Editor’s note: Be sure to read both articles that Ox Drover links to.
By Ox Drover
I ran across two articles in NY Times that sort of got me to thinking about how it sometimes does pay off to act like a psychopath—in business or other ways.
The following (quite long) article tells how an Internet seller terrorized his customer. I think that many people who have been the victims of psychopathic-like stalking can relate to this woman’s story. The fact that it was over such a relatively small amount of money is amazing to me, though. The lengths to which this stalker pursued his victim are also amazing to me.
Read A bully finds a pulpit on the web on NewYorkTimes.com.
This follow up article tells how, eventually, through the persistence of the victim in pursuing justice for the bullying psychopathic-like stalking she got from the abuser, it turned out that the man didn’t get away with his campaign, and now local, state and federal authorities are getting on the band wagon to go after this guy.
Read U.S. arrests online seller who scared customers on NewYorkTimes.com.
The guy even got denied bail. Yea for that judge “getting it.” It will be interesting to me to see how this plays out and just how much real jail/prison time this guy actually gets. While I can’t diagnose someone out of the newspaper, I really do feel that this man fits the criteria for many of the traits of a psychopath and he definitely is a stalker.
I know that song… it will come to me later. My brain is a slow database search engine!! LOL! I looked on IMDB.com and didn’t find a movie named Gaslighting…. I wonder what the movie title was. I want to get it!
Thanks again Kim, you have been a great help!
Soimnotthecrazee1!!
The movie is ‘Gaslight’.
Kim…..
Got it!!!
Band Genesis
Song That’s all!!!
Masada,
Thanks!
Quest,
You are right about the single ones being single “for a REASON”—I think there are more DISORDERED SINGLE people at older ages because the ones who are NOT DISORDERED OR DYSFUNCTIONAL are either STILL MARRIED or they GET married quickly after a divorce within a year or two.
If you think it is hard for a man to find a good woman in the older ages, just try being a woman and finding a man who is not disordered. To start with the single vs married men/women ratio is like 30 women for every man, and if you take out the disordered ones of your own age (women don’t generally attach with men their own ages as the guys want the younger women who are available) so a 60 yr old man can choose from all women from ages 40-60 where as a 60 yr old woman must only choose from men say 57 to 80. so a woman 60 has a minus Zero chance just about of meeting and finding a good one.
I have decided I’m not going to worry about it. At first that was a VERY dismal feeling of I will never have another good relationship (my husband died) but now I realize I don’t NEED a “relationship” to be complete. That in itself is a BIG step forward. I no longer feel emotionally “needy.” If I ever stumble upon a relationship fiine, if not that is also fine. I don’t define myself by having or not having a “relationshiip.”
That’s it. Thanks, soimnotcrazy.
Hi Oxy. What’s up?
Kim,
You are welcome. Gotta run!
notcrazee
Quest
“for the next year on a saturday and sunday I would sleep until noon . On week days I had to force myself to get out of bed to go to work . It was as if was getting no sleep . Often I would wake at 4 in the morning with tormented memories and glimpses of understanding . It was as if my subconscious never slept and every time it figured something out it would wake me up”
This is soooooo true, all of it. Slept til lunch! Was so tired.
Memory games — just had another epiphany.
He told me that I had said ‘I know what I’m going to get you (him) for your birthday, a car’
Bugged me for ages…..cos his birthday was way before I thought about or even bought his car. But he convinced me I’d said it….so IT MUST BE TRUE.
Raked over it in my mind again and again – thought I was going mad. This is just one example, there were many more when I thought I was losing the plot.
It’s this constant barrage of lies that keeps us down, tired and unable to think.
Oxy, I think I PERHAPS, MIGHT, MAYBE… be getting there on the being single thing!
Might take several boinks to the head…
but I’m determined to enjoy “what is” !!!!
I think I’ve taken a baby step :/
funny thing my exP tried desperately to turn my words and his around too, but he never succeeded in that. He always lamented that “I can NEVER win an arguement with you”. True, but that was only because he was arguing just to argue, whereas I actually had a point to make. In the end he reverted to a “brickwall method” which meant I felt like I was arguing with a brickwall. My words seemed to crash against a wall and lay on the floor, useless.
There was a trick I used in which I was able to make him use his own logic against himself once.
To preface the story, you need to know that he is neither liberal nor conservative, straight or gay. He is only a fake everything.
In 2008, He had started to argue about politics in the house just to try to make me angry. He insisted we should always be in agreement and there was no room for dissent in a household. Of course the prevailing viewpoint should be his.
He was telling me that his friends Steve and Deb, were democrats, and that he had convinced them that he was also a democrat because he needed to convince them of the error of their ways and the only way to do it was to be a “republican in sheep’s clothing” (actually first he said, “dem in sheep’s clothing” because he wasn’t sure what he was)
By convincing them he was “one of them” they would be more open to hear him, when he planted a seed of doubt into their minds. He said that the fact that he could do this and have them end up agreeing with him was because “they are weak”. So I looked at him and said, “well I’m glad that I don’t agree with you because I wouldn’t want you to think that I’m weak.”
LOL. He didn’t know what to say.