Kevin Dutton’s “The Wisdom of Psychopaths” is a strange, ultimately disconcerting book. Dutton is erudite and obviously fascinated with his subject—psychopaths. He references some cutting edge research and had access to many heavy hitters in the field of psychopathy experts.
Yet in the end, I find his book very troubling. His thesis is basically what the book’s subversive title suggests—that psychopaths have qualities of “wisdom.” That is, psychopaths, he asserts, have certain admirable, enviable and distinguishing qualities in greater volumes than non-psychopaths, qualities the non-psychopath could benefit from in greater quantity so long as (unlike psychopaths) the non-psychopath can regulate and express these “psychopathic qualities” appropriately, in the appropriate contexts.
Dutton seems to be suggesting that psychopaths (or many of them) are, by virtue of possessing these “psychopathic qualities,” in some respects advanced in their psychological, temperamental and even spiritual evolution. Audaciously, he draws analogies between psychopaths and the most evolved monks and Buddhist masters.
Dutton finally specifies what he regards as enviable, advantageous psychopathic qualities, the only caveat being that they should be expressed in good, balanced measure. They are ruthlessness, charm, focus, mental toughness, fearlessness, mindfulness, and the propensity to action/decisiveness.
When he describes psychopaths as being endowed with high levels of “mindfulness,” he is referring to what he alleges is their capacity to be present in the moment of whatever they are endeavoring. He asserts that psychopaths possess a distinct capacity to tune-out all sorts of inconvenient distractions such as depression, anxiety, fear, guilt, and anticipated remorse to achieve their ends with unique focus.
Even if this is the case, what Dutton fails spectacularly to appreciate, it seems to me, is the extent to which psychopaths deploy this alleged quality, and several of the other qualities he gushes over, in the service of exploiting, not enhancing, others. This is what, in essence, makes them psychopathic.
The psychopath is, at bottom, an exploitive, transgressive personality, a remorseless violator of others’ rights, boundaries and dignity. If you are not this, then you are not a psychopath.
But Dutton seems to be arguing that the key to being optimally adapted to our world is to master the capacity to be what he calls a “method psychopath,” meaning to develop and channel all the psychopathic qualities necessary to succeed in the particular contexts requiring them.
He then confuses, continually, the examples he gives of “method psychopaths” by basically referring to them as “psychopaths.” But they are not necessarily psychopaths at all—many of the men he describes may merely be endowed with certain of the “psychopathic qualities” he outlines, and deploy them in the service of performing jobs that require, for instance, fearlessness (or the successful suppression of fear), perhaps ruthlessness, certainly unblinking, sustained concentration under duress, and possibly a suspension of guilt.
He may be right that psychopaths are better suited for these jobs than non-psychopaths, but this doesn’t implicate all those who do these jobs well or even brilliantly as psychopaths. Yet this implication permeates the book, corrupting its discourse.
Dutton describes a brain surgeon who describes his work with chilling detachment and compartmentalization; thereby, on this apparent basis alone, he dubs him a psychopath. He describes men in the British Special Forces who undertake daring, violent work from which most of us would cringe or break, yet these men embrace their work with a rare coolness, and, apparently by virtue of their capacity to handle the intense risks and stresses involved in their missions without reflecting signs of disabling anxiety, agitation or guilt, Dutton regards them as “functional” or “method” psychopaths.
But a glaring question is left unexamined: Are these same men, in their personal lives, the cold, calculating clinicians, surgeons, rescuers or assassins that their jobs require them to be? (And incidentally, none of them are committing crimes: the surgeon is saving lives as, arguably, are the warriors he profusely admires.)
If the answer to the above question is “no,” as may be the case, then these men are not psychopaths. They are non-psychopaths with nerves of steel. But this basic question isn’t even addressed, superficially.
Dutton references research suggesting that psychopaths might be more likely to act heroically than non-psychopaths in certain dangerous situations. But even if this is the case, so what? So what if, in the event your house is burning down and there are two individuals on the street watching, the psychopath might be more inclined to run in and pull you out of the inferno than the non-psychopath? That may be true, and we can imagine reasons this might be the case.
