A Cambridge professor, Simon Baron-Cohen, has written Zero Degrees of Empathy: A new theory of human cruelty. In this review, the author explains the professor’s ideas.
Read Why a lack of empathy is the root of all evil, on Independent.co.uk.
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LL A better life is waiting on you – when you let go the life you had planned with this jerk…nite nite all
LL My spath would also cringe at the scent of bleach and hated the typing sound from my blackberry while I texted.
LL…no way.
My spath actually had some skin stuff and a torn muscle happening while we were together – probably bed bugs based on how much he travelled and the muscle well, who knows right?
Anyhoo – this m—fer would get all kinds of kooky when doctors couldn’t see him on his timeline.
“I’m not into a doctor who wants to make me wait for XXX amount of time.”
He couldn’t deal with someone else’s self importance.
It showed with TSA agents, wait staff and all sorts of others whom he considered to be beneath him. And don’t even get him started on his bills or his payments to the IRS or his baby mothers.
We are all so beneath him.
He is lower than the eggs laid by flies. And one day, his dirty nasty underbelly will be exposed to the world.
Hens,
That “fantasy” is over……………now it’s about how to create a life of my own. And I’m starting from the bottom floor going up…I have no idea what the hell I’m doing or how to get there, other than what I’m doing now….just baby steps. But I’m damned angry that I should have done this a long time ago, or that I should have been taught how…
((((((((((((( Hens ))))))))))))))) nite precious!
Hugs the wieners for me!
LL
LL As far as karma goes for Ss I like to believe that from their on edge lifestyles, risk taking, and disregard for authority that they will create their own karma. Most think they rule the world! That they are special and one day it will play out. Maybe it will land them in jail for fraud or some crazy heartbroken woman will put them out of their misery.
Yes, hens, Bozo button being applied as we speak. ;o)
Karma will get him, have to believe it. He’s not really happy, just on the move meeting more targets. He will never settle for one, he can’t as he gets bored, I’m sure.
Also, he’s not getting any Younger! 50’s is not old, I Know, but if you are still behaving like a bad boy at that age then life just can’t be that grand knowing you can’t feel Love. And being friendless as well.
Is that Happiness?
And what do I care, right? He’s an afterthought, I meant it when I hit he ‘send’ button that ended our conversations last December. I needed him gone.
Like you, there are memories that can be difficult to get through but I quickly displace them with the bad memories.
It helps.
With someone you can’t count on, who goes behind your back, sets you up to drop you like a fly, Who needs Them???
FarWronged.
Run away. Run far, far away. People tell you who they are early on. He did. And you stick around.
I did this too.
In his mind, you are getting exactly what you deserve. He won’t be able to look at you without being reminded that he left his other victim to be with you and he will punish you for this.
It will be worse if he has children. You are an enemy, not his love.
He has no love.
MissLed,
That’s not how mine started out. We were “friends” for two years prior to any intimacy. I got the empty promises and bullshit for almost ten years. really? Which one of us was the nutcase? Who stays in an AFFAIR for TEN YEARS, okay, one of those he was divorced..still carrot dangling, only to lie, CHEAT and change his MO. He was looking for a woman with MONEY.
The stupidity I engaged in is almost too humiliating to bear, as well as what he slimed me with. He wasn’t wrong and that’s the problem.
He has the get out card easily in all areas of his life, because he dumped the psycho mistress to pursue something more “proper” since his marriage dissolved due to “irreconcilable differences”
Bastard.
I’m still trying to “get it”
Sorry, but I’m pissed, confused and still hurt, yet still determined to make something of my life and the things he did to hurt me and the things I did in that effort that hurt others.
LL
Goodnite all, thanks for the input. It helps!
Sorry to hear, LL.
Like Dr. Phil says, the only good thing to come is that you are not spending yet another day with the B*()*&. Then THAT would be a crime.
You are FREE. Feel it! You have a history with him but you are moving on and not wasting another precious day.