I can’t believe it. Almost five years ago, in August 2005, I blew my sociopathic ex-husband, who was impersonating a war hero, out of the water in Australia. Recently, he tried to go swimming again in the same water.
For those of you who don’t know the story, I launched Lovefraud because my ex-husband, James Montgomery, took a quarter-million dollars from me, cheated with at least six women during our two-and-a-half year marriage, had a child with one of the women, and then, ten days after I left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.
One way that Montgomery was able to gain my confidence was by pretending to be a war hero. He told me that he’d served in Vietnam as part of the Australian military. He’d won the Victoria Cross—the Australian equivalent of the Congressional Medal of Honor. In fact, he was still in the military when we married, going on clandestine operations with the Special Forces.
Yeah, right.
All lies
The man I married, I found out far too late, was a sociopath. Before my devastating experience, I didn’t know anything about sociopaths. Once I learned that there was a clinical explanation for his reckless, abusive and unconscionable behavior, I knew it was a story that needed to be told.
So I built Lovefraud. At the same time, I contacted Australian and New Zealand Military Impostors, an organization that outed military frauds. I sent them the documents Montgomery had given me to prove his service and heroism. They were all forged. The military guys posted the truth on their website, www.anzmi.net, at the same time that I launched Lovefraud.
The media picked it up. On August 3, 2005, the Daily Telegraph, a Sydney tabloid, ran the story:
Meet Major Fraud
Life was pretty straight for advertising executive James Alwyn Montgomery—so he turned himself into Major Montgomery, secret agent and Vietnam war hero.
He forged identification cards to support an elaborate story that he was a member of Australia’s elite Special Air Service Regiment and the U.S. Army’s top-secret Delta Force.
For more than 20 years he has claimed he served in Vietnam for both Australia and the US. And was even awarded our highest military honour, the Victoria Cross.
But now a Vietnam veterans group has exposed him as an impostor whose only military experience was drawn from movies.
James Alwyn Montgomery was busted. He was sacked from his job as a student radio station manager at Charles Sturt University in Bathurst, Australia. Then I forced him into bankruptcy.
James continues to troll for new victims on the Internet. Since Lovefraud went public, six women have contacted me from Australia. They met him; he tried to hook up with them; they Googled him; they found Lovefraud; they dumped him.
While I was married to the man, he insisted on being called “James Montgomery.” Well, now he calls himself “Jim Montgomery.” I’m sure it’s an attempt to keep people from finding him linked to Lovefraud.
Back in the news
Two weeks ago, I heard from a contact in Bathurst, Australia. James Montgomery was in the news again. He had the audacity to move to a new town—Katoomba, Australia—start telling people his fabricated military tales.
Here’s the story in the Sydney Morning Herald:
Alleged military fraud reappears in NSW
James Montgomery has reappeared in the NSW Blue Mountains five years after his military background was exposed as fraudulent.
Montgomery has been peddling his story of working for the CIA, SAS, ASIO and British military forces along with winning the Victoria Cross around Katoomba in recent months.
It is an offence to claim military service and not have done it.
Senior Vice-President of the Katoomba RSL Owen Wood told AAP Montgomery had tried to join the club in March.
“He won’t be bloody joining,” Mr Wood said.
According to anzmi.net, Montgomery was telling his tales in singles groups. A man who had actually served in Vietnam noticed that there were problems with his stories. So the man checked him out, found him listed on the fraud-busters site, and blew the whistle.
I have to admit that, even after all the stories I’ve heard about sociopaths since Lovefraud launched, I was amazed. Montgomery was totally, convincingly, exposed as a military fraud, yet he started spinning the same BS again.
It’s further evidence that sociopaths don’t change. And apparently, they can’t come up with new ideas either.
Donna, if this isn’t too personal to ask, how are you handling this news? In my darkest nightmares, I can only imagine what you actually experienced. There are so many stories on this site that make my past look like a county fair in comparison, and I have the nerve to grapple with triggers! LMAO!!!! I can’t imagine…….I just can’t.
Yes, the site has helped me (and, countless others), but that’s not the only good to come out of your experiences. You have brought spathy to the forefront. You’re tackling hard issues with determination, and you’re a hero to me and many others. You MADE it, Donna. You made it out of that situation with flying colors and a multitude of people who have found this site are now on their own healing paths. Your courage is a godsend. Brightest blessings, Donna, and may you be blessed tenfold.
TOWANDA, DAMMITOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Buttons,
Thanks for your sentiment. My reaction to the news – I wasn’t upset, I was just incredulous at his amazing stupidity.
Yes, I have made it – all of us can make it.
Donna – This just makes me mad. There should be some consequences for this, if the military can’t stop him who can? How old is this scumbag anyhow?
Donna-WOW. He reminds me of the guy who duped Barbara Bentley. It’s insane how he can get busted in one city and then move to another one and pick up the same BS all over again. He’s got a set of balls on him. I sure hope someone castrates him soon. This is insane, ridiculous, and fifty other words like that. Love Erin1972
erin72 I disagree with you, I think he is ball – less…
hens-lol!
Donna, At this time you could allow old feelings to resurface or celebrate the fact that you are so FAR beyond it now. What an incredible service you created with this healing place. In my darkest hours when I felt so stupid, betrayed, and ALONE, I found a community that welcomed me with open hearts and tons of support when I needed it. Then as I healed, I hope that I was able to bring a moment of understanding and compassion to others in similar pain and disillusionment, and maybe even a laugh or two. I don’t come here a lot anymore. I try to focus on the future and moving beyond that time in my life, but the people here that befriended me will forever be in my heart. Thinking of you. TOWANDA Donna!
Dear Donna, great update on your spath! What a joke is he! But I thank Jim/James for one thing! Bringing you and your dedication to all of us other victims…. I love that so many women have contacted you through lovefraud that have met him, I wish there was a way to put my ex’s name out there.
It still astounds me the crap that they come up with and even thou they get caught out so many times they keep it up. I would take being a victim than being one of them any day. What a horrible way to live your life! They make me so angry!
No idea if this man displays enough traits to be considered in the b neighbourhood – but here, yet again, is someone using a false military record for personal gain.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/05/18/nyregion/18blumenthal.html?hp
Donna, I went back to the link you had posted and read about all of his false medals and understand why they call him “Major Fraud”. I applaud you for what you went through with this person and what you did with the outcome. You started this site, which is saving peoples’ sanity on a daily basis and there isn’t enough thank you’s for that!
For any doubters, this is proof positive that they really don’t change and that’s a HUGE part of healing, just knowing that.
Honestly, I think this guy is a clown. He’s not even smart enough to change his identity and he’s all over the internet! What a joke!
Thank you, Donna!
Cat