A Cambridge professor, Simon Baron-Cohen, has written Zero Degrees of Empathy: A new theory of human cruelty. In this review, the author explains the professor’s ideas.
Read Why a lack of empathy is the root of all evil, on Independent.co.uk.
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skylar
One Joy,
sidestep the issue. Say, “I want to keep the house. it has sentimental value… daaaad! Why would you sell it? In THIS economy?”
Drag it out until you are ready.
If he has already sold it, say, “Daaaaad! I wanted to keep that house! How could you sell it!! Aren’t I also an owner? You can’t sell my house!!” put him on the defence.
bring a hidden recorder.
hens
if he HAS sold the house without consulting you – spit in his face because you wont ever see any money – just my opinion…hope i am wrong
one/joy_step_at_a_time
went to my first yoga class in 2 years today. my body was finally able to stand it. halle freaking lujah! my nerves are firing a bit fast tonight, but it’s pretty darn good.
i got really overwhelmed on Thursday and today , but i am handling it better than usual. i went to the group yesterday that i had mentioned a while ago. turns out it was being held in a mental health facility (spiritual look at life and illness). THAT WAS FREAKING doing renos – i made a list tonight of all the things i have had to give up and no longer have access to because of my response to toxins, and it is a big list of significant things, so no wonder it affects me so much.
…anyhoo, it was a drag, and part of my face went numb (this is quite freaky), but i stayed because it was so important to me. i talked. i took up a LOT of airspace actually. but i talked – it was not so easy. i realized the brilliance of being asked to be there- i had thought of it in terms of the spath, but many of the people there are ill, physically (cancer) or have challenges with their lives being restricted because of mental illness. I had a big upsurge of emotion about my illness.
there were only a few folks there – unfortunately a 50/50 ratio of people who worked there to people coming for the group…and they were bad paraphrasers. the LAST thing i needed was to have people comment on what i was saying in a way that changed the meaning of it – i was soooo vulnerable. but it was okay. i feel pretty softened by the mix of that experience with the yoga class.
i am also overwhelmed by the fact that i have a job. i went a bit nuts today – omg omg , i have money coming in again really soon! and making a couple more bucks an hour. 🙂 except for writing, it’s the most i have ever made (i get paid for writing not spelling, snort!) Now, i could afford to buy into the car share. or now i could afford to move, or now i can continue to pay down my debt….it is not all going to go into the toilet again. hard to believe giving the steaming pile of shit i have been living in.
i talked a bit with a woman who works in major donations for alumni associations. part of my proposal for this contract was that i do some major donor/ sponsorship solicitation. the VP wanted me to do this. i am good at asking for money, (the net profit on the conference i just did was very high, do to my sponsorship solicitation and money management, and to the org’s good relationships with their members) But she mentioned a condition of the contract that they came up at the board meeting yesterday, that is dead wrong, and there were a couple of other things that i have to steer them away form..and this takes ENERGY and it gives me ANXIETY……any way, i digressed. the woman i talked with about major donorships was very perceptive and said their was a problem at a board level in our org – and i swear i didn’t say a damn thing.
and she’s right. and i am going to have to put on my REALLY BIG GIRL PANTIES to deal. i am ‘feeling’ my heart – and my heart knows this job is rough. but i need the money, and jobs don’t come by often here. so i will do it, but i am really going to have to fight.
so, that’s how onesteppers is tonight. and hens, and sky?
edited to add: and if i want to move i have to give notice tomorrow.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
SPATHINATOR Sklyar!!!!!
i do have me a little recorder. use it when i speak to the db landlord now.
skylar
Wow, Congrats on the job One Joy,
I’m signing off, BF wants to go out and he’s mad because I’m still on the computer…
gnite.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
HENS – This may well be true.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
‘gnite sky, have fun!
Hope to heal
Sky~ I just read your 3:14 pm post above to husband R. I swear I saw the “light bulb of understanding” go on in his head.
Thanks so much for writing such a well thought out post. 🙂
hens
Well he is a NARCISSIST…my mother is the Biggest Badest of them and she would rather see me die than give me what is mine – be it money or a flower pot…So I didnt wait for her to die to let her know what I think she is – she thinks god has a special pedastle for her right beside him..
Anywho – I think things are going gooder for you 1step – I know it’s a struggle but hey you have a job and money, I remeber when your lined up at the food pantry…..
My first reaction is YOU NEED TO MOVE but take time to find a quite place – your health and sanity depends on that..yoga is good, anykind of excerize is good….about daddyahole – i dunno – it just sends me into a rage so dont listen to my advice on that…
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Hens,
just to know that it pisses someone off as much as it does me is a BIG help hens. it took me forever to see what he was doing (stealing my money) and him for what he is.