Last week, the Josh Powell story exploded in the media. Powell, of Graham, Washington, was supposed to have a supervised visit with his two young sons. Instead, he slammed the door in the face of the social worker, hacked the boys with a hatchet, and then blew up his house. Powell and the two sons died.
I watched three news shows about the tragedy—Dateline on MSNBC, 20/20 on ABC, and Dr. Drew on HLN (Headline News). All of the programs reflected shock, horror and outrage. Dr. Drew Pinsky did actually call Josh Powell a psychopath. But what struck me about the coverage was that this tragedy was almost predictable. All the warning signs were there, if anyone had a complete picture of what was going on, and if appropriate people had known what they were looking at.
The lessons boil down to three: Knowing how to recognize a sociopath, knowing what sociopaths are capable of doing, and acting on intuition.
Josh Powell, the sociopath
Josh Powell clearly exhibited sociopathic behavior. He first came into public view with the disappearance of his wife, Susan, on December 7, 2009. Josh Powell’s ludicrous story was that he left the family home at midnight to take his two sons, aged 2 and 4 at the time, camping in the freezing desert, and when he returned, Susan was gone. He assumed that she went off with another man.
Before then, however, Susan had confided in several friends and family members that Josh was controlling. He was psychologically and emotionally abusive. Susan was asked why she didn’t take the boys and leave. She was afraid to—Josh had threatened that she would have the boys “over my dead body.”
So where did Josh’s sociopathy come from? It appears to be the classic volatile mix of heredity and upbringing.
Last September, Steve Powell, Josh’s father, was arrested and charged with child pornography and voyeurism. Josh and his sons were living with Steve Powell at the time, which prompted the court to take the boys away from Josh and put them in the custody of Susan’s parents, Chuck and Judy Cox.
But that was just the latest, most apparent display of Steven Powell’s personality disorder. Court documents from the 1992 divorce case of Steven and Terrica Powell indicate that Steven Powell had always been a sexual pervert, and taught his sons to disrespect women.
The documents also reveal that at 16, Josh Powell was already heading down the same path. He threatened his mother with a butcher knife. He killed his sister’s pet gerbil. He attempted suicide. And as Josh grew bigger and stronger, even Steven Powell admitted that he didn’t know how to handle his son.
Read: Divorce documents shed light on Josh Powell’s troubles, on SLTrib.com.
Here’s the point: Based on both documentary evidence of the past, and the abusive behavior Susan Powell disclosed to friends and relatives, Josh Powell was clearly a sociopath. It doesn’t matter how he became a sociopath. All that matters is that he was one.
Sociopaths and custody battles
So what does it mean when one party in a child custody battle is a sociopath? Here’s what courts and child protective agencies should know:
• Despite their proclamations to the contrary, sociopaths do not love their children. They view children as possessions, and they feel entitled to do what they want with their possessions.
• Sociopaths are accomplished actors. They are capable of keeping up a charade of appropriate, even loving, behavior, as long as it suits their purpose.
• In child custody disputes, sociopaths are not interested in the welfare of the children. They are only interested in winning.
• If sociopaths have been violent in the past, chances are good that they will be violent in the future.
• Sociopaths do not want to submit to authority. Some sociopaths would rather lash out violently than submit. Therefore, it seems to me that one of the most dangerous times in a child custody case is when a sociopath loses in court.
Losing a round
I don’t know everything that went on in the custody dispute between Josh Powell and Chuck and Judy Cox, the parents of his missing wife. But from the media reports, I see two glaring problems.
First of all, Josh Powell had just lost a round in the custody battle for his sons.
In a status hearing on February 1, 2012, the court was told that a psychologist who completed an evaluation of Josh believed he had made improvements in his life, because he no longer lived in his father’s home and had been cooperative with visitation requirements. Still, the psychologist had become aware of disturbing information about Josh, and had recommended a psychosexual evaluation. The judge ruled that Josh’s sons would remain with the Coxes, and he was ordered to undergo the evaluation, which would include a polygraph test.
Read Josh Powell to undergo psychosexual evaluation; 2 boys will remain with grandparents, on DeseretNews.com.
Yet the court made no changes to the visitation arrangements. Initially, when the Coxes were first awarded custody, Josh had to see his children at a secure childcare facility. But apparently, because of the notoriety of the Powell case, his visits became disruptive to other families, so Josh was allowed to have supervised visits in his home.