But again, he’s not a psychopath unless he’s exploiting others audaciously and shamelessly in his life. Otherwise, he’s just a hero with nerves of steel. And if he is a psychopath, then his fearlessness, or lust for risk, in instances like these, confers a small benefit to humanity, which we will take without undo gratefulness given the incalculable suffering he imposes on humanity in the greater arena of life.
Dutton cites research suggesting psychopaths can feel empathy, maybe even more empathy than non-psychopaths. But the very concept of empathy is confusing and, to my mind, muddles the issue of psychopathy. What psychopaths really lack is “compassion” for their victims. Forget about empathy and how we define it. They lack compassion–real, true compassion. Compassion should be the benchmark measure here, not empathy. (My next article on Lovefraud will address “compassion” as the far more telling, missing deficit in sociopaths than “empathy.”)
And “victim” needs to be stressed in a book where it is woefully, incredibly under-stressed in Dutton’s need to virtually idealize psychopaths. Psychopath=Victims (that is my formula!). Psychopaths victimize people unconscionably. Psychopaths are victimizing, exploitive personalities. If you are dealing with an individual who is not remorselessly exploitive, you are not dealing with a true psychopath (or sociopath).
And Dutton pays scant attention to qualities like emotional shallowness and deep loyalty. The psychopath is a disturbingly shallow, disloyal individual. This surely doesn’t equate with spiritual advancement, yet Dutton absurdly seeks to find commonalities between Tibetan monks and psychopaths. He aims to recast psychopaths as misunderstood rebels, perhaps overly adapted to the exigencies of modern society.
Dutton writes, “”¦the problem with psychopaths isn’t that they’re too chock-full of evil. Ironically, it’s precisely the opposite: they have too much of a good thing”¦The car is to die for. It’s just too fast for the road.” (p. 186).
This gives you the flavor of the need Dutton has throughout his book to reframe psychopathy as a virtually enviable condition that is “too much of a good thing.” The chasmic inattention given, as noted above, to the immeasurable suffering psychopaths inflict on their victims is itself almost glib and callous.
One senses that Dutton is just a bit too enamored of the psychopath and too desperate to rehabilitate the psychopath’s well-earned reputation as an exploitative, emotional cipher to do real justice to his subject.
Which is to say that psychopaths, in the end, really have no wisdom to impart to us. As entertaining as his book is, neither, I’m afraid, does Dutton.
Dear Raised by a sociopath,
I just read an article about a small child who was taught to have sex with his mother from a young age and until he was placed in a foster home he had no idea it was “wrong.” It was what he was taught to do…sure he was taught wrong things, and many children are in similar situations…taught that black is white and white is black, that up is down, and down is up….but that “training” doesn’t make them a sociopath.
Sure some kids who are children of sociopaths become sociopaths, they get the double whammy of environment and genetics…but other people who are raised by sociopaths turn out okay…they have consciences and learn new ways of living.
Just be glad your DNA didn’t over come and you were able to escape the fate of many…both taught wrongly and abused by sociopaths. Congratulations. I’m glad you are FREE.
ps I know a little girl, she’s 17, and as sweet as she can be, but she was pimped out by her own mother from age 8 to 12….then she was given to a relative to raise who is far from an “ideal” parent…but this young woman is as kind, caring and sweet as you could want. She isn’t even the brightest bulb in the lamp, but she has a heart that is huge. So no matter how bad our upbringing is we can still overcome it.
Spoon;
Thanks for the Holtzman references. This is particularly interesting:
http://www.nickholtzman.com/Holtzman%202011%20Facing%20a%20psychopath.pdf
The x-spath and I have a very, very similar face. I did not see this when I knew him, because he had a more “aged” appearance, even though I am older. However, I did find him attractive and more than most his/our age.
When I saw younger pictures of him that he uses online, I was floored by the resemblance. Haunts me to this day.
Look at the pictures in the link. Essentially, I am the guy on the left (so sociopath) and he the guy on the right.
