Much of the United States erupted in outrage at the news that Casey Anthony was acquitted of murder. Bloggers and citizens asked: What was wrong with the jury? Couldn’t these 12 people see through her lies? Even if they had been sequestered for the trial, the media had been reporting her loose relationship with truth for years.
Read Casey Anthony’s top 10 alleged lies on Investigation Discovery.
Lies, however, do not prove that Anthony committed murder. Even Wendy Murphy, the feminist lawyer who vociferously supports battered mothers and abused children, predicted that Casey Anthony would walk. Why? The prosecution did not have proof, beyond a reasonable doubt, that she committed the crime.
Read Wendy Murphy: Why Casey Anthony will be acquitted, on PatriotLedger.com.
Psychologists have had a field day with the case. The Psychology Today website has 17 posts, by various experts, on the topic. They’ve covered many aspects of the case, including Why do moms kill? and The science of jury selection.
Visit Not Guilty: The case of Casey on PsychologyToday.com.
Lovefraud readers are probably in agreement that Casey Anthony is somewhere on the narcissist-sociopath-psychopath scale. How did she get that way? She had to inherit the genetics from somewhere in her family tree. Then, since the origin of sociopathy is a mixture of genetic and environmental factors, her dysfunctional family probably played a role in the development of the disorder. Maybe she was, as the defense claimed, abused by her father.
In the end, we don’t know how Casey Anthony acquired her sociopathic traits. But I am fairly confident in predicting that at some point, because of her sociopathy, Casey Anthony will crash and burn.
Sociopaths as failures
As a group, sociopaths tend to be failures. They end up with health issues, financial problems and legal problems. They usually die sooner than people who are not personality disordered.
Just this week, I’ve received news about three of our True Lovefraud Stories:
James Montgomery: My ex-husband, who now lives in Australia, tried to hook up with a woman a few years ago and invited her to visit him. She did, and was not impressed. When he fell asleep on the couch, she snuck away and never talked to him again. The woman just saw Montgomery at a train station and reports, “He’s the size of an elephant, has a long white beard and dresses like a hippie.” So much for the guy who promised me that we’d be living “in the lap of luxury.”
Brian Ellington: I hear about this guy more than anyone else profiled on Lovefraud. The most recent news is that he was arrested again in New York City on June 11, 2011. The charges: drug possession with intent to distribute.
Anthony Owens: A commenter submitted this to the “Fight Bigamy” blog: “Bishop Anthony Owens passed away in a hospital on Tuesday, July 05, 2011 in a hospital in Memphis, TN. Funeral services is incomplete at this time.” Anthony Owens was not yet 40 years old.
So although sociopaths have highly inflated opinions of themselves, usually the charade falls apart. I’m sure that sooner or later, Casey Anthony will screw up on a large enough scale to put her out of circulation. Even sociopaths who skated for a long time eventually failed. Look at O.J. Simpson. Look at Bernie Madoff.
I would just like to seem them fail sooner, and with less collateral damage to the rest of us.
UPDATE 7/15/11:
Just got more information on exactly how James Montgomery was “dressed as a hippie.” Apparently there are hippie communes where Montgomery now lives in Australia, and my source speculates that he has joined one because that’s the only way he can afford to live. Here’s what she said:
He was wearing: red/orange pants, hippie sandles, caftan like long top to ankles in multiple colours, big round glasses with pink lenses, long scarf draped around his neck and over his shoulder nearly touching the ground and a hat which looked like a beanie. A long white beard probably about 12/15inches long and I would say weighing about 150 to 175 kilos or more (330 to 385 pounds). Imagine a man 6ft 2ins tall 175 kgs and wearing that get up!!!
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ErinB, WOW! She can READ MINDS now! LOL ROTFLMAO Yea her timing is just right and I have no doubt that he put her up to calling. LOL
I love the “it’s the Christian thing to do.” Yep! Sure is, but if you look at the story of Joseph whose brothers sold him into slavery, you can see that the EXAMPLE set in the Bible is that just because you forgive someone does NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO TRUST THEM or let them back into your life again.
Joseph TESTED the heck out of his brothers before he even let them know who he was, to SEE what kind of men they had become, rather than just saying “Hey, guys, it’s Me, your brother”!!!! LOL
This Sunday one of the close neighbors is celebrating her 90th birthday with a reception at the community center. I am going to go, though I imagine that egg donor will be there. I am getting to feeling so strong and so “uppity” that I am going to go! So wish me luck! I may be burning down by Sunday night! LOL
As sad as it may be i get a relief to hear James Montegomary is not getting away. I am hoping I get to hear that one day about my EX who used to tell me how much better he was going to do without me when I caught him stealing my life savings and my kids education.
