was like and what had been happening the man said: “You don't have to be a psychiatrist to see what is happening. You have to leave this man. People in concentration camps were depressed. You are living in a concentration camp. If you don't leave him, you will become chronically depressed and then what will happen to your children?” At that time I started to think about leaving. Before, I didn't want my children to come from a broken home. Now I rea …

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The sociopath has changed me and I will never be the same: Part 2 of 3

June 4, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 5 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader in Belgium, whom we'll call "Enora." Read Part 1. Starting the business was very expensive. We went to the bank for a loan, but he wasn't able to get one, as he was blacklisted by every bank in the country. I had to cosign a loan so that he was able to pay for his debts to the bank. Now that problem was dealt with, we were able to start a business being equal shareholders and equally responsible for everything. I told him that this was something that we would work for until our retirement and that in a year, he couldn't change his mind or be fed up with it. He agreed, but he kept expressing his doubts about me. He felt that …

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The sociopath has changed me and I will never be the same: Part 1 of 3

June 3, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 6 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader in Belgium, whom we'll call "Enora." I had always considered myself to be an intelligent and confident woman. I had the college degrees and the high profile job to prove that. I was making very good money and people looked up to me. I was working in Brussels, at the top of the Belgian political establishment and in my hometown, I was elected as the president of the social welfare department, which was the second most important job in the city, next to the mayor. I had been single for a year, after leaving a bad relationship with an alcoholic. Working was my way of trying to forget my loneliness and the fact that, at age 31, …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: He wanted to drive her car, but didn’t want their child

May 20, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 7 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as "ifiwereabird29." I met him in 2009 at my job. He asked me for my number and his wit and funny personality won me over. The first night we talked, we talked for 6 hours straight. I was completely mesmerized. At the end of conversing, he stated, “You and I will be dealing with each other for a long time.” I was elated. I had graduated from college two years prior and I was certainly ready for love. I wasn't the girl who guys often pursued so when he pursued me, I was wide open! I had many red flags but chose to ignore them out of pure desperation. I will admit that I was too ready to jump into a relationship. The …

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