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  1. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    ox- as hard as it is to explain spaths to people who don’t know a spath from a grey rock, it was hard to explain THIS spath here. it was just TOO unknown and bizarre. i also couldn’t say much, i was so shook and scared of her; i didn’t want to identify myself. she threatened to smear me at work – i was so poor and so sick…i was scared. but now, she can s@#( #$ d#@& (and that is WAY ruder than you are imagining!)

    i was also cognitively impaired, had PTSD….and then there was the fact that I was crazeeeee 🙂

  4. Ox Drover

    Dear LL, I think my, Henry and One/step are the record holders for the CRAZZEEEIEST and maybe Sky is up there pretty close…Kimmie was pretty out there too….and there were others but they didn’t hang around or have moved on….yea, being crazeeeee is a requirement to be a lovefraud regular, but you know that is just the start, because if we work at it, stay here and keep on growing, we start to sound sane and then the next thing you know, we are starting to THINK sane and BE sane….and life gets better and better. It is still life and there are still problems, but we are sane enough to work through them in a reasonable way and focusing on making our lives better rather than being distracted by the INSANITY of the psychopath and the past with the psychopaths.

    Yea, NO ONE who had not had experience with a psychopath would believe what we have been through or that anyone could be crazeeeee enough to fall for such stuff…but we did because we were hoodwinked. But, we are NOT alone, and we are no longer crazeeeee, and we were never CRAZY….in fact, we were the sane ones who just got shoved off the path we were on because we were empathetic and kind, caring and were taken advantage of by someone who was neither empathetic, kind or caring….someone who was EVIL for no other reason than they enjoyed it. Personally, I’d rather be us than them. I’d rather be your friend than theirs….

  5. hens

    Oxy thats a nice way of saying some of us need to get a life? Oh well I am still crazy because I still think too much of the EVIL one, dang he has been on mind overtime…

  6. Stargazer

    I’m jealous. I think I’m every bit as crazy as the rest of you. Can you give me a little credit, too?

    One Joy, this must give you great satisfaction to see your spath go down. I wish they could just bury her in the ground except her head, and all the victims she hurt can come by and throw stones at her head. It’s hard to wrap my mind around that level of game-playing. I thought my spath was pretty “gamish”. Your spath makes mine look like Florence Nightingale.

  8. Stargazer

    Thanks, Hens. I needed that. 🙂 Let’s not forget the herping (snake-finding) trip in the jungles of Costa Rica. Doesn’t one also have to be a bit of a nut case to do that? Tell me again. I really need to hear it. ha ha

  9. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    Star – funny about the burying her up to her neck thing….that’s part of the spath death fantasy that CAMom and i concocted – it really freed me from obsessing about wanting to whack the spath. wanting to whack the spath was, of course, about wanting my power back, and protecting me and everyone else from her evil self.

    i don’t know how crazy you or i were relatively speaking. i KNEW what had happened to me, i think i sounded so nuts because i couldn’t express it openly here. i mean, most of us have stories that are very very hard to grasp. I think all the gender pronoun changing was mucho confusing to people too. kathy hawk actually asked me if i was on drugs. that hurt at the time.

    what i do know is that i want to come back to myself – whatever that looks like, and i want to walk away from all this fear and damage. it will take a new pair of boots.

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