I am told by many that my ex though he is living a life and now has caught his next victim a 31 year old estonian bar tender (he is 46), he will pay the price. they are living togather and recently evicted for not paying rent. he has been able to charm a next renter and snuck out before the current land lord can collect the judgement from them. When i see he keeps on getting away it is really hard that he is not paying the price and knows how to play the system.
I sure hope it’s true that sociopaths crash and burn at the end. I hope there is an end to him sooner than later.. There is no forgiveness for these low lives who ruin kids lives for their selfishness.
Dear wantomoveon: ‘welcome’!
I am a firm believer in KARMA. We get OUR justification by just turning out backs on it and struggling to get through the extreme betrayal and ‘wrongness’ of it all.
I am sorry for you that things have happened to you the way they have. Just you take heart knowing that they WILL sooner or later; no, let me correct that: THEY ARE paying the price because they are living meaningless, cold, pointless lives. We only get one shot at this experience of ‘life’ and we all make our own choices.
When it comes right down to it, that’s the jist of the issue:
IT IS THEIR CHOICE to be the way they are. And maybe it isn’t, does that mean we are to throw ourselves in the fire? I don’t think so. I think we need to empower ourselves and make the situation right, with or without them. We have a responsibility to do that, not only for ourselves but for the people who TRULY love and appreciate us.
Shallow. That’s what their lives are and their lives will always be that way because they like being the way they are and are not going to change that for anyone or anything. I learned that the hard way; trust me. If “IT” could do the things TO ME, all of the horrible, ugly, cruel things it had done…. “IT” could and would do them to ANYONE that gets in “IT’s” way…
I believe that for a fact. Nothing and no one is ‘sacred’. There are parts of this story I cannot tell you for legal reasons but if you knew them, you would understand how much I truly mean that statement and this:
These ‘people’ will do or say ANYTHING to get their way and what they want. Do not underestimate them. They may look ‘sick’ on the outside and their behavior is completely unacceptable…but do not underestimate them because they are cold and calculating and would snuff your breath in a moment.
At least the one “I” know.
IT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME and “IT” is on “IT’s” way to ‘crashing & burning’ with or without my assistance; trust me.
I don’t understand how their life expectancy can be good after all of the horrid things they do to people along the way; truly. Not too mention their ‘at risk’ sexual behaviors…
It’s just an ugly evil thing. There is no other way to describe it and there are no answers about or for “IT”…the only answers there are, are the ones inside of ourselves. We are the other half of this equation and we can make it go whatever way we CHOOSE. They can’t impose it upon us. Where is our ‘free will’?
My free will burned up in all the manipulation, mind control and gaslighting…(thanks for teaching me what that is…) I recognize it NOW…sure wish I did THEN; could have maybe enjoyed the past five years instead of being in the torture cauldron…
I believe that what you give out in this life comes back to you, whether it is good or bad. “Justice” and “Goodness” always wins in the end. It’s true. It may not seem so at first but these people slowly and painfully self-destruct but before they go, they like to take as many with them as they can…it’s the thrill, you see. Yep, pointless lives. They need to be cast off to the very chambers of hell from which they came.
They have no conscious. It is THOSE people we need to banish from our lives. Trust me, I KNOW.
Can’t sleep; little ‘upset’ from earlier today at therapy…
Hard to put it down. Almost on my way to bed for the night…
Good night everyone…wantomoveon, *BLESSINGS TO YOU*
This is a great place to be. Everyone here is amazing and we are all in the same boat.
Dupedster
Duped,
hi, I’m not sleeping either tonight. Bummer cuz I’m supposed to get up early tomorrow.
You mentioned the word “sacred”, so I had to respond.
When I first realized the connection between my spath’s need to murder me and his hatred for his mother, I began to research violence. (he had told me, “you remind me of my mother” even though I’m petite, brown haired, brown eyed and his mom was an obese, red-haired, german woman. WTF?) My research led me to a book, “Violence and the Sacred” by Rene Girard.
Here is a book that explains how the spaths think and why they are filled with envy. It’s funny because it was never meant to be that, but it still fills that role.
http://kuleuven.academia.edu/FrederiekDepoortere/Papers/194014/Violence_and_the_Sacred_Rene_Girard_Revisited
Once his basic needs are satisfied (indeed, sometimes even before), man is subject to intense
desires, though he may not know precisely for what. The reason is that he desires being,
something he himself lacks and which some other person seems to possess. The subject thus
looks to that other person to inform him of what he should desire in order to acquire that being.
If the model, who is apparently already endowed with superior being, desires some object, the
object must surely be able of conferring an even greater plenitude of being. It is not through
words, therefore, but by the example of his own desire that the model conveys to the subject the
supreme desirability of the object (VS 155).
sky – you may be interested in this: http://www.cbc.ca/podcasting/includes/strangeanimal.xml
thanks OneJoy,
I’ll check it out. You’re up late tonight. me too. fading fast though.