And who was the supervisor? She appeared on 20/20. Although she may have been nice, dependable and competent, she was also a middle-aged, out-of shape woman who would have been no match for a young man if things got ugly. Even Chuck Cox worried about her, and stated on TV that perhaps she should have had extra security with her.
Reunification
The second glaring problem in this case: The court’s goal was to reunite the boys with their father.
The judge reaffirmed this goal in the last custody hearing. The case plan developed by Washington’s Department of Social and Health Services (DSHS) was geared towards reunification of Josh Powell and his sons.
The question is: Why?
Josh Powell was the only “person of interest” in the disappearance of Susan Powell. Rumors were flying that he would soon be arrested for her murder. Josh was known to be abusive. Police in Utah had found disturbing information about him that caused them concern about the welfare of the children. The man was likely dangerous.
DSHS representatives were interviewed by Dori Monson of KIRO-FM radio in Seattle, Washington. They defended their actions and procedures. The bottom line? They were following court orders. Listen to the interview:
[mp3j track=”http://icestream.bonnint.net/seattle/kiro/2012/02/02092012141232_1.mp3″]The main problem, at least in this case, appears to be that judges don’t comprehend how dangerous sociopaths can be, and how court decisions can turn deadly.
Intuition
Many warnings were available in this case, but were not recognized and acted upon. Perhaps the biggest warnings were the gut feelings, the sense of dread, the intuitive fear, experienced by many, many people.
In the TV interviews, several friends and relatives of Susan Powell described being creeped out about Josh Powell. And both Judy and Chuck Cox, the grandparents, said that they had “bad feelings” before that last fateful visitation. Chuck wondered that perhaps the visit should be skipped. Judy felt the same way, but was worried that they’d “get in trouble” if they didn’t send the boys to their father.
Even the two boys didn’t want to see their father on February 5, 2012. But the grandparents did what they thought they should do. The boys went to see their father, and we all know what happened next.
I am not blaming the grandparents at all. They are heartbroken. But perhaps they should have risked “getting in trouble” and kept the boys home. I’m sure they wish they did.
Here’s what we all need to know: Our intuition is designed to protect us. Fear is our friend, and it is based on intuition. If we ever have a really bad feeling about anyone or anything, we should trust ourselves and take appropriate action to get away.
If the court really knew what sociopaths were capable of, and if many people had listened to their instincts, those boys might still be alive.
More about the case
Watch:
A family’s story on Dateline NBC
Steve Downing, the lawyer for Chuck and Judy Cox, talked to local media about his impressions of Josh Powell. He is obviously describing a sociopath.
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Dupey, my dearest, I just got back home a little while ago, and read your heart breaking story about your grandson, I am so sorry…I did not know, and I can’t even imagine your grief and sadness. You have my deepest condolences. (((hugs))))
Redwald, your assessment of the family dynamics sounds really well thought out, as usual with your assessments. I haven’t really read that much about them other than the headlines, but those two story lines that I posted the links for made me want to scream, and gnash my teeth!
I think your assessment about why the sister would be in SUCH denial about the brother makes sense in light of that history. In fact, my own egg donor’s behavior and denial and protection of the “golden child” my son is exactly like her mother protecting my uncle monster. Uncle monster was 7 when egg donor was born, and he was already a budding psychopath…and he hated the new baby which was quite small (my egg donor was probably a “blue baby” and almost didn’t make it past birth) and so he decided to “smother it” and actually did smother her several times as an infant until she was “blue” but his mom caught him, but rather than do something about it, or tell my grandfather, instead her decision was to keep theh infant within her sight 24/7 to protect the baby but not let uncle monster “get into trouble” because “his daddy might spank him and he might run away from home.” So…egg donor was periodically smothered unconscious until she was 7 and uncle monster her brother was 14 when their dad caught him and “tanned his hide” and put a STOP to the smothering….and when granny died, egg donor took over her “family role” of PROTECT THE FAMILY GOLDEN/BAD BOY AT ALL COSTS. I know the pattern, it goes back and back and back to a man named Enoch Simpson born in 1800 and murdered in 1860, he was such a nasty drunk that he tied one of his slaves upside down by the toes….the pattern of alcoholism and abuse goes down the generations like blue eyes.
Here’s another “psycho” story. These two unfit parents were out to starve 15 year old. She was tortured and held in basement.
