Last week, Lovefraud readers brought two disturbing cases of abuse to my attention. The cases were disturbing because of the depraved actions of the perpetrators, and because most people would not suspect that they were predators at all.
The Lovefraud reader BloggerT7165 sent me a link to the case of Jessica Banks, a 65-year old woman from Moreno Valley, California, who was convicted in July of 13 counts of child abuse and two counts of sexual penetration by force and fear. Two weeks ago she was sentenced to two consecutive life terms.
The Lovefraud reader Ox Drover alerted me to a recent program on ABC’s 20/20 called Handsome Devil: The man who spread HIV. It recounts the case of Philippe Padieu, age 53, who was convicted of intentionally infecting at lease six women with HIV. Padieu, was sentenced to 45 years in prison.
Jessica Banks
The victims in the Jessica Banks case were her five adopted daughters. The five girls—who are sisters—were abused in their biological family and placed in foster care with Banks in 2000. Banks legally adopted the girls in 2004. Shortly after that she took them out of public school. They started attending school at the Word of Life Apostolic Church, which was located in a Moreno Valley strip mall. Jessica Banks was the pastor of the church, which prosecutors described as a cult.
In 2005, one of the girls was found curled up on the sidewalk in front of another business near the church. She had a black eye. With that, the four girls, aged four to 11, were discovered. When authorities removed them from Banks’ custody—they were living in a hidden room in her garage, wearing long black dresses and two layers of diapers.
The girls were emaciated, with only moldy food to eat. Prosecutors said Banks kicked them daily and beat them with cords, sticks, high-heeled shoes, belts and extension cords. She also made them take sleeping pills. Two of the girls were sexually assaulted with paint sticks.
The girls said they attended séances at Banks’ church, which only had a handful of members. One of the girls sat there with a rope around her neck. Saying the girls made up the stories, Banks denied all charges of abuse. The jury didn’t buy it and convicted her.
During the sentencing hearing, Banks’ attorney argued for leniency, stating that the woman did not fit the profile of a typical sexual predator.
To read more about this horrible case, see Girls adopted by Jessica Banks
Philippe Padieu
After her marriage fell apart, Diane Reeve from Dallas, Texas, decided to try Internet dating. She met Philippe Padieu, an exotic man who was born in France and worked as a network security analyst in Frisco, Texas. They shared an interest in martial arts, and Diane had a relationship with him for four and a half years.
Eventually, however, she learned that the Padieu was cheating on her. She went through his cell phone bill—she was paying for it—and contacted nine other women to alert them to Padieu’s infidelity.
A few months later, one of the women, “Susan Brown” (a pseudonym given her by 20/20) called Reeve back. She’d tested positive for HIV. When Diane Reeve herself was tested, not only was she HIV positive, she had AIDS.
Brown had called Padieu, told him about the HIV, and that she had reported him to the health department. Padieu wasn’t worried about the infection, but he was furious that he’d been named.
At this point the women took on a mission to warn the other women that Philippe Padieu was sleeping with. In fact, six women, who ranged in age from 40 to 60, formed both a support and investigative group. Padieu was bringing a parade of women into his home, knowing he was HIV positive. He had to be stopped.
To see how they did it, I recommend that you watch the 20/20 episode, which is available online at Handsome Devil: The man who spread HIV.
Padieu himself is interviewed at the end. Of course, he denied everything, and said one of the women infected him.
You can also read a 20/20 article about the case at: How women united to stop HIV-positive man.
Unlikely perpetrators
Both of these cases are horrific and shocking, and thankfully, both perpetrators are going to be locked up probably until they die.
But look how long they were both out on the street harming innocent victims without attracting any attention. That’s because they weren’t typical perpetrators.
Jessica Banks was a 65-year-old grandmother and church pastor who abused her own adopted daughters.
Philippe Padieu was a 53-year-old computer guy who targeted middle-aged women.
Once again, appearances can be deceiving.
About the differences in the length of prison terms, the women this guy that Polly mentioned were “pick ups” and viewed as “easy” and it sounds to me like the jury thought that they were at least PARTLY AT FAULT for being infected.
The women in Texas were supposedly in LONG TERM EXCLUSIVE relationships with this man (several at a time of course but they didn’t know it) so possibly the jury thought that they were “less responsible” for their own iinfections so blamed the man more, and gave him more time.
I think the same thing has always been involved in the sentences given for rape. A woman who gets picked up in a bar is “more to blame” for her own rape than a woman who is in her own bed at home when a rapist breaks in and rapes her.
In theory a beautiful woman should be able to walk naked at midnight through the “worst part of” town and NOT be raped, but we all know that is not the way it is in real life. That does NOT however mean the MAN who rapes a woman is LESS GUILTY of rape because the woman’s choice was a poor one.
It does advise us, however, to make BETTER CHOICES ourselves and do what we can reasonably do to stay away from “higher risk” situations.
Hi guys…Mammas got a date…..
