Back in October, the Lovefraud community was shocked to learn that the toddler son of our own contributor, Cappuccino Queen, went to his father’s home for a court-ordered visitation and did not return. Today the child’s father, Joaquin Rams, was arrested for his murder.
Joaquin Rams arrested for allegedly killing Prince McLeod Rams, on WJLA.com.
Dr. Liane Leedom will be posting about this case soon.
My spathy ex claims responsibilty for murdering aman in 1997. This man is a missing person and I gave a recorded statement to a detective months before I made my relocation with my litttle one. CQs tragic story hits me hard. I know my ex is spathy to the degree that he is capable of similar behavior. Life has been really difficult since we made the jump, but through CQs experiences, I am convinced I may have saved my life and that of my child. People who dont understand this disorder and what a sociopath is capable of tend to believe we, the victims of their actions, are being dramatic or hypervigilant. The preventable death of this little boy should serve as an eye opener,to the justice system that allowed this to happen. Where is the justice for the grieving mom? I cannot even put into words how terribly I feel for both CQ and little Prince whos life was stolen. I am grateful to CQ for contributing to this blog and helping the scared, traumatized parents see clearly the danger their children are in and that the family courts will not protect them. I dont know what else to say. Im just so very sorry this has all happened to CQ.
Dawn, you are responsible and prudent for having purchased that insurance for hopefully never needed burial costs! But if there was another parent involved, they should be notified just as an insured adult should be notified when someone else takes out a policy on them. Which means if there were three, the other parent would learn that there were three. I am sure some lawyers and judges will insist that the judge’s hands were tied here and he was powerless to make use of the information about two other suspicious deaths. But I can’t imagine his thinking wouldn’t be changed by an unemployed con artist taking three policies out on a baby, especially if bad things seemed to keep happening when he was with the baby. It looks like there aren’t laws in VA that would have enabled Cappuccino Queen to get alerted about this. I would hope the law would allow a judge to factor this in in a court case. If these things are not in place, I hope that changes.
What I find so chilling about Hera’s whole experience is that her concerns were dismissed, entirely, and that those concerns were viewed as the ramblings of a bitter, jilted woman bent on vengeance. This is what typically happens in Family Court – even with presiding Judges that have worked in Family Court for years. They are not LISTENING to the facts, and the people who are supposed to be working for the safety of the voiceless children are, in essence, disinterested, overworked, and UNTRAINED.
Drowned? He drowned that child? There simply isn’t a sentence that will ever make him accountable for drowning a defenseless child.
If anyone has ANY doubt about how Family Court is conducted, I would urge them to take one day out of their lives and sit in the gallery and observe.
GOOD that he was arrested. I’m simply outraged that Prince didn’t HAVE to die – he only died because the Court failed, miserably. And, I hope that Hera hires a superb attorney and files every lawsuit imaginable.
LPMarie, I can understand how this whole story has affected you, and I am so sorry that you (and, anyone else) experiences such terror.
There are many things in the Justice Systems that aren’t perfect and really should be adjusted. But, when Family Courts fail to protect children and adult victims of psychopaths, it’s not just a small failure, but it’s a failure of incredible magnitude. And, it happens EVERY day. I’ve experienced it, and I’ve SEEN it happen to others. I read it on LoveFraud, daily.
I wish that I had “good” words of comfort, support, and encouragement, here. I’m at a loss because it’s such a monumental mess.
Hugs and brightest blessings
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/manassas-man-is-charged-with-murder-in-alleged-drowning-of-his-16-month-old-son/2013/01/25/ddd889c0-6731-11e2-9e1b-07db1d2ccd5b_story.html?wprss=rss_crime
So Hera was unaware that Rams had taken out these insurance policies? Also, why has it taken so long for the authorities to realize the baby drowned? It’s kind of confusing. Breaks my heart. All I can think about is that gorgeous little boy suffocating…absolutely awful. 🙁
Louise, whenever there is a criminal investigation, every duck has to be in its proper place. I have NO doubt that the autopsy was performed immediately after Prince passed. The ME’s findings have to remain unpublished until an inquiry is conducted (as I understand it). THe authorities knew the findings about 10 minutes after they were entered into the system – believe me, it goes that way.
It’s not uncommon for parents to take out life insurance policies on their children, if they can afford to do it. Since Rams was the legal parent, he could do this without question. And, to my knowledge, there is no Insurance Database that can alert anyone to multiple policies being taken out on anyone. One policy makes sense. Several policies is a klaxon warning siren.
I not only imagine that poor baby suffocating, but I imagine what nightmarish terror he experienced and I cannot – will not – ever wrap my head around how someone could do that to a baby, for ANY reason. These are the kinds of things that cause me to stand in the shower and weep – that there exist human beings that not only have the capacity to THINK about doing horrible things to defenseless children, but that they actually DO them.
Dear God in Heaven…..
Brightest blessings
LPMarie, I know that your living situation is tough right now, but I applaud you for having the good sense and guts to strike out AWAY from that monster while you could and while your baby and you are SAFE.
I know that living in a shelter is tough but you keep on loving and comforting that baby and times WILL get better. (((hugs)))) and my prayers for you.
Truthspeak:
Yes, I guess these things take time. I wondered about the autopsy, too…I thought if it was done right away, why didn’t they know then it was a drowning and why has it taken three months for an arrest? But this is how these things obviously work.
Good point about the multiple insurance policies. Perhaps that is something Hera could push for…making the insurance industry implement a database that would catch multiple policies.
Oh, the terror that poor baby experienced…I can’t even stand to think about it. May he RIP.
LPMarie ~
You did the right thing. I know you will pass through these rough seas and find calmer water. You and that adorable little bubble blower are in my thoughts and prayers.
Like Oxy said – times WILL get better. Double ((hugs)) from me.
xxxxx – Milo