A Cambridge professor, Simon Baron-Cohen, has written Zero Degrees of Empathy: A new theory of human cruelty. In this review, the author explains the professor’s ideas.
Read Why a lack of empathy is the root of all evil, on Independent.co.uk.
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LL I knew my xspath bf for two years before we got involved. He didnt have much use for me or show much interest, but he kept me on the back shelf labeled “other options”…
So when his time ran out with ”secure option” and he needed a place to call home, all of a sudden I was a ‘sweetheart that hung the moon..And when time ran out with me he was off to ‘other option no.?’ And I told him exactley what I said here, but I started out with “you sorry sack of shit you never had any use for me until you needed a place to hang——“
Hens,
As odd as it sounds, that is very much the behaviors exhibited with my spath. Back shelf girl. Options if needed. I get that.
I refused to be an “option” anymore Hens. When he gets bored with the new gf, he may well try to “pull me off the shelf” again, unless he can triangulate another “option”.
What I would have to say to that would a loud resounding FUCK YOU!
LL
LL My x has tried to bait me back a few times, but I didnt bite, didnt even look twice…been there done that. I mean who would be stoopider for taking him back, me or him? I amdone with being stooooopid…ok got to go make some dollars..ttyl
(((((((((((((((( Hens )))))))))))))))))))
Yep yep yep!
While you’re out, Hens, I need some more flea meds **sigh** lol!
Have a good one!
LL
To OneBeliever:
Truer words were never spoken!!! Terrible to say, but I wish for Kharma revisit as well, for the man that I was involved with for (10) years. He did end up getting prostate cancer and had to have a prostatectomy. No more sexual manipulation of the ladies? Even with a penile implant, will be much harder for him to manipulate. We reap what we sow. Thanks for your words of wisdom. Have a good one.
Socio.
Wow! What GREAT karma lol!
LL
I can’t wait until I get to the point where if I see my spath I would say “FU” . Right now it just hurts.
The last time I saw my spath it was at a convenience store. He was putting his bike in the back of a truck. I drove up behind him, hoping against hope that he didn’t turn around, but paused just long enough to make sure it was him. The back of his neck, just above the collr of his t-shirt and below his shaggy hair was what convinced me it was him. Isn’t that funny? Anyway I got outta there fast. He never even saw me.
SK
It’s early, chica. I understand that it hurts. I’ve more than once yelled FU in my car at spath. It will come SK. Just give it time. Keep what he really is, in mind. It takes time to retrain your thinking. But you can do it!
Kim
If that had been me, I would have had a panic attack!!!
Hey question for you guys…My ex Spath would always wear sunglasses even indoors bc he did not want people looking into his eyes. Anyone else ever experience this? I am thinking back on some of his bizarre tendancies trying to make sense of it all. He also yerned for affection like an infant. He always wanted to be held and told he was loved and how sexy or attractive he was.