Met this guy at the paint store…..I worked all day on the roof of my rental….I’m wiped out…..
I was listening to this guy talk to the paint guy….he was very nice and polite….then he drummed up a convo with me….and said….what are you doing later?
Funny thing was….I was in my sweats and tank,no makeup, dirty from raking pine needles….blackfeet…..A MESS….and I get asked out….
HAHAHAHA!!!
So……i’ve got 45 min. to be on the lake…..
I’ll check backin later….
Wish me luck!!!
EB
So happy for you, EB! Oh how I miss that flutter of a new crush! I think it will be a long ways away for me, so allow me to live vicariously through you. GOOD LUCK! TELL US WHAT HAPPENED! Even after all I’ve been through, I still believe in love. :o)
ErinBrock,
I hope that you have fun on your date, being delighted for you.
erin thats so cool to meet someone at a paintstore instead of a bar or online chat site…i hope you have a good time
Hi guys….
What a DELIGHTFUL evening!!! NICE guy!
Wow…who’d a thunk??? Paint store….grubby and all!
We sat and had a lemonade on the beach and then had dinner, sharing some appetizers and a salad…..then mud pie.
He was hilarious….loved his sense of humor.
We talked very openly…..in fact….I reminded myself to shut up!
He’s got 2 kids, 22 and 16.
We laughed and he ‘razzed’ me…..I loved that!
It was nice to spend an evening with great conversation, and BEST YET……he NEVER tooted his own horn. He was humble and reserved.
I made sure to ask him all about him…..I brought it all back to HIS life…..
He wasn’t overbearing, he wasn’t the ‘life of the party’, didn’t down talk his ex wife or any woman…..and no red flags or spath alert……..
He opened my car door, he pulled out my chair (which, like an idiot….I sat in the other chair) (hmmm obviously used to ‘fending for myself’) 🙂
Dumbshit!!!
I need to learn how to ‘expect’ these things from a man. I was ‘trained’ by spath to take care of myself……I MUST STOP THAT in some situations huh?!?!
So, yes…..It was a great date.
NOW…..let’s see if I hear from him again…..
I’d hate to have to hang out at the paintstore too often….cuz that’d mean I’d have to paint something!
Freemama: That was one thing I wouldn’t allow spath to take from me…..was my belief in love…..I too, think it’s out there for all of us…..I think it comes when we are healthy and taking care of ourselves….
This is why I believe so many relationships fail and we find aweful people that we settle for……we move too soon and settle too fast…….we must heal ourselves first!!!! US PRIORITY!!!
If it happens…..great…..if not…..I will carry on being me and loving me!!!
It would be nice to have a ‘buddy’ though.
thanks guys for your well wishes…..YES….I did enjoy myself tonight……and COMPLETELY UNEXPECTED!!!
I thought i’d be painting rails and doing maintenence all night!!!!
🙂
Dear EB!
I am so happy for you! A date and he has seen you at the PAINT STORE (if you go to the paint/hardware store like I do, that’s at your WORST!) LOL
We all hope you find yourself in a great relationship, as long as it doesn’t keep you off LF ALL the time! Just remember we are your friends too! So we have to know all about it! Plus, I’m sooooo jealous! I haven’t met a guy at a paint store less than 75 who was interested in me! LOL
Seriously, glad you had a good time! That’s a chirp-er-upper anyway just to be asked out! I remember that couple of dates I had last year adn how just being asked out was an up lifting thing. Turned out the guy had RED FLAGS later, but still it was NICE til I saw the flags! So maybe you won’t see any with this guy!
I’ve had internet problems all week, almost two weeks, so going to town monday and see if I can find a date at the Verison store to get a new aircard, or at the AT&T store when I turn off that service which is TERRIBLE. Not ever great, but unlimited down loads and Verison has limits, but what good does no limits have, when you can’t down load anything! Dial up is faster!
Ps I’ve got plenty of places you could paint around here!
Yes oxy….I do remember your man last year…..it was the one who landed you and Rosa with oxtuplets , if my memory serves me well???!!!! 🙂
Yeah……NEVER expected to meet anyone in the ‘shape’ I was in this morning……totally RAGEDY!!!!
Actually, it was a comfort since he’s already seen my WORST!
Who knows…..he may turn out to be a whacko……but tonight was cool!!!
My GF was shocked that I came home with 45 min. to primp….she say’s EB…..this could be IT….and your not going all out…..I said, Im tired of going all out…..if he likes me he likes me…..
And here it is……
It was a beautiful evening on the lake…..
Get your internet sorted out…..
Have you done a disk defragment lately?
If not…..go to start menu and type disk defrag, click on it and do a defrag…
This can slow down your system….
ALso clear history from all those porn sites you visit…. 🙂
Erin Brock:
I am so glad you had a great time tonight.
I am with you FreeMama…..I will never stop believing in Love, either!
It’s the meaning of Life.
Erin thanks for the update I was beginning to get worried that he might be a serial murderer..sounds good so far, now go take a COLD shower and just simmer….