Last week, Lovefraud readers brought two disturbing cases of abuse to my attention. The cases were disturbing because of the depraved actions of the perpetrators, and because most people would not suspect that they were predators at all.
The Lovefraud reader BloggerT7165 sent me a link to the case of Jessica Banks, a 65-year old woman from Moreno Valley, California, who was convicted in July of 13 counts of child abuse and two counts of sexual penetration by force and fear. Two weeks ago she was sentenced to two consecutive life terms.
The Lovefraud reader Ox Drover alerted me to a recent program on ABC’s 20/20 called Handsome Devil: The man who spread HIV. It recounts the case of Philippe Padieu, age 53, who was convicted of intentionally infecting at lease six women with HIV. Padieu, was sentenced to 45 years in prison.
Jessica Banks
The victims in the Jessica Banks case were her five adopted daughters. The five girls—who are sisters—were abused in their biological family and placed in foster care with Banks in 2000. Banks legally adopted the girls in 2004. Shortly after that she took them out of public school. They started attending school at the Word of Life Apostolic Church, which was located in a Moreno Valley strip mall. Jessica Banks was the pastor of the church, which prosecutors described as a cult.
In 2005, one of the girls was found curled up on the sidewalk in front of another business near the church. She had a black eye. With that, the four girls, aged four to 11, were discovered. When authorities removed them from Banks’ custody—they were living in a hidden room in her garage, wearing long black dresses and two layers of diapers.
The girls were emaciated, with only moldy food to eat. Prosecutors said Banks kicked them daily and beat them with cords, sticks, high-heeled shoes, belts and extension cords. She also made them take sleeping pills. Two of the girls were sexually assaulted with paint sticks.
The girls said they attended séances at Banks’ church, which only had a handful of members. One of the girls sat there with a rope around her neck. Saying the girls made up the stories, Banks denied all charges of abuse. The jury didn’t buy it and convicted her.
During the sentencing hearing, Banks’ attorney argued for leniency, stating that the woman did not fit the profile of a typical sexual predator.
To read more about this horrible case, see Girls adopted by Jessica Banks
Philippe Padieu
After her marriage fell apart, Diane Reeve from Dallas, Texas, decided to try Internet dating. She met Philippe Padieu, an exotic man who was born in France and worked as a network security analyst in Frisco, Texas. They shared an interest in martial arts, and Diane had a relationship with him for four and a half years.
Eventually, however, she learned that the Padieu was cheating on her. She went through his cell phone bill—she was paying for it—and contacted nine other women to alert them to Padieu’s infidelity.
A few months later, one of the women, “Susan Brown” (a pseudonym given her by 20/20) called Reeve back. She’d tested positive for HIV. When Diane Reeve herself was tested, not only was she HIV positive, she had AIDS.
Brown had called Padieu, told him about the HIV, and that she had reported him to the health department. Padieu wasn’t worried about the infection, but he was furious that he’d been named.
At this point the women took on a mission to warn the other women that Philippe Padieu was sleeping with. In fact, six women, who ranged in age from 40 to 60, formed both a support and investigative group. Padieu was bringing a parade of women into his home, knowing he was HIV positive. He had to be stopped.
To see how they did it, I recommend that you watch the 20/20 episode, which is available online at Handsome Devil: The man who spread HIV.
Padieu himself is interviewed at the end. Of course, he denied everything, and said one of the women infected him.
You can also read a 20/20 article about the case at: How women united to stop HIV-positive man.
Unlikely perpetrators
Both of these cases are horrific and shocking, and thankfully, both perpetrators are going to be locked up probably until they die.
But look how long they were both out on the street harming innocent victims without attracting any attention. That’s because they weren’t typical perpetrators.
Jessica Banks was a 65-year-old grandmother and church pastor who abused her own adopted daughters.
Philippe Padieu was a 53-year-old computer guy who targeted middle-aged women.
Once again, appearances can be deceiving.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbXiECmCZ94&a=xsHP9VhVW7A&playnext_from=ML
Cold shower……hell…..I’m searching for where Rosa picked up her $150.00 ‘investment’ 🙂
If things go the way I’m hoping they will, you won’t need it. 🙂
Wow….that’d be something NEW for me!!!!
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Does one ever forget?????
Erin Brock:
I love it that you met a man at the paint store, and I hope your new guy calls for Date #2.
Henry, you make me laugh 🙂 .
Poof! I’m out.
EB thanks for the computer hints, yea I defrag. This has an air card (AT&T) that has so omany “bars” lately (2 weeks) I have had only 2 bars of “regular” reception and is slower than dial up, and have had 1 bar of 3G which is pretty good for a long time.
