Last week Lovefraud posted a new True Lovefraud Story about a con artist named Dennis SanSeverino. The creep pretended to be loving and rich long enough to convince his victim to trust him. Then he took her home and inheritance.
This story is a classic case of a sociopath targeting the vulnerable.
When the victim, Trish Rynn, met SanSeverino, she had just endured a difficult breakup with her boyfriend. In the months that they got to know each other—Rynn initially refused his many dinner invitations—he must have been listening intently as she chatted about her life. Rynn’s ex-husband was physically abusive. After the marriage ended, Rynn spent 10 years in court fighting child custody and child support battles. The strain sent her into clinical depression, from which she was just beginning to recover.
Rynn was vulnerable, and SanSeverino was attracted like a shark to blood in the water.
SanSeverino started taking Rynn’s money—under the guise of helping her, of course. When Rynn found herself in serious debt due to him, she slipped back into depression. That’s when SanSeverino took her house and the rest of her inheritance.
Sad stories made worse
Lovefraud has heard these truly sad stories over and over again: Grief-stricken people who have lost a spouse or a child, and then lose their insurance settlement to a sociopath. Disabled people who are targeted because they get a minimal subsidy from the government. People struggling to care for someone else—like children or elderly parents—who learn that the assistance promised by a sociopath makes their burdens worse.
And then there are the lonely. Anyone who is lonely for any reason is walking target for a sociopath.
Vigilance when vulnerable
It’s sad, really. When we have problems and need help, we want to be able to trust that offers of assistance are real. When we’re looking for companionship, we want to be able to believe that the person pursuing us is sincere.
But the truth is that when we’re vulnerable, we need to be especially vigilant. Sociopaths are predators, and wounded prey make for an easy kill.
LL – Looks like you are starting to balance things in your head. And succeeding.
Yes there will be times when we think back with rose tinted specs but in our heart we KNOW he was no prize, not really.
Thank your lucky stars he’s with her while he is you are ‘safe’.
My ex spath went back to his ex gf (she’s put up with him for years inbetween all of his affairs) Funny thing is she thinks she’s WON. Pass the bucket.
Dear Candy,
YOu know life does get on by us doesn’t it….the days go slow and the YEARS GO FAST! I look in the mirror and I see my grandmother’s face instead of my own! LOL My grandmother and I were talking when she was about 80 and at that time quite a tiny “dried up” little thing, and she said that she didn’t FEEL inside any older than she did when she was 18 or so (and Oh, my gosh was she a beautiful girl and young woman!) and now I can so relate to how she was telling me she felt!
Ox – How true about the days/years. Memories. Don’t see you as a dried up little thing though!
regarding spath contact/smears:
i’ve been out of my relationshit for almost 6 weeks now.
this story is kinda extra nutty in a way because it shows how they travel in packs, as do their enablers…
my spath left the country for 2 weeks almost right after (he’s an “artist assistant” to his co-spath friend, who is a somewhat prominent artiste, showing in Europe. a few days after their departure, his good friend, who happens to be the artiste’s stepbrother and a raging junkie spath, overdosed and died.
the two girls i had been closest with in our social group both called me to tell me about the death, despite the fact they hadnt contacted me AT ALL in the 2 weeks post breakup. i purposefully didnt contact them, but was surprised nonetheless. anyways, they took this gruesome opportunity to ask me what happened with my spath, because you know, now everyone was WORRIED ABOUT HIM and his co-spath, how theyd handle the death abroad and would they both relapse too?! my anger was through the roof. through the chimney. it was/is all about THEM. not me. not us.
the day he got back from overseas he texted me about the death with “just thought you should know”.
the day after the dude’s memorial service i got a text saying i needed to give him the necklace back he got me for xmas and money i “owed” him. a couple hours after not responding he just texted me “please”. no response. called the next day. no response. then i got a final text “now i know where to stand with you, thanks”.
i ran into him a couple days later (this was also only a couple days ago) for first time and stood frozen for a few seconds. he gave me a big warm smile, like i was an old friend he was so pleased to see after all these years.
i’m sure he’s telling people what a jerk i am for not caring about the death, how i owe him money, and can you believe she walked away from me in public for no reason?! it makes me want to scream!
sick. just. sick.
and candy:
i was the ex who got back with him… and now his new ex will be doing the same…
i thought i had won too! now she will too!
(scream)
Dear Bullheart,
I’m glad that you walked away—they do NOT get it that there is any reason to be “upset”—and I agree that these people who called to tell you about the death, are NOT your friends…..you are better off without any contact with anyone who is “friendly” with him. If people try to talk to you about him just say something like “I’d rather not discuss John, who do you think will be in the super bowl next year?” If that doesn’t work, give them a ta ta for now wave and split the scene!
Whoever his next victim is is not a winner, she is a loser but just doesn’t know it.
Stay NC and if you run into him again, give him the POTTED PLANT TREATMENT, show him as much attention as you would if you walked by a fake potted plant. Not even an indication that you ntoiced it. It will get better I promise you.
