Psychology Today on how to spot a narcissist

A Lovefraud reader informs us that the current issue of Psychology Today features an article about narcissists—how they behave, and how to detect them. It’s an interesting article, because narcissism is a component of sociopathy. All sociopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are sociopaths.

Read How to spot a narcissist, on PsychologyToday.com.

Note: The article quotes the theories of a researcher named Peter Jonason, among others. Lovefraud has written about Jonason’s ideas before—I don’t agree with them. You can read it here:

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OX Drover, my daughter is having councellling arranged by the school…I think she is sociopathic but the councellors dont like those labels and think Im being OTT&paranoid.of course I know where the blame for her character lies..and its not him,,its me, I knew in my heart, and I had been warned here and by others, I chose to continue…to my regret, I lose a lot of sleep about that.
Superkid…yea..defintely, Ive fallen off the wagon twice now..But this time I understand the reason I do.I understand myself more now. I also undertsand him, he is utterly repugnant with no redeeming features at all.
In the end, although I had always craved his love, attention I loathed him touching me. something had died that had never died before…my pathetic desire to be loved by him to the point of humiliating myself..he knew this..he often would say eh could tell I didnt love him or want him as I did…and he was right, but I would say he was wrong…just to keep the peace.

You know what trait pisses me most/The gaslighting…At first I used to fall for the crap, I actually thought maybe I was mad and had been the one to kick it off…I used to try and please him and creep in to his good books, which only made the situation worse…cos he then expected my compliance and would act out worse to get it..
He never ever thought I would turn off, that I would be the one to end it…and even now he thinks he will get back in…my fault again.why wouldnt he think it?
The best thing I ever read here was ‘ past behaviour is a good indicator of future behaviour…oh hindsight is a wonderful thing!

I’m sorry for your pain but glad you are getting better.

It’s true that past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior. That’s why spaths always say, “that’s in the past. Why do you always have to bring up the past?”

They know it’s true too.

So when we stop behaving like we used to, because we finally grow up, they don’t get it. Since they never change, they can’t stand the fact that we can change. That’s enrages them and makes them dangerous. Be careful.


oh muldoon…your posts just punched me in the heart. please please please stay away from him.

muldoon – I would think most of us understand why you went back..but you are free again please take care of yourself..get him out of your life, he is a cancer that will slowly destroy you…

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