Tonight I have had 1 bar of 3G and no problem, but I am just tired of messing with AT&T—it is inconsistent in any case. Verizon has as a better faster card for the same price monthly, so will get it. It has a limit of stuff you can down load, but son C had one and watched lots of U-tubes and such and played video games on line and never even used 1/3 of it. Son D uses mine at night to down load big programs, but you know, there are so many wi-fi free spots now he can go to town once in a while and down load what he needs.
My air card itself is 3 years old, so it is not as good as the newer ones.
I go into withdrawl if I can’t at least read on LF! Well, gotta go to bed. Have a good night guys!
My girlfriend met a guy on the internet there first day was
May 22 and she has slept with this guy. She told me they talk last night an she told him that she don’t want this to be a sexual relationship she wants the guy to court her that he should be taking her out to dinner and spending more time wit her. My past experience with a S tells me that she shoulda put the requirements on the table before she gave up the goods. Correct me if I’m wrong, its all about actions words means nothing if you cant show me, I kept trying to tell her that but it went over her head.
Luv716:
I think you are so right when you say:
“…she shoulda put the requirements on the table before she gave up the goods.”
Yes, that’s exactly what she should have done, especially if she wants to be courted and romanced by this man.
If she would have waited until she got to know him a little better, she might have a better idea of the type of man she is dealing with.
By sleeping with him so soon, she has already “given the milk away for free”, if you know what I mean.
So, I think it will be almost impossible to go back and “close the gate” again….at least in the man’s eyes.
What’s done is done.
I totally agree I was thinking the same thing, once u gave it up, it seem too late to ask for what u should get from a man in the beginning. Since dealing with the S I feel like, I gotta get to know a man an his intentions, he may just be out for a good time or got using on the brain while your look for real love! I NO LONGER BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SITE! the S made that clear to me. Oh yeah the S called me, I missed his call thank God! All the hurting and using that I’ve experience from him, No way in hell I coulda called him back.
Oxy – really good point about the women being in permanent relationships with the guy … the phenomenon of blaming rape victims is an interesting one … it relates to two theories so far I have encountered
1) Just word theory where people assume that everyone in the world gets what they work for and what they deserve … this is related to the trickle down effect posited by big business that if the rich get tax breaks then that profit trickles down to the poorer people in society … SIMPLY NOT TRUE!!! There are all kinds of impediments to getting ahead in life and economic ones are major
2) The other theory is of course victim blame where it is assumed if someone is hurt or treated badly then they must have done something to deserve or provoke it. Just World theory is seen by some researchers as the motivation for blaming victims …
Both theories allow Joe Public to distance themselves from nasty events by thinking “well if I don;t dress that way, go to those places, act that way then it won;t happen to me.”
I was saying to a friend the other day that having a large bust prevents you from wearing many types of clothing as they would appear too suggestive. I think this is unfair and wrong – we should be able to wear whatever the heck we like. The fact is though that if I wore certain items, I would be ogled by strangers and treated as a sex object.
Both these theories affect us who have survived a toxic encounter with a psychopath / sociopath … there is always a sense that if a person has been abused, then they somehow must have brought it on themselves. There’s also that stupid statement ” It takes two to tango” that implies involvement in your own abuse. No it doesn’t take two to tango … sometimes one person tries to follow the steps and be a fair partner and the other person steps all over your feet and makes you look a fool. Sometimes one person does all the giving and the other all the taking. And being with a socio is a form of long term rape and torture. There is always coercion and abuse of power.
It pithes me off that I can’t speak out about what he did because I wouldn’t be believed. It pithes me off that his charm hypnotises people to his true character and me that always was truthful would be seen as a liar for saying what really happened. It’s a hard and horrible journey to go through.
EB congrats on the date – meeting in sweats is a good omen … glad you didn’t make too much fuss for him. If he likes you then he likes you – and it sounds like he does. Hope he has the good sense to call you for another date … but if he doesn’t – glad you had a good dating experience – it’s about time you did!
Pollyananomore – YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The pervasive charm blindsides the non-victim and the Survivors can try eight ways from Sunday to describe what actually happened, and we’ll be stared at as if we’d sprouted a zucchini out of our foreheads. “You’re kidding! Not him/her! He/she is the nicest person I know!” Or, the ever popular, “I thought you guys were the perfect couple! You were always laughing!” Uh…..the humor was to make believe that everything WAS just dandy. Behind those walls lurked monsters………
“Well, why didn’t you leave, then,” was a traditional response when I tried to describe what had happened. It’s almost impossible to describe just how low a person can be brought down to someone else who hasn’t experienced the same thing.
EB? DATE!?!?! I’ve missed so much!!! Congratulations, EB!!! Enjoy yourself, ladybug! Have a good time!!!! 😀