Kevin Dutton’s “The Wisdom of Psychopaths” is a strange, ultimately disconcerting book. Dutton is erudite and obviously fascinated with his subject—psychopaths. He references some cutting edge research and had access to many heavy hitters in the field of psychopathy experts.
Yet in the end, I find his book very troubling. His thesis is basically what the book’s subversive title suggests—that psychopaths have qualities of “wisdom.” That is, psychopaths, he asserts, have certain admirable, enviable and distinguishing qualities in greater volumes than non-psychopaths, qualities the non-psychopath could benefit from in greater quantity so long as (unlike psychopaths) the non-psychopath can regulate and express these “psychopathic qualities” appropriately, in the appropriate contexts.
Dutton seems to be suggesting that psychopaths (or many of them) are, by virtue of possessing these “psychopathic qualities,” in some respects advanced in their psychological, temperamental and even spiritual evolution. Audaciously, he draws analogies between psychopaths and the most evolved monks and Buddhist masters.
Dutton finally specifies what he regards as enviable, advantageous psychopathic qualities, the only caveat being that they should be expressed in good, balanced measure. They are ruthlessness, charm, focus, mental toughness, fearlessness, mindfulness, and the propensity to action/decisiveness.
When he describes psychopaths as being endowed with high levels of “mindfulness,” he is referring to what he alleges is their capacity to be present in the moment of whatever they are endeavoring. He asserts that psychopaths possess a distinct capacity to tune-out all sorts of inconvenient distractions such as depression, anxiety, fear, guilt, and anticipated remorse to achieve their ends with unique focus.
Even if this is the case, what Dutton fails spectacularly to appreciate, it seems to me, is the extent to which psychopaths deploy this alleged quality, and several of the other qualities he gushes over, in the service of exploiting, not enhancing, others. This is what, in essence, makes them psychopathic.
The psychopath is, at bottom, an exploitive, transgressive personality, a remorseless violator of others’ rights, boundaries and dignity. If you are not this, then you are not a psychopath.
But Dutton seems to be arguing that the key to being optimally adapted to our world is to master the capacity to be what he calls a “method psychopath,” meaning to develop and channel all the psychopathic qualities necessary to succeed in the particular contexts requiring them.
He then confuses, continually, the examples he gives of “method psychopaths” by basically referring to them as “psychopaths.” But they are not necessarily psychopaths at all—many of the men he describes may merely be endowed with certain of the “psychopathic qualities” he outlines, and deploy them in the service of performing jobs that require, for instance, fearlessness (or the successful suppression of fear), perhaps ruthlessness, certainly unblinking, sustained concentration under duress, and possibly a suspension of guilt.
He may be right that psychopaths are better suited for these jobs than non-psychopaths, but this doesn’t implicate all those who do these jobs well or even brilliantly as psychopaths. Yet this implication permeates the book, corrupting its discourse.
Dutton describes a brain surgeon who describes his work with chilling detachment and compartmentalization; thereby, on this apparent basis alone, he dubs him a psychopath. He describes men in the British Special Forces who undertake daring, violent work from which most of us would cringe or break, yet these men embrace their work with a rare coolness, and, apparently by virtue of their capacity to handle the intense risks and stresses involved in their missions without reflecting signs of disabling anxiety, agitation or guilt, Dutton regards them as “functional” or “method” psychopaths.
But a glaring question is left unexamined: Are these same men, in their personal lives, the cold, calculating clinicians, surgeons, rescuers or assassins that their jobs require them to be? (And incidentally, none of them are committing crimes: the surgeon is saving lives as, arguably, are the warriors he profusely admires.)
If the answer to the above question is “no,” as may be the case, then these men are not psychopaths. They are non-psychopaths with nerves of steel. But this basic question isn’t even addressed, superficially.
Dutton references research suggesting that psychopaths might be more likely to act heroically than non-psychopaths in certain dangerous situations. But even if this is the case, so what? So what if, in the event your house is burning down and there are two individuals on the street watching, the psychopath might be more inclined to run in and pull you out of the inferno than the non-psychopath? That may be true, and we can imagine reasons this might be the case.
But again, he’s not a psychopath unless he’s exploiting others audaciously and shamelessly in his life. Otherwise, he’s just a hero with nerves of steel. And if he is a psychopath, then his fearlessness, or lust for risk, in instances like these, confers a small benefit to humanity, which we will take without undo gratefulness given the incalculable suffering he imposes on humanity in the greater arena of life.
Dutton cites research suggesting psychopaths can feel empathy, maybe even more empathy than non-psychopaths. But the very concept of empathy is confusing and, to my mind, muddles the issue of psychopathy. What psychopaths really lack is “compassion” for their victims. Forget about empathy and how we define it. They lack compassion–real, true compassion. Compassion should be the benchmark measure here, not empathy. (My next article on Lovefraud will address “compassion” as the far more telling, missing deficit in sociopaths than “empathy.”)
And “victim” needs to be stressed in a book where it is woefully, incredibly under-stressed in Dutton’s need to virtually idealize psychopaths. Psychopath=Victims (that is my formula!). Psychopaths victimize people unconscionably. Psychopaths are victimizing, exploitive personalities. If you are dealing with an individual who is not remorselessly exploitive, you are not dealing with a true psychopath (or sociopath).
And Dutton pays scant attention to qualities like emotional shallowness and deep loyalty. The psychopath is a disturbingly shallow, disloyal individual. This surely doesn’t equate with spiritual advancement, yet Dutton absurdly seeks to find commonalities between Tibetan monks and psychopaths. He aims to recast psychopaths as misunderstood rebels, perhaps overly adapted to the exigencies of modern society.
