This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Carlisia.”
The sociopath left me and our son homeless.
We were involved six years ago when I became pregnant. He was very upset about the pregnancy and treated me badly, even offered me money to have an abortion.
He disappeared from our lives when our son was six months old and found another victim. Three years passed and because something went wrong with my child support I had to contact him again so he can fix it. We started communicating by email and exchanging pictures and he wanted to take me out to dinner to “catch up.”
I accepted and the love-bombing started all over again. More intense than the first time.
He promised not to hurt me ever again, and he had plans to buy a home and move me in with our son. He said he was tired of dating (he is very promiscuous) and he wanted to settle down and form a family with me. He even cried telling me he finally found what he was looking for in me.
Meanwhile he was dating someone when he came back to me. After a while he discarded her to be with me.
He bought the house, furniture which I picked out, we remodeled it to my liking, I felt like his princess.
We moved in, and after three months of bliss I saw an inbox he sent to his old neighbor saying he wanted to meet up for sex.
I confronted him and he told me nothing happened that he made a mistake, that he was going to have sex with her but changed his mind because he didn’t want to lose me. He even took a lie detector test, which he passed.
We decided to go to counseling after his pity play, where he cried like a baby. And life went on.
After a few months from that incident I found transsexual porn in his phone, I confronted him about it, and he gave me some lame excuse that he worked with a shemale and they were making fun of “her.”
Anyways fast forward, he is in a motorcycle club which hold meetings every Wednesday, and some weekend events. One time he came home from his meeting I caught him texting someone. He gave me a story about some girl he met in an event but it was just friendship.
Well when I check his online phone statements (looking for that particular number he texted) I find a pattern of calls to shemale escorts every time he is out on Wednesdays and weekends.
The girl he was talking about never existed. He fabricated a story which we had arguments about. The person he texted was a shemale.
Every week he hooks up with shemale escorts. The phone bills go back to 2012. He’s been doing that since then.
He denied it of course, saying that he only meets them to buy drugs. And he acted as if I was insulting him by confronting him with it.
He has smeared my name among his friends and family telling them I am a lunatic.
I left the house with my son and I’m planning to stay far away from him forever, even though I am in so much pain. This is very hurtful, but now I’m far from his physical and mental abuse.
This guy is an Italian stud, incredibly masculine, so people don’t believe me when I tell them what he does. He rides a Harley and has had many relationships with women, but he uses them as cover, to lie and manipulate, while at night he engages in gay sex with transsexuals.
I am devastated and disgusted, and at the same time I realize how lucky I am to be out of that situation.
Carlisia – I can’t imagine how appalled you must have been to learn the truth of what he was doing. Shocking.
Carlisia
OMG! My spath was looking at tranny porn all the time, I suspected he’d been there but never had access to his phone, only the computer using spy ware… I left only recently and he’s now doing the same thing yours did, crying, begging and pleading for my return while also promising the world to me that I always wanted – uber Italian stud to boot!
Everything you wrote is what my little voice is warning me about so thanks for sharing what happened to you, I’m truly sorry you had to go through it all but your story reinfores my instincts and now I think I just have to be ok with the reputation that I’m the crazy one – it certainly saves me from being the victim again.
They are despicable these men. I found tranny porn in his phone long time ago and confronted him about it. He told me the only reason he was watching that type of porn is because his friend sent it to him as a joke, because he has a shemale co-worker. I didn’t think much of it and moved on from that incident. Time went by and when I looked into his phone records I discovered he hooks up with transsexual escorts on a weekly basis!! He also does drugs (coke and ecstasy are his drugs of choice) especially when he goes out and engages with escorts.I spoke to many of those shemales and verified. I am disgusted! He recently registered on POF ( a dating site) looking for women to date. It’s like he needs to lie and deceive someone, if he doesn’t he does not function. If he is engaging in gay sex why not stay single and do what you want with the transsexual escorts? So abusive of him. He was always love-bombing me every time I caught him doing something wrong,and I always succumbed until this last time, where his pity-play did not work, immediately after that his mask fell and he started treating me like I was less of a person. Here is a man who does drugs, sleeps with male prostitutes and he was telling me in my face he was better than me!! He started mocking me, throwing me out, ignoring me. I left but not before exposing him to his friends and family.
My ex spath is a functional drug addict, he has a great stable job making 6 figures a year, he owns a beautiful house, car , motorcycle, has a big circle of friends and an active social life. I believe he targeted me to add to his facade of normalcy. At night his life is emerged in a transsexual world, where he has had exclusive transsexual lovers.He is incredibly handsome, and women are very attracted to him, he is never without a girlfriend. He ends a relationship and in no time starts another one right away without taking a breather. His relationship do not last more than a year and half. Except when he was married, he got divorced because his wife caught him having sex with her own sister. He is a full blown psychopath. Everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie, but he tells them with such details and so convincingly that you have no choice but to believe him.
Carlisia
If you’re still around? Sorry but for some reason I’ve unsubscribed to several feeds and can’t change it back…I’ve only just stumbled onto your response so sorry for the time lapse!
From what you’ve said, mine is a mirror image! He denies the shemale encounters but I know without question that he has had that as part of his “other life.”
Sadly for society, it wasn’t the only fetish and he crossed the line by having sex with 2 minors, that I know about. He is now awaiting the charges and as I’d left the marriage, he is also fulfilling his multiple desires without me there to stop him – it is only a matter of time….
My spath was very involved with a local football club as a conditioner and trainer until recently. I received some information that someone from the police force had tipped them off to the pending child sex allegations so they’ve also stood him down – I can’t even begin to imagine how that must have hurt his pride!
Anyway, I still got sucked back in for a while as he caused doubt by OVER explaining his side of the story, then he said the most incriminating thing I’d ever heard come out of his mouth so I called the detectives and they wired me up and sent me to dinner with him to discuss the situation – of course being a policeman, he knew what not to reveal so it was a waste of time…. at this point we’re relying on the DNA evidence – time will tell…
Anyway, one day your spath will be exposed for what he is so hang in there and watch!