A Cambridge professor, Simon Baron-Cohen, has written Zero Degrees of Empathy: A new theory of human cruelty. In this review, the author explains the professor’s ideas.
Read Why a lack of empathy is the root of all evil, on Independent.co.uk.
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SK ~ I’m sorry you’re having a bad day today.
Maybe this will help a little. If you were stupid, you would NOT have been chosen by the spath, because he would’ve been bored by you.
You are NOT stupid. In fact, I would say you’re pretty smart. You got away from the spath. That’s HUGE!!
Ox Drover
Dear Superkid,
You know if stupid was decided by how long we stayed with the P (or in my case MULTIPLE Ps) then I win, and I’m more stooooopid than you….so get over it okay! BOINK!!!! quit beating yourself on the head about being stooooopid….you were conned, you fell for the bait with the hook hidden inside, but you GOT AWAY, you escaped. So, NO, you are NOT STUPID or STOOOOPID. So there! Now get right or I’ll have to get the BIG SKILLET AFTER YOU!!!!! 🙂
lesson learned
Sk,
I’m sorry you’re having a bad day, and I’ve had a few myself lately, but you’re NOT stupid.
BTW, SK, you want to avoid “the skillet”. It’s a bit painful and who needs a knot on the head that big>? LOL
LL
skylar
**Skylar runs in and wrestles with Oxy for the stupid prize. Skylar grabs the skillet, boinks Oxy, then Oxy drops the stupid prize. Skylar picks it up and runs off…***
skylar
Seriously Superkid,
you had 3 years. My whole life has been one spath after another. Starting with the parents, then my brother, then all the pedophiles I dated, then the spath…He was the cherry on top. So that’s why I had to take the prize for stupidity from Oxy, because I lived with the spawn of satan for 25 years and didn’t notice a thing.
Ox Drover
Sky, LOL ROTFLMAO you are TOOOOOO MUCH GIRLFRIEND!!!
You make me laugh though! Neither of us is stupid, but I admit we acted STOOOOOOPID so it is a tie which one of us was the biggest dunce in that area, but you know, we are both learning now to set boundaries and to quit beating ourselves over the head for what we didn’t do.
We have learned better and now we are DOING better and that is what is important.
I just finished reading a book that I really want to recommend to everyone here at LF, I’ll very shortly do an article on it. A psychiatrist who had a P father and a P son and an enabling husband and for many years she lived in HELL ON EARTH….and she had a lot more knowledge than either of us have and “should have handled it better” but she is HUMAN—DUH!!!! HUMAN, just like we all are and all my professional know how, all hers, all Dr. Leedom’s none of it saved any of us….we have to LEARN—-stupid can’t be fixed, but IGNORANT CAN BE, and that is what we are doing here is EDUCATING OURSELVES ABOUT THEM, AND ABOUT OURSELVES AND ABOUT BOUNDARIES AND ABOUT LIFE….and about validating ourselves.
They CANNOT/WILL NOT learn and now THAT is ***STUPID****that can’t be fixed.
skylar
OK, Oxy, I guess we can share the prize. 🙂
gotta run out the door for now, but am very interested in that book, so please do post the title. I’m wondering how she finally figured it out and what she thinks the P’s are.
I’m going back to my theory that P’s don’t feel anything at all and that’s why they are addicted to drama, drugs, danger, etc.. they are desperately trying to feel SOMETHING. When they see us and our immense capabiltiy to feel, they become enraged with envy (which they do feel).
My experience with my spath draping my body on him when we watched thrillers in the theatre is what first clued me in. He needed to experience thrillers vicariously through me, even though we were watching the same movie.
kim frederick
I enter the room and compliment the two of you on your ability to share the prize, but then suggest that you come to an agreement to re award it to those whom it really belongs to: the spath’s of the world. Then I present the both of you the covetted strong survivor medal.
kim frederick
Oh, and you get one too, sk,
And look, I hsve an extra. (am pinning on myself.)
Ox Drover
Dear Kim,
Always the peace maker! LOL
Been a nice day to work out side and I did, but got frustrated cause nothing went right and I came inside and baked son D a “Mexican Corn Bread” for supper cause I barked at him because he had his cell phone turned off when I needed to call him and I had to walk to the far side of the farm to get him….glad I didn’t need to call him because my leg was broken….he leaves his cell phone off all the time and his friends all know to call me if they want to get hold of him…..UGH!!!!!! Think I will go kick the outside cat or something….if I can find him! LOL