Much of the United States erupted in outrage at the news that Casey Anthony was acquitted of murder. Bloggers and citizens asked: What was wrong with the jury? Couldn’t these 12 people see through her lies? Even if they had been sequestered for the trial, the media had been reporting her loose relationship with truth for years.
Read Casey Anthony’s top 10 alleged lies on Investigation Discovery.
Lies, however, do not prove that Anthony committed murder. Even Wendy Murphy, the feminist lawyer who vociferously supports battered mothers and abused children, predicted that Casey Anthony would walk. Why? The prosecution did not have proof, beyond a reasonable doubt, that she committed the crime.
Read Wendy Murphy: Why Casey Anthony will be acquitted, on PatriotLedger.com.
Psychologists have had a field day with the case. The Psychology Today website has 17 posts, by various experts, on the topic. They’ve covered many aspects of the case, including Why do moms kill? and The science of jury selection.
Visit Not Guilty: The case of Casey on PsychologyToday.com.
Lovefraud readers are probably in agreement that Casey Anthony is somewhere on the narcissist-sociopath-psychopath scale. How did she get that way? She had to inherit the genetics from somewhere in her family tree. Then, since the origin of sociopathy is a mixture of genetic and environmental factors, her dysfunctional family probably played a role in the development of the disorder. Maybe she was, as the defense claimed, abused by her father.
In the end, we don’t know how Casey Anthony acquired her sociopathic traits. But I am fairly confident in predicting that at some point, because of her sociopathy, Casey Anthony will crash and burn.
Sociopaths as failures
As a group, sociopaths tend to be failures. They end up with health issues, financial problems and legal problems. They usually die sooner than people who are not personality disordered.
Just this week, I’ve received news about three of our True Lovefraud Stories:
James Montgomery: My ex-husband, who now lives in Australia, tried to hook up with a woman a few years ago and invited her to visit him. She did, and was not impressed. When he fell asleep on the couch, she snuck away and never talked to him again. The woman just saw Montgomery at a train station and reports, “He’s the size of an elephant, has a long white beard and dresses like a hippie.” So much for the guy who promised me that we’d be living “in the lap of luxury.”
Brian Ellington: I hear about this guy more than anyone else profiled on Lovefraud. The most recent news is that he was arrested again in New York City on June 11, 2011. The charges: drug possession with intent to distribute.
Anthony Owens: A commenter submitted this to the “Fight Bigamy” blog: “Bishop Anthony Owens passed away in a hospital on Tuesday, July 05, 2011 in a hospital in Memphis, TN. Funeral services is incomplete at this time.” Anthony Owens was not yet 40 years old.
So although sociopaths have highly inflated opinions of themselves, usually the charade falls apart. I’m sure that sooner or later, Casey Anthony will screw up on a large enough scale to put her out of circulation. Even sociopaths who skated for a long time eventually failed. Look at O.J. Simpson. Look at Bernie Madoff.
I would just like to seem them fail sooner, and with less collateral damage to the rest of us.
UPDATE 7/15/11:
Just got more information on exactly how James Montgomery was “dressed as a hippie.” Apparently there are hippie communes where Montgomery now lives in Australia, and my source speculates that he has joined one because that’s the only way he can afford to live. Here’s what she said:
He was wearing: red/orange pants, hippie sandles, caftan like long top to ankles in multiple colours, big round glasses with pink lenses, long scarf draped around his neck and over his shoulder nearly touching the ground and a hat which looked like a beanie. A long white beard probably about 12/15inches long and I would say weighing about 150 to 175 kilos or more (330 to 385 pounds). Imagine a man 6ft 2ins tall 175 kgs and wearing that get up!!!
So sorry Melly
That last statement hits home (It’s not who I am, but more who I’ve become)
They are the ones that are damaged but leave us feeling like damaged goods, and how do we not carry that into our next relationship…
our own defence mechanism adds to the Toxic mix toward the end, If it looks like a train wreck….and son of a gun if its not slow motion too, if we were dumped into that situation none of us would have stayed but it creeps up around us slowly…..
Melly,
I’m so sorry you ended up with a spath.
