Editor’s note: Be sure to read both articles that Ox Drover links to.
By Ox Drover
I ran across two articles in NY Times that sort of got me to thinking about how it sometimes does pay off to act like a psychopath—in business or other ways.
The following (quite long) article tells how an Internet seller terrorized his customer. I think that many people who have been the victims of psychopathic-like stalking can relate to this woman’s story. The fact that it was over such a relatively small amount of money is amazing to me, though. The lengths to which this stalker pursued his victim are also amazing to me.
Read A bully finds a pulpit on the web on NewYorkTimes.com.
This follow up article tells how, eventually, through the persistence of the victim in pursuing justice for the bullying psychopathic-like stalking she got from the abuser, it turned out that the man didn’t get away with his campaign, and now local, state and federal authorities are getting on the band wagon to go after this guy.
Read U.S. arrests online seller who scared customers on NewYorkTimes.com.
The guy even got denied bail. Yea for that judge “getting it.” It will be interesting to me to see how this plays out and just how much real jail/prison time this guy actually gets. While I can’t diagnose someone out of the newspaper, I really do feel that this man fits the criteria for many of the traits of a psychopath and he definitely is a stalker.
KatyDid
Thank YOU for this article. It’s not a dooffus guy trying to gain advantage in search engines. It’s a life pattern of an spath who takes shortcuts and demonstrates his contempt for society rules.
Shows the thinking process of an spath (his interview was bizarrely entertaining, just like Manson’s was) and more importantly, this shows what our response should be. DOCUMENT. DOCUMENT. DOCUMENT. The FACTS do matter.
Hollowaters
I have been taking your advice and reading the articles on the side. Well written by all who contributed, from what I was looking at. I read about this guy on another article.
I keep seeing happy Birthday wishes for you so HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Personal question OXY: I read some things about your son. Has he ever tried to reach out to you on a personal level? He sounds like he’s pretty much screwed for life, but has he ever tried to reach out to you? And if yes did you believe him?
ErinBrock
The facts are what played into my success in court…..both times. Documenting everything…..and still continue, for potential IRS issues.
I also exploited the sociopath with his own game……played the backspath. He discounted me…..thought he was superior in the ‘game’. Hmmmmmm.
The difference is…..I KNOW when i’m doing it….and I can choose to pack back up my ‘inner sociopath’, use it for ‘special occasions’.
The nice part about it is…….well…..when they get away with behaviors time in and time out…..there has to be one dupe that will shut THAT con down….speak up, and take it the distance in the courts. And the key there is, it screws with their game…..because they just never know when they are gonna meet that feisty dupe.
Once you grab a sociopath sternly by the balls…….it cuts off a supply they need. YOU are in control on how hard and when you squeeze…..and why.
It’s a choice…..I can choose to make or walk away…….For now….I’ve chosen to keep a tight grip and Squeeze.
I have become friends with my ‘inner spath’.
geminigirl
As the saying goes,
“When you have them by the balls, the heart and mind will surely follow!”
Love,
Gem.
geminigirl
Except, that, like the Tin Man in “The Wizard of Oz,” they,{the spaths} dont have a heart.
Gem.
Donna Andersen
Gemini Girl
Made me laugh!
aussiegirl
Gem –
If I recall correctly, the Tin Man did not seem to have a mind or balls either (at least I couldn’t SEE any balls and he was definitely not wearing any clothes, despite being outside int he GARDEN with the plants. He was GREY, wasn’t he? Haven’t seen that movie for a while – must get it out again soon.
aussiegirl
I just read the newspaper articles – man if that’s not a spath then I don’t know what is….reminds me of someone I used to know actually….oh yes! that’s it, my ex-husband Brad…
creepy creepy dangerous no-good yukky bad things they are
ALL OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ox Drover
Yea, when I read the first article, then got to searching around and found the second one and WOW!!!! Did that resonate with me. It isn’t often that a jerkface like that really “gets his” but I was glad to see that this guy DID GET WHAT HE DESERVED. (My son says Jerkface is an old fashioned term, I should use something more modern, but I like it!) LOL
The “reason” he gave for the terror campaign was so P-athy sounding I almost choked when I read it. The “I know where you live” and all the other things, including photos of the people’s buildings so he had to put some EFFORT into these threats, not just sit at home and mouth off about them, but to go out and take photos of the people’s houses.
All for a few hundred bucks????? Talk about control issues, and anger issues and power trips. It would not surprise me at all if this guy was not a rapist or there is not something VERY violent in the back ground here—BTK???? type stuff.
It totally surprised and amazed me that the judge wouldn’t let him have bail considering he had not KILLED ANYONE YET.
Yea, GEM, you are toooooo funny woman!!!!
quest
Hi folks , I have not been on the blog in a while but ran into something that I felt might be relevant , so am going plonk it right here if thats ok .
From my own experience and my own observation the most confusing thing about being in a relationship with a psycopath was the crazies that seem to be manifested in my head . Many times I had asked myself , what did this woman do to me and how did she do it . I consider myself to be relatively normal whatever that means . One thing that I became aware of while I was with my psychopathic partner was my aparent mental shutting down . What was confusing was trying to figure out how it was being done . Anyway its been about 3 years since we split and slowly but surely the mist has cleared or is clearing . Anyway to get to the point heres the story , true story , that enlightened me to something about the human brain or at least my human brain that I did not have a good understanding of . What happened is this . I was at work talking to an east indian guy on the phone about some product he was going to buy . As we were going to ship the product to him I had to get his name and address . Well his name was one of those ones you have no idea how to spell plus he had a bit of an accent . So he is spelling out his name , B like bob , A like apple , O like umbrella ………..BAM
My whole thought processes stopped right there , it was as if my mind had hit some psychological brick wall . He continued spelling , but of course I didn’t hear a thing , my mind was totally occupied with O like umbrella . Somewhere during this few seconds another part of my thought processes was observing my own reaction . It was telling me holly crap I just got shut down . What had happened . He had said something that did not make sense . That does not compute . Later on after dealing with the call I began thinking about the whole shut down mechanism and how I had observed it happening within my own head . Of course then I got to thinking about psychopaths and there way of talking and how it can be so full of nonsense . A really smart psychopath can almost sound convincing but if ones listens really carefully a bit of nonsense is thrown in for good measure . It is this nonsense that shuts down the normal persons mind unless one is aware of it . psychopaths have many tactics that they use to shut a normal person down . Intimadation being perhaps the more obvoius way , however it is all the head games that one is bombarded with that may do the most damage as it is sometimes very hard to get a grip of what is going on . As well there is the problem of understanding the motive behind their actions as quite often for a normal person their motives make little sense as well , untill one becomes aware of the evil inside . cheers