Fed scraps and made to eat her own waste.
Kid is lucky to have escaped and made it out alive. Her two beasts of parents-dad and step-mom are only being held on $20,000
bail each. Shame on the courts. Bail should be much higher.
Kid escaped out window and was saved by good Samaritan.
Joanie123
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/15/wisconsin-couple-starve-daughter_n_1279218.html
Dupey, So sorry about your grandson. I had no idea. I hope your daughter had or has another child although I know it can never replace the one you lost but ease your pain. I have many grand-kids and I always tell my kids to watch them like hawks.
Joanie123
Thanks Ox and Joanie for your kind words…
I thought to mark this day, one month today, I broke NC after 9 months of being true to it, and started chit chatting with my ex ppath through instant messenger…remember?
Well, exactly one month to the very day, our ‘reunion’ began, it has ended. I have once again removed him from my messenger and email and have continued with blocking phone calls from him and all his other ‘gypsies’ and am implementing NO CONTACT once again. This time, I think I have finally had enough abrasive ‘exposure therapy’ to last me into the eternal sleep…
I am not crying or sobbing. I don’t care anymore. I am all weathered out. “Indifference”…There is nothing left inside of me for this anymore. Ever since the start of this ‘reunion’, a month ago, it has been one lie and gas light and web spinning and blame shifting and just out and out INSANITY after another – not one “I am sorry”; not one reflection about anything…just more of the same and I have to just accept that.
I think the thing I find the most appalling about my situation is that HE KNEW all the hardships I had in my life and he played on every single one. I was beaten as a child and put in the cellar for long periods of time by a grandmother who wasn’t shy about telling me how much she hated me… as she beat me….”IT” sent me the Bobo Doll Experiment tape once, for a nice little ‘jolt’…things like that. Mean, cruel, cold things. Ugly things.
I am finished. If it quacks like a duck, waddles like a duck, oh my gosh, it must be a duck; right? There is no sadness inside me this time over all this. I went back and got what I was after. I got that one final cold and harsh slap in the face………..I meant every single word I said to him before and I will see him and his ‘minions’ in hell. THAT will be the next time we speak.
So, as you all can see, not only do I have the murder of my grandson to deal with almost on a daily basis, I have also had this stalker who insinuated himself into my life and has attempted not only screwing up my life, for the rest of my life, but has also tried to take it from me.
THAT right there would be enough to make MOST PEOPLE a PSYCHOPATH, and I always say that the difference between me and him is that I CHOSE DIFFERENT. THAT is the point; isn’t it?
I believe that just as easily as the brain can be dormant, it can also be taught to come alive. I realize that the progression of life, as it were, educates and stimulates our brains. But WE choose the level of stimulation. If a person wants something BAD ENOUGH they will find a way; am I not correct?
On that basis and assumption, don’t these kinds of people also HAVE CHOICE? It is said they don’t ‘feel’ like we do; that they are unable to…they are deficient of something in their brains. Or is it that JUST THAT PART of their brain isn’t stimulated? It is a very confusing and exhausting process trying to understand the biological side of this. Much less trying to deal with the personal side.
For a long time, I thought this puke face loved me. I was lead on, for 5 long years, and all of it was a lie and the more I looked, the more shocked I became. I know now exactly what kind of person this is and he isn’t shy about putting it up there on front street either; he is very cocky and very self assured that he can just continue on doing the things he is doing and not get in any trouble for it. Like: who is going to stop him? Nobody has yet and likely they aren’t going to, I mean, he keeps flying under that radar; right? Skilled and expertise at their trade.
Except for one little thing: DNA doesn’t lie.
I have nothing further to say because I have given THE LAST CHANCE AND/OR OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE AMENDS and THAT has been shifted aside, as all the other opportunities that have been given. So, we will let “IT” think it has won and slither away and back into that ugly black hole it crawled out of. It was there before…I took it out of the hole and looked at it, and, nope….unacceptable, I still don’t like it….back in the hole it goes….
Thanks everyone for all your love and support.
The past almost 6 years of my life has been equal to the ten years previously. I always laugh and say: “Hey, if ANYONE has the right to go off and act all stupid and crazy, it would be me, right?” You all haven’t read MY NAME in the headlines yet so, I guess I must be doing a LITTLE SOMETHING right with myself over here….(hopefully, anyways)…
Thank you for holding me up you guys…
sometimes it’s hard.
xxoo
Joanie123:
I read that story a few days ago and I cried. I cry at very few news stories, but something about this one touched me. Horrible.
