Ox,
Because we were ordered to communicate via the Family Wizard. It was yet another “wise” decision by the lovely court insisting that we co-parent. The fact that we have to use the Family Wizard should be proof enough that we can not and should not have to co-parent. On top of that, some insane couselor told my ex the the “wizard” could be used as a weapon. so…if I dont respond to some of his requests, he will accuse me of not communication. Cant win for losing with these freaks. If you do reply they try to use it against you. If you dont reply, they will have you back in court for not communicating..which has already been my case. Maybe when all is said and done and my kids are legally on their own I can write a book and mke my money back. All the time spent in court for such frivilous allegations…sooo SP
Peace 🙂
Ox Drover
13 years ago
Dear hgg522,
Well, I agree with you there, HAVING to “communicate” with them is tough, and having to “co-parent” with them must be HORRIBLE to say the least. I do hope that your kids are not too damaged by this monster. Have you seen Dr. Leedom’s site “parenting the at risk child?” or read her book, “Just like his father”? If not, I suggest that you do, she is the voice of experience for sure on this issue.
God bless you and your children.
hgg522
13 years ago
Ox,
It is horrible to say the least. My dtr has been recently dx with anorexia and the fact that we have to work together with her tx is impossible. He sabatages and detroys everything good that can be gained by her treatment. He actually is taking me back to court for seeking a specialist for her. I told him I was seeking further tx and he never responded..so, I took her. Now he wants to hold me in contempt of court for seeking the best help possible for my very malnourished, depressed, and hopeless baby girl. Sooo stinkin unfair. not to mention, he has not offered to pay a dime for her tx. What a SCUMBAG!!!
(breathing deep…)
Ox Drover
13 years ago
Dear hgg522,
Dealing with anorexia is difficult with any child (or adult) and during all that mess with a P-sperm donor must make it very difficult for you to get treatment for her, but I am glad that you went ahead and got her a specialist. Fighting him of course is just an added stress and cost to you, but that is what he wants to do, to make life difficult for you even if it kills her–scumbag is not a sufficient term for someone like that—MONSTER is I think more appropriate.
God bless you and your daughter and give you both strength! (((hugs)))
carriesguns
13 years ago
i was married for 13 years to a man i would now say was schizoaffective. 16 years later i hired a stranger to help me build a fence. after three days of working together, we got along famously but something about him tapped that little red flag in the back of my mind, so i finished the job and didn’t have anything else to do with him. six months later i stood in line at a local small store and after awhile realized the person i was listening to talking to another lady in line was him. and as i listened i realized he used exactly the same speech patterns as my ex….whom i’d not spoken to in years. precisely the same odd, never heard-them-anywhere else little personal cute sayings, (at least three of them just in a thirty minute period)
very strange experience.
Truthspeak
12 years ago
Here’s what the spath worm wrote at the end of his own parody of himself (some words altered to avoid copyright):
***Mr. Panfry put the phone down and stood up from the sofa and stretched. He walked into his bedroom, turned on the TV, and put on his night clothes. He brushed his teeth and listened to the evening news. With methodical precision, Panfry went through the motions that were scripted for him. Mr. Panfry’s reality was entirely scripted, although the illusions through which he moved were not. His illusions never interfered with his inner core. He never acknowledged the problem since he could never focus beyond his life’s script or his waking illusions. If there was a problem, it was with the script, only. Panfry’s denial of his issues even had its own script with no responsibility to be held accountable for.***
THIS is the description of a sociopath BY a sociopath without recognizing that it IS a sociopath. Talk about semantics! WOW
KatyDid
12 years ago
Truthspeak
Thanks for sharing how spaths KNOW, they just don’t acknowledge.
