A woman goes to the philharmonic in New York City alone. She meets a guy who is also alone. He asks her for a date, she goes once, doesn’t want to go again. She doesn’t return his calls. He sends an e-mail demanding to know why. Woman is so astounded she posts it on the Internet.
Read An investment banker’s cover letter for a second date, on Reddit.com.
Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.
skylar
Panther,
He’s projecting! He says you play mind games because that’s what he does. Projecting goes hand in hand with the “Tell”. He’s a turd. Flush twice on that one.
ewww…
When I met my ex-spath, I was worldy/innocent. You know what I mean? I think that’s the type of person that the spaths like to mess with the most because we don’t imagine that anyone can be so diabolical – because we aren’t.
We are open and gregarious, we don’t protect ourselves, we don’t see the evil ones slithering towards us.
Your dad sees innocence in you and two things happen:
1) he thinks you will fall for his crap (that’s why he projects, thinking he can slime you with guilt)
2) he wants to destroy your innocence because he envies it.
Remember, the best scapegoats are the innocent ones, pure as snow. That’s what spaths look for.
callmeathena
Panther
I noticed in your postings you said, twice, something about blocking his FB again. Operative word, “again”.
Can I ask a question?
Why did you unblock him?
Was there, maybe, hope?
I keep finding myself having hope for my spath. I start giving excuses to his behaviors. I start rationalizing things. Saying it wasn’t so bad. Then, it hits me, and I cry. It wasn’t what he DID, it’s who he WAS that hurt me.
Athena
skylar
Well I knew that this time was going to be a tough one. He’s determined to get his way.
Hi Skylar
I don’t know what to think, I’m trying to get a gift of some cash to you before the holidays.
Are you doing so well that you don’t need anything? I hope so!
I almost feel better about sending this money to your spath-sister, but I know you don’t trust the trojan horse BIL.
I don’t want to buy a money order because they charge for it, and it’s a hassle trying to get the
money back if you fail to receive the check and cash it, so cash in the envelope works for me.
Spath
MoonDancer
Sky,
Give him my address, I could use some cash.
skylar
Egggcellent!
I love that idea. Cash to OK.
Ox Drover
Sky,
Now, here is a predictionn and I don’t even have to have a crystal ball…..here is the after Christmas e mail you will get.
“Skylar, I don’t understand why you didn’t contact me to let me know you got the money I sent, to at least let me know you got it or didn’t. The envelope I sent it in didn’t come back so I am sure you must have gotten it, or maybe your sister kept it. Not sure what happened. Please contact me and let me know. It was a lot of money.”
ROTFLMAO Bet ya a hole in a doughnut that’s pretty close to the next letter!
Sending you money! LOL ROTFLMAO yea, as MiLo’s grandson says WHEN PIGS FLY!!!!
skylar
That is an accurate prediction Oxy, I think. He’s done similar when I don’t respond. But if I did respond, he wouldl probably send money in order to keep me talking. He’s done that before too. Seems like all my spaths think they can buy me. Parents do the same thing.
The money isn’t worth it to me, he’d have to offer me something much better than money…
like removal of the spaths he left behind.
Ox Drover
Sky, yea, and this way he doesn’t even have to really send money! LOL He can just say he did…that “cash in the envelope” after saying why a money order was too difficult…well, then there is the comment about sending it to your sister/troll and him knowing that might not be safe, but then deciding to send it that way in CASH anyway. I think what he HOPED you’d do was to contact him and say oh, no, don’t send it to sister/troll and don’t send it in cash (which is frequently stolen from the mail!)
Of course since you are not falling for that, the next bit will be he SAYS he sent money to your sister/troll in cash, you won’t get it (because he really didn’t send it) and then you will get mad at her and contact him. LOL
It is such an EASY TO SEE IT IS A LIE—tooo many “details” and too complex. LOL
panther
I had written a really nice, long response….then internal server error? I am so upset at the computer now. When the frustration subsides, I will resign myself to re-writing that post!
Till then..
one/joy_step_at_a_time
good morning (here), good afternoon (there) miss panther. i am taking a mental health day today. not working – am going off to do other stuff out of town. barring contact with noxious chemicals and mold, it should be a good day!