Those of us who have been psychologically abused by sociopaths—whether we’re male or female, and whether the abuser is male or female—know that the abuse should be criminal. It appears that in France, it just may happen.
A Lovefraud reader sent me a link to an interesting story in Time Magazine. Legislators from France’s ruling party are expected to introduce a bill that would outlaw “conjugal abuse of a psychological nature” in both married and unmarried relationships.
According to Time,
The legislation seeks to target the verbal and mental denigration, humiliation and manipulation that typically lead to physical abuse. The hope is that the bill will help prevent the emotional wounds that words often cause before a punch is ever thrown.
I hope the law gets passed. I hope it works. We’ll have to see what happens.
Read the article on Time.com:
French bid to ban marital abuse that’s psychological
one/joy_step_at_a_time
midlife – just a quick note about introversion/extroversion. some of the testing i have done (mostly career oriented) about that paradigm qualifies the distinction by what ‘feeds’ us. not necessarily how ‘outgoing’ we are.
If you walk into a loud big party does it feed you, or do you get fed by quiet smaller or singular pursuits. I spent most of my early life introverted – and i wonder if that was a response to my family and situation (isolated in the boonies with a village of people all from the same fuckking gene pool). As a person in my 40’s i became very into connecting with people in groups – not necessarily an introvert or extrovert activity, but oddly enough, i started being fed by those situations and less and les fed by my alone time.
i want that back now. i want to be fed by my alone time. i am my only true reliable source. oh my, that’t a thinker.
night. x one step
one/joy_step_at_a_time
midlife – life is a bit harsh. triggered as hell, and toxic from chemicals again. skin is burning and i am nauseous.
and its 2 am here! going to bed NOW! 🙂
i am freakn about fidning work, but i am still pretty positive. and getting quite ballsy with the negative talk in my head this week (pounded the matress when it started first thing this am and said, NO!!)
AND – i had a work situation today that i handled extremely well: ever so sweetly went on the offensive, ’cause i knew i could potentially get a grilling about something i was making a report on. I AM learning.
okay, now…ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
lightsaber
I totally agree with you midlife. There needs to be more exposure of the garden variety snakes that eat up everyday people. One of my long term goals is to make a video (perhaps more than one) about this exact thing and post it on Youtube. The more the word gets out to people, the less power these vipers will have.
I think the book you read is a different book. It sounds really good as well. I know I’m definitely an introvert. I think almost anyone, introvert or extrovert can be had given the right circumstances.
one step – ahhh silk scarves! ok haha
That’s very cool the way you saw me as gathering colored light. I like that and I do kind of do that 🙂
good night ((hug))
Nicolaid
Hello Mike,
I don’t think I am an aspie. I took an online self-report out of curiosity, after reading your comment, and the result suggested I was « likely neurotypical ». But I possibly bear some resemblance with the syndrome, I don’t know.
Hello Sabrina
I could easily have written just what you want to read. No doubt you’d have found me sensitive, well-informed, rational, honest and quite charming.
Have you read Cleckley ? Have you noticed the following entry in the index ?
Devotion of women for psychopaths, 180-182,
196, 197-198, 444
I will follow your advice and won’t comment anymore.
I wish you the best
autisticsouls
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autisticsouls
Hey One Step, could be a glitch maybe. Some of my posts go on moderation first before posting.
Mike
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Hello Nicolaid,
Those online AQ tests aren’t very accurate, except to determine ‘a type’ of Aspie, mostly the stereotype of Aspie, the geeky type. Most of our Aspies wouldn’t be Aspies on those tests alone. we have a severe Aspie who seems more autistic than anything and preserved speech seems all that puts him in the Asperger category.
Honest critical exploration, and analytical thought is one common aspect of many with Asperger Syndrome which was why I asked. Also some of our intense and complex (but not aspie) gifted kids carry that trait as well. Some of our kids do seem coldly insensitve and detached in their explorations and dialogues on a subject, while some others carry their hearts on their sleeves.
We just got a website going that the kids got started up, if you’d like to take a look. It’s really new though, but they’ve got some good links in there for now. We started out very Waldorfy, so many of our kids have been communing with nature and learning hands on skills, like soap making and pottery, glass making, horse back riding, and stuff like poetry on the beach, philosophy talks in the park, as a regular school day before we exposed them to much technology, so we are way behind on some things.: http://autisticdimensions.webs.com/
This site also has great links, since most of ours are child centered: http://talentdevelop.com/
We belong to a learning collaborative and am now in indecision whether to devote my time here with the kids, which will be for FAR less money than what I have become accustomed to. How I am going to make the mortgage will become a real issue if I stay here instead.
Thankfully I have a wife and child who wouldn’t notice or care if we live in a trailer or mansion, or whether i have to bike to work or have a car to drive.
But the investment in our children seems to be more of a pertinent mission these days. It’s a question of doing what I love to do and survive on very little money or tolerate the other because it pays for things I need and want with a little extra on the side.
I am also tired of the mindgames in the workplace and with a psychopathic co-worker who has me in his target zone. he pretty much told me “..to get with the program..” and “”not get in his way, that I’ll be sorry if i f*&k with him—
Now I’m not going to ignore issues, or chose to pretend I don’t know what he is doing. If I return there it’s not possible it would be under any passive compliance, even though that would mean an all out war between us which I am not at all confident that I will win, more likely I see that it’s likely it will not end until he has seen to it that I have a nervous breakdown or whatever else he has planned for me.
So I am spending time with the kids right now until the matter resolves itself out. For now contributing to the kids childhood and their learning experience has it’s rewards.
Have you looked into Dabrowski’s theory of overexcitabilities? http://talentdevelop.com/Dabrowski.html
Or Aron’s Highly Sensitive People? I have noticed that one type of personality (psychopathic) does seem to single out and target another type of personality (Individuals prone to higher sensitivities) http://www.hsperson.com/index.html
MIke
autisticsouls
Lightsaber says:
“…I think part of the problem is ”“ and this is something I touched on but didn’t get into much ”“ the MEDIA.
….that there is a glaring misconception and perceptual distortion in the general public of WHAT psychopaths REALLY are like. This misconception comes from what we read and watch…”
As a parent, and caregiver to others with children,(autistics and HSP kids) that would likely grow up to meet the target list of many psychopaths, I am at a loss of how to protect our kids from them or how to bring awareness to them of predators like these, with not enough ‘everyday’ media examples to show them. they all know about ‘strangers’ approaching them, and ‘bad touching’ and all of that, but the subtle predators that can infiltrate without notice is a real issue that I am concerned about the lack of awareness of.
Mike
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Ms Smith: You and your intrinsic protective nature rock!
best,
one step
JaneSmith
Big smooch! Muah!
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Love you folks. Always and forever.
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