Dupey,
Well, I AM glad now that you have reinstated NC and blocked IT.
It is a fact of life that when we have “excessive trauma” to deal with, that is when the psychopaths seem to show up….when we are dealing with MASSIVE pain from some trauma, and we are so wounded from the trauma that we are like someone drowning and we see what appears to be a log float by that we can grab on to and save ourselves, and it turns out to be an alligator.
We have to let go of the alligator before it consumes us and swim for ourselves as painful as that is. Good luck, dupey and keep NC forever! (((hugs)))
Duped, it doesn’t matter what “it” wants. Who cares what it wants? Just like when you don’t like something on TV, you can change the station. So you can change the station in your mind and put your energy toward something else. Sometimes there is only so much analyzing you can do – then it’s enough. So inspiring to see you get to the end of “it” and take your life back. Even with all the tragedy you’ve been through, it’s your life and yours to make of it what you want.
Ox and Star: yah, well, that was enough exposure therapy for me!
Zeesh: more dramarama and more craziness but I did glean a couple of things from the encounter that I didn’t have before…one of those things being a whole new attitude. I am just finished wasting what precious time I have on someone who doesn’t even care nor appreciate anything.
Right; it doesn’t matter what “IT” wants. Who cares what “IT” wants? :::DELETE::: :::DELETE::: :::DELETE::: I had enough for a month. That was more than long enough. Not one “I am sorry”, not one contriteness at all.
IT IS my life; not it’s.
Right; MY LIFE: not him, nor his ‘minions’…
I am a changed person this morning; more stealthed.
It’s was like walking back into a real live “B” movie. Seriously. Just amazing; absolutely amazing…
Thank you both for your support. xxoo
It’s a much QUIETER MORNING around here this morning…
xxoo
Duped, I learned my lesson with my sexy neighbor too, if you’ve been following that story for the last year and a half. I woke up and said “enough is enough”. I don’t need to analyze it or figure him out anymore. I know he is just bad for me and he will never give me what I want or need. He reaches out to get my attention. I lean toward him. He pulls away. So I go away. Then he comes back. It goes on and on…………It keeps stirring up my feelings. But I have better things to do than think about someone I can never have!
Unfortunately, I can’t completely go NC because he’s a neighbor, so looks like it’s gray rock for me!! I just ordered a gray and aqua Zumba outfit online to commemorate the occasion!
P.S. Zumba rocks! If anyone here likes to dance and needs to lose weight, I highly, highly recommend this. You burn 500-1000 calories in an hour, and it’s pure fun.
I find that the one thing I can do that I get really passionate about is to dance. I love Zumba but the classes at my gym are only a few times a week. If anyone has any suggestions on how I can dance every day with other people without spending a fortune in cover charges and dance classes, let me know. Seriously.
After the verdict came in, on the monster who murdered my grandson, THAT “ITS” adoptive mother went after my daughter in the hall: “You little bitch! Christopher was just a baby and my son had his whole life in front of him and you just ruined it!”
It’s that kind of ‘logic’ that gets people not only in trouble but that paints them as sociopaths/psychopaths. I have absolutely NO doubt, whatsoever, that it was his MOTHER’s dysfunction that created this whole scenario. Because at testimony, she admitted, as did several others, as her saying to her ‘son’ prior to the murder: “I could accept her but not that little bastard of hers!” So, in his mind, in order to solve that problem, he would just get rid of Christopher. I mean, what kind of ‘mother’ sends her son porno magazines while he is in prison? Hm? True.
I am not trying to infer that all ‘moms’ are at fault for their childrens’ behaviors. We know that just IS NOT TRUE nor the case. I believe ALMOST ALL PARENTS love their children and try to help them along in life and when a child goes astray, it isn’t always because of the parents. THAT JUST IS NOT TRUE. We raise our kids to believe in all the right things – and when it comes right down to it, in the end: THEY MAKE THEIR OWN CHOICES. But it is interesting, NOW, to look back on the pathology of the murderers life and I see all those red flags there, in retrospect.
I am FINISHED being a doormat.
I will pass on into the next life before I EVER utter another word or syllable to this PSYCHOPATH that has been hovering my life, like a vulture, moving in for what’s left. NOT HAPPENING ANYMORE.