You are thinking about the good times as though they are real, but they aren’t. Spaths put up a front whenever they think you are slipping away from them with some of your sanity. If you need proof, I’ll tell you what to do: let go of your sanity. You’ll see how fast he lets go of you. He is only nice to you while you have something left to salvage your life. Seriously, tell him you can’t work anymore, or have a nervous breakdown, or anything that makes you worth less to him and you’ll see. The spaths will take any amount of drama and MAGNIFY IT.
The reason I’m saying these things to you is because I can see that you are still waffling about leaving him. Your emotions are still tied up in some of the fantasy. Do whatever you have to do to sever the emotions that are keeping you there. Make the REAL him come out by dropping any use you are to him. When the REAL spath reveals itself, you won’t have any trouble leaving him. Just be careful, he might decide to kill you, they have no limits. Not trying to scare you, just trying to keep you grounded in reality. This is a reality none of us ever really believed existed, but now we’re awake to it. I wish there was someway I could go back to sleep, but it isn’t going to happen.
Dear Melly,
You are describing a PERFECT PORTRAIT OF A PSYCHOPATH…it is (to his mind) ALL your fault…..none of it is his fault.
I’m not sure if you know his family or not, but my “perfect family” is a hot bed of psychopaths who just APPEAR PERFECT to others, but in reality are PREDATORS….some have lost their masks, in fact, my P son is in prison…..and I’ve caught my “saintly” mother lying through her teeth….
RUN!!!!!! AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE but do not let him know in advance that you intend to run. Go to a shelter, or live in a tent, but GET OUT!!!!!
I literally had to flee my home from my own “perfect” family, who painted me to the rest of the extended family and the neighbors as a CRAZY person….but I am SAFE now and happy and healthy. Don’t stay with anyone who treats you poorly! (((hugs))) and God bless.
EB, Good on you GF! Great!!! That wasn’t a lie in any of it, it was DIS-information. LOL ROTFLMAO Yep, great stuff!
What ya wanna bet that she tells X every word you said? She may not intend to, but he will worm it out of her, don’t ya bet? LOL
Well, I had a great 3 days with my husband’s grandkids and their two kids…son D was at camp and we went out to visit with him….and, believe it or not, I invited son C to dinner the one night they had here….I had actually forgotten to tell him they were coming, but when they got here they wanted to see him, so I called him (his phone didn’t answer, and guess what….I didn’t have the number….though he swore to me he had changed it a year and a half ago and he had given me the new number—-the last time I tried to contact him by phone it did the same thing and I sent him an e mail about it and he couldn’t understand why it wouldn’t get through. He did NOT give me the new number then. Well, I have it now though)
After dinner he said to me “thanks for letting me eat dinner in your home.” MY grandson said “WHAT? Thanks for letting me eat dinner in your home?” My son C said “Yea, if she doesn’t like you, you don’t eat here”….then I missed some of the words (I’m deaf) and he said something about “lying” and he had been 35 when he learned not to lie to me” and I did hear that and I said, “Yea, but it was age 40 (last year) when you learned not to lie to me.” He didn’t say anything but I could see he got the message.
Anyway, we had a pleasant evening for about 3 hours and then he went home. And believe it or not, I wasn’t upset with him being here….it was sort of like the “drama queen” wife of our friend….not that I would ever trust her, but I’ve gotten to the point that I can be in the same room with her (or son C) and not get an adrenaline rush or feel majorly stressed. I’m reaching the NIRVANA OF INDIFFERENCE. Now, that is an accomplishment I am proud of. I just really don’t give a big rat’s behind but there is NO trust and will never be any trust.
I’ve often thought of doing exactly that skylar. The mere mention of my leaving my well paying job freaks him out. In fact he told me the other day when I mentioned that after 7 years of being together and living together for 2 years, I think we need to sell his house and buy something together… take that step forward. My response was, “Well you need to start working full time”. Mind you, I have no problems with working full time, I choose to work part time now because of the large responsibility I have of maintaining that household, travelling every second weekend with my son to Sydney so he can see his biological father, and for the flexibility of being a Mum to my 9 year old and a step mum to his 3 boys (all under the age of 11 mind you). I thought by being able to be there of an afternoon to pick the kids up and do the cooking, washing etc..it would help the family unit. But some weeks I feel as though I need to be Wonder Woman just to stay of top of everything. Lol.. I had to have a giggle 2 weeks ago because my partner fell ill with the flu…well of course he was dying and was bed ridden for 3 days. I made him soup, looked after him etc…them of course when I caught the same flu a few days later, his reaction was…I was milking it. Evidently it was a sinister flu and I was rather sick, especially since my asthma plays up when I have chesty flu’s. I felt as though I was ‘bothering’ him and annoying him because it was inconvenient to him that I was sick. He would say things like, “I know what its like Mel, I had the same thing, I was this and I was that…” Me me me all the time! So basically right now, if he should even consider buying in with me, I need to get off my butt and get a full time job, as he put it. Where do I schedule that in to my already very busy life style?