Dutton writes, “”¦the problem with psychopaths isn’t that they’re too chock-full of evil. Ironically, it’s precisely the opposite: they have too much of a good thing”¦The car is to die for. It’s just too fast for the road.” (p. 186).
This gives you the flavor of the need Dutton has throughout his book to reframe psychopathy as a virtually enviable condition that is “too much of a good thing.” The chasmic inattention given, as noted above, to the immeasurable suffering psychopaths inflict on their victims is itself almost glib and callous.
One senses that Dutton is just a bit too enamored of the psychopath and too desperate to rehabilitate the psychopath’s well-earned reputation as an exploitative, emotional cipher to do real justice to his subject.
Which is to say that psychopaths, in the end, really have no wisdom to impart to us. As entertaining as his book is, neither, I’m afraid, does Dutton.
KatyDid:
I don’t know how I learned to be in public. Honestly. Since I am a God believer (I can’t remember if you are), I contribute it to Him. Somehow, I made my way. I will say though that because of the way I grew up, I don’t have the normal social skills that most people seem to have. I am different. I will always be a bit different due to my upbringing. We never, not once, went on a vacation. We didn’t go anywhere for that matter. I got hardly anything for Christmas. I only had two brothers (no sisters) and they were older than me so I didn’t even have the normal sibling interactions. It was all so dysfunctional. I always wanted a sister. I guess I thought if I had a sister, I would have had more “girl” interaction.
Here’s another article on narcissism/sociopathy where it talks about executives being high in those traits. It may be good for them but it’s NEVER good for those in any kind of a relationship with them.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201211/how-narcissism-can-be-good-you
Hopeforjoy:
Thanks for this link. This is my spath. He is in an executive position and it’s not because he is all that great at what he does. He is very smart, but he has gotten where he is on his charm, not necessarily his knowledge.
The people who get the “corner office” many times get there by stepping on the backs and heads of people who are less ruthless than they are. Dr. Bob Hare’s book “Snakes in Suits, when Psychopaths go to work” describes this exactly.
Many high ranking politicians got there the same way….some get exposed (Bloggo, John Edwards, Bill Clinton, Ted Kennedy) and some of them go to jail and some keep their jobs. I never did figure out how Ted Kennedy got reelected over and over after he left that woman to die in the sunken car while he tried to come up with an alibi.
Or Jesse Jackson Jr. getting reelected when he is pretty well proven to have committed fraud….but he of course blames it on his “mental condition” of bi-polar. And how about Pretaus? Maybe none of these men are full fledged 30+ score on PCL-R but name one of them that you think could have a respectful, mutually loving relationship with a partner? DUH? Give up? Me neither. They have that superficial charm, and believe me Bill Clinton is not called “slick willie” for nothing. IN the one time I met him when he was gov of arkansas I saw that slickness up close at a meeting with the state’s nurses. He could convince you that he believed A and me that he believed B and us both hearing him speak…he is SLICK.
Is that slickness admirable for a president or a diplomat? Probably. For a mate? Not likely. LOL
So whether those character traits are beneficial or harmful I think depends on the context of the person and what the situation is.
Oxy:
I agree. I bet Slick Willie is about as slick as they come.
My spath only has a bachelor’s degree. I say only because mostly everyone else at his workplace (and my former workplace) has at least a master’s degree and a lot have PhDs. So he got to where he is on only a bachelor’s…rarely seen in his line of work. That shows how he has charmed and conned his way to the top. UGGHH. I hate it.
Louise,
I cut off contact with my family after my sister nearly beat my baby to death. 25 years later, my youngest sister contacted me and at first I was THRILLED… I thought here was someone who knew the misery of our childhood and we could share adult friendship. But within a month, she started getting strange and it b/c clear she had NO conscience. All the stuff she said about not knowing what my sister did to my baby… was lies, CLEARLY lies b/c she didn’t remember from one time to the next what she told me. I ended our correspondence immediately and then she started to send me really ugly messages, the same crap that my mother used to say to me.
Sometimes neglect is a blessing, and not having sisters is also a blessing. I have friends that are my “adopted sisters”, they are family that I CHOOSE and have been wonderful.
Katy, who does not regret the loss of siblings.
KatyDid:
I did not know that about your sister and your baby. How horrible!! I see having sisters was not good at all for you. Maybe I was spared by not having one.
I also have friends who are like sisters so I understand it and can see how it can actually be better because we “chose” them.
I am glad you don’t regret or mourn the loss. I think that is one of my problems…I mourn things way too long. Blessings to you.
Psychopaths, ‘Dark’ Personalities Better At Making Themselves Look Attractive, Study Suggests
Posted: 11/30/2012 11:22 am EST Updated: 11/30/2012 5:05 pm EST
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/30/psychopaths-dark-personality-hot-more-attractive-study_n_2217938.html
More from the researcher Holtzman
http://www.nickholtzman.com/publications.htm
spoon
So what’s the definition of a predator?
Just because one can disassociate their conscience and soul out of true survival doesn’t constitute that individual to be a psychopath. That individual could be a damaged individual who after much therapy can obtain normal human qualities again with great humiliation as to what they had been forced to take part in.
I had done things (manipulate by a psychopath to do) I am now ashamed of however; it took awhile to deprogram me (my choice to seek professional help) from the psychopath’s training I had no choice (was a child brainwashed). I was depressed all the time (since a young child) and wished and I willed for my death while under her control (the female psychopath who raised me). I lived in hell.
Three out of the four children tried to kill themselves under her parental control. It was hell to be raised by a psychopath. We are all messed up in one way or another because of her.