Well, well, well…and so the story goes…
So, I got the email this morning and did NOT respond to it. Then at about 330 I got a phone call from him basically saying the same shit but he began his phone call with “you know, I dont really know why you are choosing to not communicate with me. I want to make this easy…” and then onto how he is ‘surprised’ that I would ‘do this’ as he always ‘pegged you as an honest person.’ He said something along the lines of ‘I didnt want to have to shut the service off, which is why I waited, but I just didnt think you wouldnt pay the bill (in a snide tone to me). I would like you to call me so we can talk about whats going on with this and figure something out, otherwise if I dont hear from you by the time I leave the gym, Ill just have to shut it off.”
FUCK HIM!
I didnt call him…so I get home from the gym and THIS is what I have in an email…
”
I just finished talking to comcast and I have had them cancel services. To make this easy for you they are sending return boxes for the equipment right there to you, the dvr, modem, and little cable boxes ( there are 2). I explained that I was under the impression that you were going to change it over into your name and that the equipment is in your posession at your residence. So now they are sending you the boxes for return but have also linked the equipment to your address in their system. They told me I should let you know that if they don’t receive the equipment back it will be very difficult for you to receive further services from them at that address because even though it’s my name on the account, your name and address are both associated with the account as well as I have informed them that you are in posession of the equipment.
I’m sorry it had to be this way”
WHAT!!! So, I dont trust what he says and I call Comcast, again, to clarify all his bullshit. SURE ENOUGH…ITS BULLSHIT!!! The Comcast guy tells me that the boxes are being sent out with return lables…thats true.
HOWEVER, this part is seriously wrong…
“They told me I should let you know that if they don’t receive the equipment back it will be very difficult for you to receive further services from them at that address…”
The guy said ‘uhhhh, hes telling you that because if you dont turn the equiptment in then HE will continue getting charged for it. He just wants YOU to make things easier on HIM. It will NOT affect you at all if you dont turn it in.”
AHHHHH HA HA HA HA HA…and this came from the COMCAST GUY!!!
My stoooooooopid ex thinks IM stooooooopid!!! Ahhh ha ha ha…the Comcast guy also told me the bill had not been paid which leaves me to believe even more that he wanted to ‘talk’ to me so he could badger me into paying for half…
I hate him…although as my mother says “there’s no need in hating someone with special needs.” Its true…
Oh, and by the way…
I feel pretty empowered right now…if only for a minute…as I sit back and ‘see’ things. What he wants contact with me for is still a mystery to me.
Something sort of “interesting” and surprising took place today. I had come inside from outside working and there was a knock on the door…I looked through the key hole finder to see who and it was the guy I had a couple of dates with a year or more ago but had not heard from in quite a while and hadn’t seen or even though about in a year or more….anyway….he told me that he had been down in the area to visit his brother who lives only a mile or two from me and thought he’d drop in and see me while he was in the area. We chatted for a few minutes and I actually invited him in to sit down.
The last time I had heard from him he had called me wanting to “borrow” my airplane for a joy ride—I had told him NO! that the plane was not legally licensed or insured and he ASSURED me that didn’t matter as he had no intention of wrecking it so he wanted to fly it. Well, to start with, I don’t drive vehicles that are not licensed, legal or insured—and I don’t let anyone else drive my vehicles unless THEY are also legally licensed and insured because if I do I AM THE ONE IN TROUBLE IF THERE IS A PROBLEM BECAUSE I KNOWINGLY LET SOMEONE ELSE USE MY VEHICLE TO COMMIT A CRIME of driving illegally.
He didn’t seem to understand that I had NO intention of putting myself, my freedom and everything I owned on the line so he could go for an ILLEGAL JOY RIDE. DUH!!!! But anyway, I didn’t hear from him after that and that was just fine because I had no intention of going out with him again after I saw that he was IRRESPONSIBLE.
Well, after a few minutes he said “well, I got married about four months ago, and it sure is hard to get adjusted to being married.”
The conversation was kind of going no where so I asked about his brother, and he said his brother has bone cancer and is going to treatments, etc. then he told me he was living in an RV with his new life and they were nomads now….Florida for the winter, and some time in Texas near his daughter. Didn’t bother to tell me his new wife’s name or anything about her except that it was “difficult to get adjusted.” LOL
He mentioned my friends airplane which is still hangered here and I said, “well, let’s go out and look at it, it is for sale” so we walked out there and looked at the plane and I gave him the owner’s phone number about the time my son came back home and the guy decided he needed to go on back to his brother’s house.
Not sure just why he decided to come for a visit after all this time, but was sort of interesting conversation….especially in light of his newly married status and his less than enthusiastic information about his new status–didn’t even tell me her name or any other details except he “got married about 4 months ago” LOL
I don’t think this guy is necessarily a psychopath, and actually I only went out with him a few times, but he did convince me he was not responsible and not honest when he wanted to violate the laws and good sense to fly my plane illegally, so I wasn’t interested in him at all any more as far as dating him was concerned. We had a good time when we went out, did things I enjoy, and he’s bright enough and we have quite a few things in common, really…except I don’t do illegal or irresponsible things and don’t participate with those who do, so no matter what other positive attributes he might have had, the lack of responsibility and good sense negated everything else.
I still kind of wonder what was in his mind to make him decide to stop by today…I really don’t think it was to look at my friend’s plane.
People still surprise me though….make me scratch my head and wonder what is going on….LOL
Dear R-babe,
Hee hee You ARE EMPOWERED! I LOVVVVVVVVEEEEE IT!!!! ROTFLMAO choke snort snark!!!!! Yeaaaaa for our side!!! TOWANDA!!!!!