I really do feel for everyone on here who is experiencing this sort of lifestlye! Is there anyone out there who has crossed the warzone and is finally at the end of the tunnel? Is it hard to work through once they are out of your life for good? Is it a huge weight off your shoulders? Can you breathe properly again? One can only pray that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that this does not cause too much permenant damage for a happy life in the future.
I still can’t fathom that people are capable of such behaviour. Listening to all your stories is a huge help for me in getting a grip on reality. He is Mr Wonderful atm and wants to buy me a diamond ring. This was a result of his big work promotion the other day. Naturally he is feeling good about himself so allows for me to join in on that…but in the back of my mind I say, “for how long?” This isn’t the first time he has promised me a diamond ring…lol… He has even proposed on 2 occasions in the past! Nothing ever comes of it though. Without a doubt that is probably a good thing though! My guardian angel must be watching over me! Finger crossed x You’re definately ‘spot on the mark’ Skylar when you say, “Spaths put up a front whenever they think you are slipping away from them with some of your sanity.” That is so utterly true! Thanks again guys…every bit of advice makes me that little bit stronger to see things for what i ‘fear’ they really are x o
Tonight is a VERY LOW night for me!
I just read the Supreme Courts Ruling about ex Spaths Drug case……It was published today.
HE GOT OFF! Period….done…..OFF!
Now…..let’s all watch the invincible spath get inflated balls and start his shiat right back up at us (because , in his mind….he Beat the Supreme Court)…….My convo with his mother yesterday now has NEW meaning…….I am concerned!
FRICK!
Since nobodys’ around to chat……I’m using my energy to do a ‘media’ blitz……..
Congressmen are already being quoted in the news on this case, and a new bill in regards to spaths technicality loophole is being looked into.
So…..if spath’s not gonna be put on trial…..he may as well be ‘well’ known for his slick move in the State Supreme Court and WHY the legislation may be changed!
It still doesn’t NEGATE the fact he had the drugs in his vehicle!!!!!
EB,
I’m up. I get it. I’m familiar with that technicality.
The thing is, you have to look at the bigger picture. This is spath on spath crime. Cops are spaths, your ex is a spath. Cops used to pull me over all the time, at the behest of my exP and tell me that I had crossed the white line. If I’d known about that caselaw, I would have gone to court and pulverized them. (BTW, I did not cross the white line, but they don’t care)
The world is full of spaths and cops and judges and lawyers are just as bad as our exP’s or worse. It’s really really sickening out there. BTW, have you considered filing suit on your mortgage company? Most foreclosures are illegal. My BF has helped his friend out of a foreclosure because of the way that the mortgages are being sliced, diced and lost. So far, the sheriff has not shown up to kick the kid out. A lawyer is the next step and he’s going to get one that is familiar with this.
I just read that BofA is adjusting the principal owed on many mortgages for people who are NOT in foreclosure. 50% off principal owed. That is so messed up. They are picking and choosing the people who owe the most and don’t miss payments to readjust the principal owed to 50%. Nobody had to hire lawyers. they just did it. Lots of shady shit going down and our murdering, child molesting, drug dealing spaths are just tip of the icebergs.
I’m sickened!
But…..there IS a reason for this.
It’s gonna get ‘bigger’…..they will be enacting a new bill…..and his name in reference to this case will make headlines……so he will forever be ‘married’ to this drug charge. He’ll love it- relish in it….but he won’t know just how this will haunt him.
If this ruling hadn’t come in this way…..I believe he would have been sunk!
I’m curious when he’ll file suit against the state for monetary damages…….this cost him a pretty penny to take a case to the State Supreme court! along with the drugs they confiscated!
He’s proly 150-200K in. At least he’s lost that! But…..nothing another drug sale can’t replenish!