I’m not above emotion. But I’m very aware of how emotion makes us sheeple. It’s a matter of over riding that and being above that. I’ve accomplished it a few times. It’s amazing when I did it. Really. It’s not about living well. It’s more effective when we just laugh at the spaths. Not a fake laugh, it has to be real. You have to find humor in the evil clowns. They are infants and comical in that way.
Here’s the trick though. When you laugh at them, you have to laugh at yourself. We are all human, they are just more warped than we are. Laughing at them means acknowledging that “there but for the grace of God go I.”
Casey Anthony will find Karma. I too also suffered personally at the hands of the Florida Court System. Despite filing for divorce and restraining orders 4 (four) times, because he is so good and because he is also a Vet, I should have asked for a divorce from the most powerful and wealthiest person on earth.
Every time I was in court it was like being in court with the 3 monkeys. You know, the ones who are deaf, dumb and blind?!
Aslo I had additional trouble and lost all of my inheritance, which the kids and I could surely use, because my father, after suffering majors effcts from a stroke, signed a “legal” will and Legal Aide does not take probate, and I am poor. Also despite the extremely large bar complaint file on this person, there was no way to beat the good old boys club. You see my ex spath stole 150,000.00 from the trust and since he has no income except SSDI and SS, he is judgement proof, as is Casey Anthony, by the way. Since my share of the trust is income, I am forced to pay 1200.00 four times a year, quarterly as ordered by the court and at age 62 I will never see a dime of that money.
So screwed, used and massively abused, I lay dead and dying at the hands of the Florida Court System…………..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am sadly having to “share”….LOL expenses with my now ex spath as he hunted us down and we are stuck together in this house. Without a income and monies to move and make a some what little life for me and my adult kids, my youngest who is sticking by me, without that inheritance I have nothing. I am sure the stress, from what I am having to pay of the household bills, will kill me long before it is my time to go. Add to that a doctor who is some what less than adequate and a medical system that is getting just as screwed up as the legal system.
I remain, your in horror….peggy2176il
hi sky – i fell alseep with the computer on my lap, went to bed and coulnd’t sleep. so came to lf and wrote a couple of posts and fell asleep the computer on my lap again!. seems it’s my ‘woobie’.
i think what you are speaking of is actually compassion – to laugh at but not be above them, recognizing that a slight twist of DNA and there we would be. that is compassion. my buddhist teacher teaches that there are three things to do in cases when people do not behave the way we like (in escalating order of how difficult we find them): ignore the behaviour, recognize that living as them for one moment must be hell, run like f***. (to paraphrase. ;))
when you do what you have managed a few times you are right with yourself (and some may say, right with god) – you understand what you are dealing with and the right way to deal with it – without anger. understanding the true reasons for something (why they and why us and why anything) is considered to be the antidote to anger in Vajrayana buddhist teachings. (you and star have got me talking about buddhism here, and all i can say is thank you.)
but i do know that your emos scare you. that their world is overwhelming for you – so i would never want you to be above emotion. i would wish for you that you are standing with them, and recognizing their power and their gift, and letting them be part of your solar system. we grow scared of them because they have been abused and manipulated, suppressed, repressed, denied, dismissed – and a dozen more things that make them look and act like mutants. but they aren’t. they are no spaths; they are the abused kids who grow up strange. they can be healed.
you’ve seen the dynamic when any of us brings our ‘uglies’ here – we are full of trpidation that someone is going to say – EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWw, and not accept the feelings and us. because we are not in right relationship with our poor maligned emos (like dogs kept in crates, in to dark rooms, and not allowed to grow up and become socialized at the dog park, and learn to sit when necessary and be goofballs and hog the kong) we think they ARE us. They are damaged, ergo… But they are not us; but we havethem, and they are tools and quite effective ones when in good shape.
now i have to run. and go get me some infrared sauna.
peggy2176il,
I feel badly for you and your children, having experienced unbelievable betrayals (by the one person that you should be able to trust wholeheartedly). Believe me when I say, that I have lived through some of the SAME things (eg. the spath stole my money, jewelry, etc.), as you, so I know what you’re talking about. I remember when the spath and I were still together, I said to him, “boy, it goes from bad to worse,” the non-stop problems (courtesy of his low-life mentality). These people create problems galore, but oftentimes fail to “fix” the messes that they generate. Sometimes, I will say to myself, “if this were my last day on earth, do I want to spend it thinking about the spath?” No, so I make an effort to get him out of my head and enjoy my life. All I can say is the worst has happened to you, feeling badly that you received such mistreatment (you didn’t deserve any of it). You’re definitely a wiser person compared to the rest of humanity (I know, a small comfort). I just pray that over time, things come together for you, using this time to heal (putting yourself at the top of the list), recovering (the best that you know how) from the things that you’ve suffered.