Same look, but his face is rounder and less angular than mine.
Webster says a predator is one that preys, destroys or devours.
Raisedbyspath, in the Animal Kingdom, a “predator” is a species that either hunts for food sources, or lies in wait for food sources. Human predators are those beings that hunt or lie in wait for other people whom they can exploit for their own purposes, whether it’s sex, money, status, or the Cloak Of Respectability.
The difference between human and non-human predators is simple: non-human predators hunt (or, lie in wait) to feed themselves and their offspring. Human predators hunt (or, lie in wait) for their own entertainment or personal gain. A cheetah has to eat, and it is a carnivore, so it must hunt in order to survive. The exspath did NOT need to live a double-life and relieve me of my personal finances to survive. That’s the difference.
Brightest blessings
EDIT ADD: And, Raisebyspaths, you have a conscience – you felt “shame” for some of your choices. A cheetah does not feel “shame” for hunting down a newborn wildebeast or sick/injured springbok. A human predator also does not feel remorse for exploiting or damaging others of their own species.
Truthspeak:
Lies in wait. Yep. That was surely the spath I knew. You could actually see it. His body language. He would actually sit back or stand back and observe with that blank look on his face…it was lying in wait at its finest.
Louise, there is a whole boatload of truth about human predators and their body-language. The infamous “Predatory Stare?” Well, it’s real – if you compare the intensity of a hunting cheetah that has focused upon a potential prey, you can see the exact same thing in the gaze of a predatory human being. The exspath would put his eyes on me, but they were not “engaging” with me on an emotional level. It’s one of the eeriest of all spath body cues, and that’s WHY I am dead-set opposed to ANY online dating or technological communications.
Brightest blessings!
Truthspeak:
That predatory stare is real. I never saw it before him. That is an awesome comparison with the cheetah…so true!!!
Me, too, Truthspeak. I will not ever do online dating. I never have and never will. They can be anything they want behind that computer screen and then you meet them and they are monsters. I have heard way too many horror stories. I don’t need anymore drama. A girlfriend of mine suggested maybe I try it to meet someone and I said no way and then she said she didn’t mean online dating…she meant a matchmaker. Whatever that means. I think she meant where you pay to get matched with someone. Nope. To me, that is still going techy to meet someone. If I can’t meet someone on my own out in the world, I’m not going to do it. Not that it means that is a guarantee that they will be “OK,” but at least I can “see” them…haha. Geez. God, if I ever see that predatory stare again I will run so fast it won’t even be funny. Both of his kids have the stare, too. Can you believe it? How sad is that???
Louise, LOL!!!!!! “Matchmakers” have been around since mankind scrawled images of mammoths on cave walls. At one time, romantic marriages weren’t so important as a “good match.” And, a renowned matchmaker would research family history, work/business practices, ideals, religious convictions, and every other aspect of a person’s life and make suggestions on a suitable mate that would ENHANCE the person’s aspirations and qualities.
Today, human qualities and attributes are no longer determined by wisdom or observations. Today, these “qualities” are determined by short surveys that are computer analyzed. No background checks are performed. No months-long observations are made. No body language and personal history is explored. It’s VERY dangerous, today.
Personally, I’d rather stick knitting needles in my eyes than trust ANY online dating service!
Brightest blessings
Truthspeak:
It is laughable, isn’t it? 🙂
There are still cultures and parts of the world were marriages are made by family arrangements, and in some cases, mostly in the middle east, women are given as “payment” for debts etc. It is SICK but tat is the way women are considered as chattel (possessions)
Romantic marriage selection is less than perfect as 50% are divorced and many more are “stable” but unhappy, and 75% of 2nd marriages end in divorce, and again many of the ones that stay married in that second marriage are unhappy.
I was fortunate that my marriage of nearly 20 years to my husband that I had been friends with for many years prior to our marriage was a good one. My first one, filled with mental illness on the part of my husband, and the abuse of his psychopathic father was a night mare.
I would love to have a good relationship, but at this point in my life I am not sure it is very likely, maybe I am more likely to win the lotto.