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How the pain of abuse lasts a lifetime

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January 12, 2011 //  by Donna Andersen//  180 Comments

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A few days ago, Bill Zeller, a 27-year-old graduate student at Princeton University, died. The cause: suicide. The reason: He was tormented due to being repeatedly raped as a child.

Zeller left a 4,000-word suicide note that eloquently explained the effect that the devastation had on his life. There is a link to it in this article:

Princeton student kills self over rape as child, on CBSNews.com.

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Category: For children of sociopaths, Sociopaths and family

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  1. soimnotthecrazee1

    January 13, 2011 at 1:42 am

    finding,
    You are so correct!! What a prison he lived in ! So sad he wouldn’t be honest and confess with anyone. there might have been a chance for him if he did
    SC1

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  2. findingtruthnhealing

    January 13, 2011 at 1:56 am

    SC1,

    Those they reach out to and ultimately abuse are their attempts at opening. What’s sad is that they didn’t construct
    their prison and abusing those who want to care about and for them isn’t going to shatter those walls, only cause more pain.

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  3. soimnotthecrazee1

    January 13, 2011 at 2:22 am

    Finding,
    Not to sound crewl… but I hope my xspath is on the edge of the ledge…. if anybody tried with him I did. He was in the grandiosity stage of his euphoria…. there was no stopping him!! After all he wrecked in my life….. it wouldn’t bother me if he committed suicide. NOT AT ALL!!!
    SC1

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  4. CAmom

    January 13, 2011 at 2:29 am

    SC1—please don’t think that. My ex threatened me, was vicious in every way. It should be a relief that he’s gone. It really isn’t…I hate that got to the place where he took his life, thought that was his only recourse.

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  5. soimnotthecrazee1

    January 13, 2011 at 2:56 am

    CAmom,
    We didn’t have the children, life or fun that I was promised. So the only thing I lost was myself and my money. We had nothing to bond us. A dog… big deal… he kept that from me too. We were friends for 12 yrs. That’s all I lost. A real friend wouldn’t do what he did to me. So that isn’t even a loss. I could care less if he dies!!! I would actually dance on his grave when he dies!!! SNOOPY HAPPY DANCE!!!!! Remember you don’t know my story of abuse!!!
    SC1

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  6. Lynez

    January 13, 2011 at 11:09 am

    Where can I find Donna’s email, and is hers the only one available?

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  7. Ox Drover

    January 13, 2011 at 11:16 am

    Her e mail is DONNA@LOVEFRAUD.COM

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  8. Lynez

    January 13, 2011 at 11:18 am

    Thank you.

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  9. bluejay

    January 13, 2011 at 11:32 am

    I read the article, the suicide note, and I understand why he ended it. It saddens me that this young man was abused, in the end destroying his life. I know what he means about the darkness, being touched by evil. Some people can never recover, being permanently marred by what was done to them. My hope is that he HAS the peace that he deserves.

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  10. Fannie LeFlore

    January 13, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    In reading comments that people made about their memories of Bill Zeller through the link in the CBS.com story, it made me wonder if any of those people ever told Bill in person that they valued him or appreciated his friendship.

    He was described by many as a loyal and caring person.
    Funerals and memorials are for the living.

    Perhaps a lesson is to take time periodically to let others know — while they are alive — when we appreciate something they’ve done for us, or that we are simply glad to know them.

    How hard is that?

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