He should have replaced the word illusions with DE LUSIONS! Better fit. LOL!
behind_blue_eyes
12 years ago
From what I remember of my x-spath’s speech and writing patterns, it was detailed, but emotionally flat. He was pre-occupied with alcohol.
jordeez
12 years ago
How abut this one girls….You never loved me if you did You would have hugged me tighter….Spoken like a true spath.
jordeez
12 years ago
Sorry i am typing in the dark here….ABOUT correction
Ox,
Because we were ordered to communicate via the Family Wizard. It was yet another “wise” decision by the lovely court insisting that we co-parent. The fact that we have to use the Family Wizard should be proof enough that we can not and should not have to co-parent. On top of that, some insane couselor told my ex the the “wizard” could be used as a weapon. so…if I dont respond to some of his requests, he will accuse me of not communication. Cant win for losing with these freaks. If you do reply they try to use it against you. If you dont reply, they will have you back in court for not communicating..which has already been my case. Maybe when all is said and done and my kids are legally on their own I can write a book and mke my money back. All the time spent in court for such frivilous allegations…sooo SP
Peace 🙂
Dear hgg522,
Well, I agree with you there, HAVING to “communicate” with them is tough, and having to “co-parent” with them must be HORRIBLE to say the least. I do hope that your kids are not too damaged by this monster. Have you seen Dr. Leedom’s site “parenting the at risk child?” or read her book, “Just like his father”? If not, I suggest that you do, she is the voice of experience for sure on this issue.
God bless you and your children.
Ox,
It is horrible to say the least. My dtr has been recently dx with anorexia and the fact that we have to work together with her tx is impossible. He sabatages and detroys everything good that can be gained by her treatment. He actually is taking me back to court for seeking a specialist for her. I told him I was seeking further tx and he never responded..so, I took her. Now he wants to hold me in contempt of court for seeking the best help possible for my very malnourished, depressed, and hopeless baby girl. Sooo stinkin unfair. not to mention, he has not offered to pay a dime for her tx. What a SCUMBAG!!!
(breathing deep…)
Dear hgg522,
Dealing with anorexia is difficult with any child (or adult) and during all that mess with a P-sperm donor must make it very difficult for you to get treatment for her, but I am glad that you went ahead and got her a specialist. Fighting him of course is just an added stress and cost to you, but that is what he wants to do, to make life difficult for you even if it kills her–scumbag is not a sufficient term for someone like that—MONSTER is I think more appropriate.
God bless you and your daughter and give you both strength! (((hugs)))
i was married for 13 years to a man i would now say was schizoaffective. 16 years later i hired a stranger to help me build a fence. after three days of working together, we got along famously but something about him tapped that little red flag in the back of my mind, so i finished the job and didn’t have anything else to do with him. six months later i stood in line at a local small store and after awhile realized the person i was listening to talking to another lady in line was him. and as i listened i realized he used exactly the same speech patterns as my ex….whom i’d not spoken to in years. precisely the same odd, never heard-them-anywhere else little personal cute sayings, (at least three of them just in a thirty minute period)
very strange experience.
Here’s what the spath worm wrote at the end of his own parody of himself (some words altered to avoid copyright):
***Mr. Panfry put the phone down and stood up from the sofa and stretched. He walked into his bedroom, turned on the TV, and put on his night clothes. He brushed his teeth and listened to the evening news. With methodical precision, Panfry went through the motions that were scripted for him. Mr. Panfry’s reality was entirely scripted, although the illusions through which he moved were not. His illusions never interfered with his inner core. He never acknowledged the problem since he could never focus beyond his life’s script or his waking illusions. If there was a problem, it was with the script, only. Panfry’s denial of his issues even had its own script with no responsibility to be held accountable for.***
THIS is the description of a sociopath BY a sociopath without recognizing that it IS a sociopath. Talk about semantics! WOW
Truthspeak
Thanks for sharing how spaths KNOW, they just don’t acknowledge.
He should have replaced the word illusions with DE LUSIONS! Better fit. LOL!
From what I remember of my x-spath’s speech and writing patterns, it was detailed, but emotionally flat. He was pre-occupied with alcohol.
How abut this one girls….You never loved me if you did You would have hugged me tighter….Spoken like a true spath.
Sorry i am typing in the dark here….ABOUT correction